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Who "wears the pants" in your relationship and why?

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It really depends. I handle all the finances and have for the past 12 years we have been together although he has been pretty much the only one to make the money. (I have worked here and there but that was my money and a whole other post)

But I am the computer person and I pay all the bills online and if I let him take over on the bills they would be late every month, he can't seem to remember to do anything. It has caused many fights though because when we are broke he will think it's my fault since I am in charge of the money.

I pull up the bank account and show him how all his purchases add up and he will usually than see we both contribute to bad spending habits.

Anyway, big purchases like cars and stuff he wears the pants. Just because I allow him for now and I haven't had any problems with the cars he gets.

I can't really say one of us has more control in an overall sense. We both pretty much get what we want at the end of the day.

He is the only money maker so I think when times are bad in the relationship he ultimately wears the pants because he knows he holds that over me. That will soon be changing too though.

Their are things that are "man" jobs, and "woman" jobs, in our household and I am ok with that too. Not that I am not capable of doing them or him doing them but it works for us. I shop, he brings in the bags ;) LOL

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I control the single most important thing in my husband's life, so that kinda puts me in charge.... doesn't it? ;)

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With my fiance` I would have to say we share the pants. Depends on the task but decisions are made together. As far as my son goes though I still have a hard time.....since she is the step mom to be....when we disagree I tend to take the reins and do the --"well he is my son" thing. Not good I know but.....lol.

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I do.

And until he starts contributing, he can take a backseat.

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I do. But the big decisions I always run it by him. I pay the bills and buy groceries. He buys his toys and puts the grocery's up I buy my clothes and cook. We have a pretty good 50/50 thing going. It has worked for 25 yrs so I think I will keep it.

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I usually make the decisions. The most wonderful thing he ever said to me was, "I know that whatever decision you make will be in the best interest of all of us. I trust you." It doesn't get much better than that. :)

He is my rock, although he denies that I need him that much, and he insists that I'm his rock. Whenever I feel really stressed out, the best place in the world for me to be is in his arms. Everything is all right when I'm there, if just for a little while. :heartbeat

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Oh, my hubby wears the pants; I have to force them over his legs and backside, but I MAKE him wear them :D

I also make him wear socks that match, and I DO NOT allow him to carry on wearing them until they're walking off his feet of their own accord.

Seriously, I am the decision-maker, by default. I encourage hubby to take responsibility, but he appears to be constitutionally incapable of making up his own mind. I compromise by making decisions, then debating the pros and cons with him, and eventually do exactly what I have decided by mutual agreement. It's a difficult balancing act.

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Just curious about other's relationships and who "wears the pants" (who makes the decisions, etc.) My fiance's mother wears the pants in her family, can't really put my finger on why. My fiance yesterday said "you're the one who wears the pants!" i was a little taken aback! it's probably because he has a very shy personality, and my sweet fiance doesn't share his opinions as much as i'd like him too. he is just very laid back and accepting. for example: Me- "Where do u wanna eat tonight?" Him- "i don't know" Me-"Well i want you to pick this time. What are you in the mood for?" Him- "i don't know, you pick" This is basically the situation for EVERYTHING. from what apartment we choose to what color i paint the walls. i wear the pants because my fiance has no opinions.

:lol2:

:o

My fiancee is the exact same way

im outspoken enough for the both of us lol

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I am that way, and it is NOT because I don't have an opinion, (but then again I am not SHY either)

ACTUALLY, I state my opinion quite vocally WHEN it is something that matters to me, like family get togethers, holidays, what car I drive, BUT if I have no preference why shouldn't I say "I don't care", because truly I don't have a preference abt what we eat or don't eat or the color a wall is painted. They are just not big things in my eyes, so let whoever has some type of preference do the choosing.

Thanks:redpinkhe

Nita

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Here's a funny quote:

It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.

:lol2:

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