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Why is it so hard to find a relationship working Night Shift?

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Yeah Im in a less than sober mood myself. i should probably log off here!

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I haven't even had any drinks. lol Martini Monday is a week and a half away though. I will have to make sure I don't have access to a computer that night!

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Yeah, when I was newly wed I vowed to NEVER work nights. Working nights is not my thing anyway. But now that I'm single ( besides my current BF) I can do it if I had no other options. We don't live together and besides we aren't married ( yet) so he has no say.

Good luck with finding a relationship. Its hard finding a good relationship period.

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Being in a relationship with someone with a stereotypical M-F 9-5 job can be a challenge. I worked straight nights over the summer and me and my boyfriend made it work. It is made easier because we live together and we live super close to both of our jobs so I come home from night shift and he's awake getting ready for work. Also, I would only do 2-3 nights a week. For those that still do 8hr shifts, I can't imagine working 5 8hr night shifts and trying to date.

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When I met my hubby, his friends and my friends were night people. Nobody was a nurse at the time either. There was a wide variety of jobs too. My hubby was introduced to me by his roomate, a co-worker of mine.

It is easy to find this type of people in a city that has a lot of 24/7 type business's.

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Thanks All! I will definitely keep looking for the night crawlers like me! :cool: Or just keep on the look out

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my husband, who is a real romantic, made it work when we were dating and i worked 7pm-7am. he didn't begin teaching until 11:00 3x a week and until noon on the other two. i worked about a half hour's drive from where we both lived.

he'd often surprise me in the parking lot with a picnic basket containing breakfast or even with pancakes and sausages from the golden arches. in snowy weather, he'd be waiting in my apartment

with my kitchen table set or later on in our relationship, with a meal set up on a blanket on my bed.

that way, after my shower, (which was before breakfast!) i could just crash while he corrected papers, prepared for class, etc.

if we ended up with two cars at the state hospital's parking lot, he'd take me to work and pick up one car, if necessary.

evenings on my off days, we did what we wanted most days.

we received, as a wedding gift, a heart-shaped picnic basket which was outfitted with plates, flatware, wine glasses,

refrigerator dishes, cold packs, napkins that match the lining of the basket, and a cork crew/bottle opener combination.

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Working night shift has made it so hard trying to find relationship! :devil: I have tried to hold a relationship, but it does not last long due to me wanting to keep my night shift schedule....I like night shift! Why is it such a big deal!?! It is only 3 nights a week, and I love my JOB!:rolleyes:

How many others are having a hard time finding or keeping a relationship while working nights?

Stay single and enjoy your free-bound lifestyle. A relationship has it's way of finding you, if you go out constantly looking for a +1 then you're going to be setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment and heartbreak. If you are comfortable and content being single the guys will flock your way, trust me. Try to keep in mind that the only thing worse than being alone is wishing you were alone.

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Working night shift has made it so hard trying to find relationship! :devil: I have tried to hold a relationship, but it does not last long due to me wanting to keep my night shift schedule....I like night shift! Why is it such a big deal!?! It is only 3 nights a week, and I love my JOB!:rolleyes:

How many others are having a hard time finding or keeping a relationship while working nights?

Depends on what you're working with :)

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I wouldn't want to date someone who worked rotating shifts because after a long shift, I want to come home and cuddle/be cuddled. If the dude worked my hours, we'd never see one another. I guess that could be good in "some" ways.

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Working night shift has made it so hard trying to find relationship! :devil:

Well, I don't work night shift. I work days - for now, I got Fri- Mon. early in the AM and forces me to get up at 4 AM!! For now, I have Fri -Mon. and it changes to other days. No plans on weekends and dead tired after work. Yes, I'm usually lights out by 9PM. Four days in a row and anywhere from 40 to 50 hours a week (for now). Oh yea, Tue/Wed. are gone on some weeks. Pretty soon, it's going to change to 60 and NO, I'm not looking to that. Mandatory overtime sucks.

Today, I volunteered to go home early (Yay). I figured I deserve a break. I treated my brother out to lunch today, since I owe him one. I was thinking of going shopping for a bit, but just tired from work and pretty soon -- I'm going to have to log off and look forward to working again. Ahuh, but I guess I should be thankful that I AM working. But, I swear, I just hate it when employers have the upper hand. I wish I had a set schedule, so far, adjusting is such a pain - in the a***. I like to work, but I don't like it when work takes over my life. Sheesh.

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There is this belief that if something is kismet, it will happen; no matter what it will happen.

There is also the belief that when one stops looking for something they want, they find it.

Case in point: I had been separated from my EX (before she was my Ex) for one year. Being a reasonably healthy 49 year old asocial Male who worked, and stayed, on a MN schedule, I had given up any prospect of ever having a lucrative relationship with a Woman.

Lo and behold, I met Belinda who worked the Psych side after being pulled from the Medical side for four hours one night. I was instantly attracted to her. So much that I let her know before she left the Unit, and asked her to call me.

I could go into great detail about the progression of the relationship and the chances of this situation occurring and such, but want to drive home the point that what is meant to be will be. As Wayne Dyer said, "Seemingly unrelated events brought you to this moment". Think about that.

Dave

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