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Should a victim of sexual assault be told to come foward earlier?

  1. 1. Should a victim of sexual assault be told to come foward earlier?

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What crawls?

What crawls out of the woodwork beyond cockroaches, ants, rodents, and other pests?

It is difficult to believe that you were/are completely unaware of the derogatory nature of that phrase.

Perhaps some cultural sensitivity training might help you to appreciate the negative nature of your word choice.

Since retiring I only attend parties or meetings at my hospital when invited. It's been about two or three times a year.

Often someone jokes, "Look who came out of the woodwork" when thy see me there.

I think it is a humorous way to say "Long time. No see." or a mention that we don't see each other often.

I think it appropriate to say to someone we know well. Probably not as welcome from someone we don't get along with well or someone we don't know well.

"out of the woodwork" definition

Emerging from obscurity or a place of seclusion. It often is put as come (or crawl) out of the woodwork, as in The candidates for this job were coming out of the woodwork. The expression alludes to insects crawling out of the interior wooden fittings of a house, such as baseboards and moldings. [Colloquial; mid-1900s]

Out of the woodwork | Define Out of the woodwork at Dictionary.com

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Hi CBlover! Just as an aside, for some reason I always read you name as Clover, but I suppose it refers to a radio?

Anyway, I am curious what qualities you would "love" in a female president? And do you have any potential candidates in mind that you could support?

I for one, would look for someone who has experience in government and a good grasp of the Constitution. And who has a good track record of working with a variety of people, organizations and other countries.

I just think a woman President would be a nice change. To be honest, I'm afraid if I voice who I would like to see as a female President I would get ripped on here. I'm a traditionalist. And as you stated I would definitely want female Pres with a good grasp of the Constitution, but I think a female veteran would also be a good quality.

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In your opinion, "the hate runs deep" with me.

I do not know why you felt the need to comment. Particularly since your comment offers nothing to refute my remarks and served only to provide the platform for you to critique me personally.

This comment is very ironic!

I think that people see the world differently. I think that is OK. I think that it is good for people who disagree with each other to have conversations where each will hear different ideas and maybe learn a little from each other, thus making it a better place for everyone.

You asked on a different thread why conseratives/reps don't have much participation on the political side of AN and stated it must be because they are "embarrassed". That is not the reason.

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This comment is very ironic!

I think that people see the world differently. I think that is OK. I think that it is good for people who disagree with each other to have conversations where each will hear different ideas and maybe learn a little from each other, thus making it a better place for everyone.

You asked on a different thread why conseratives/reps don't have much participation on the political side of AN and stated it must be because they are "embarrassed". That is not the reason.

I guess that the reason must be a mystery.

It doesn't really matter.

We get to read the canned conservative messaging in a wide variety of places. That means that the rhetoric most often shared by Trump conservatives is scripted from but a few sources, thinkers, and authors. It is rare to get anything beyond party approved messaging.

What matters is that we have a group of old men in control of the majority of our government who are not representative of the majority.

What matters is that those who support that current leadership have a very difficult time defending the ideals and actions of those people that they vote for.

What matters is that those conservative vouces disappear once they discover that the partisan propaganda they offer as evidence of some point will not be blindly accepted as true.

What matters is that persistent discussion of facts results in the loss of conservative voices in these threads.

It would appear that moderated forums aren't even safe enough spaces for conservative posters.

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Victim blaming, and the facts

... One reason people blame a victim is to distance themselves from an unpleasant occurrence and thereby confirm their own invulnerability to the risk.

By labeling or accusing the victim, others can see the victim as different from themselves.

People reassure themselves by thinking, "Because I am not like her, because I do not do that, this would never happen to me."

We need to help people understand that this is not a helpful reaction...

Rape Culture, Victim Blaming, and The Facts

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I like Senator Tammy Duckworth.

I also really like Kamala Harris.

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I guess that the reason must be a mystery.

It doesn't really matter.

We get to read the canned conservative messaging in a wide variety of places. That means that the rhetoric most often shared by Trump conservatives is scripted from but a few sources, thinkers, and authors. It is rare to get anything beyond party approved messaging.

What matters is that we have a group of old men in control of the majority of our government who are not representative of the majority.

What matters is that those who support that current leadership have a very difficult time defending the ideals and actions of those people that they vote for.

What matters is that those conservative vouces disappear once they discover that the partisan propaganda they offer as evidence of some point will not be blindly accepted as true.

What matters is that persistent discussion of facts results in the loss of conservative voices in these threads.

It would appear that moderated forums aren't even safe enough spaces for conservative posters.

While I appreciate your attempt at solving the mystery the reasons you state are not the reasons either, and it does matter.

Here again is your original post to me (in italics):

"What crawls?

What crawls out of the woodwork beyond cockroaches, ants, rodents, and other pests?

It is difficult to believe that you were/are completely unaware of the derogatory nature of that phrase.

Perhaps some cultural sensitivity training might help you to appreciate the negative nature of your word choice."

I can't understand why you felt the need to write such a snarky post at all but especially after I had already made a post prior (to the poster that I was referring to, which you knew was not you) clarifying and apologizing, stating I meant no ill will toward that poster.

Since you didn't like my explanation (to you after your post) as to why you would write such a post please feel free to explain and give your reason.

And, it is funny what you say about conservatives blindly accepting propaganda, statements being scripted etc., because that is exactly how conservatives feel about Democrats/liberals.

That is why we should all want to keep the door of communication open, to further positive conversation and sharing of ideas, that is how issues/problems/differences get solved.

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I attended a small demonstration on Sunday sponsored by a local student action group. One of the speakers spoke about how often false accusations are made about sexual assault, the figure is estimated to be between 2 and 10%, while as many as 63% of assaults go unreported.

https://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/Publications_NSVRC_Overview_False-Reporting.pdf

Why are the victims always blamed? Because it works.

I fear this current story is going to tell victims it is futile to report. Ugh.

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I know I learned in 1991, that women's voices don't matter.

I was reminded once again of that fact during the 2016 presidential campaign.

If anything, the Kavanaugh situation should be a reminder that the Republican party is led by emotional, out-of-control, White males.

Seriously, Lindsey Graham was snarling.

Ted Cruz, couldn't stop apologizing to Kavanaugh.

The bro-fest was sickening.

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