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I think it's an insult to people that are truly bullied when someone thinks that "being mean" is bullying.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/blogpost/post/jamey-rodemeyer-bullied-teen-who-made-it-gets-better-video-commits-suicide/2011/09/21/gIQAVVzxkK_blog.html

THAT is bullying. Coming here and someone not agreeing with you? Going to work and one of the nurses never saying "Good morning"? Getting a harder assignment than your coworkers? Going to clinicals and a nurse not being excited to teach you? Someone disagreeing with you on circumcision? Someone telling you that google is your friend when you don't know what "tid" means? THOSE? Not bullying. If you think the torment of someone saying they're not doing your homework for you on a nursing message board is at all equivalent to constantly being called a ***** and that you should ******* die? Then yes, you do need to develop thicker skin and maybe get off the internet and hide in a bunker somewhere.

Should people try to be nice? Probably, most of the time yes. But being nice isn't always saying what you want to hear. Sometimes it's giving a reality check. Sometimes it's bluntly saying, "You're going to kill someone if you continue on that course of action." Sometimes it's saying, "Yes, that dress does make you look fat" before you buy the dress instead of letting you go out in public looking fatter than you are. Sometimes it's giving you what you need instead of what you want.

And sometimes people are mean. And they shouldn't be. But instead of whining that you're being bullied by them, it's generally more productive to just shrug it off. I've got someone at work that treats me a lot worse than some of the complaints I've seen here about coworkers. I used to let it get to me. I could complain that she "bullies" me. But instead, life has gotten easier since I just ignore it. I can let what she says hurt my feelings or ruin my day. Instead I just let it roll off and go on with life. Calling her a bully does nothing except allow me to continue feeling victimized. Ignoring her? I get to move on with life.

Edited by rn/writer
Changed mixed disallowed words to all ***.

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Im not a bully but I say mean things sometimes. I've been warned of my comments. I wont say anything here I'm not willing to say to your face. Some people just get their panties in a wad when you dont say what they want.

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sometimes i wonder if the person is purposefully being a bully or if the person simply does not have the arsenal of vocabulary and poise to respond in a more intelligent manner.
i think so, too. i don't think there is much bullying here at all. but i would define it pretty narrowly as opposed to plain old nastiness, which is abundant. true bullying is done with intention, and the bully goes after the same target repeatedly. i would love it if all our co-workers came equipped with a "report button" though!. :yelclap:

oh yeah, and when i read the title for this post, all i could think about was a backstreet boys poster attacking my head ! :eek:

andy gibb jumped right off my bee gees poster and attempted to give me a noogie. boy was he surprised to find my hair set with orange juice containers so my hair would look just like peggy lipton of the mod squad. (straight, with just a smidgen of poofiness)

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I think we are all guilty of saying mean things. What sparked this thought for me was the treatment of Trekfan when she posts sometimes, and I thought it was worth discussing. Are there very many that I would classify as a bully-absolutely no. Trekfan seems to find them, unfortunately. Some criticize her spelling, but that's not so much a problem. It's those that call her a waste of the system that really peeve me. Thanks for the thoughts!

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Yeah. I hadn't seen that thread. Not OK, and would qualify for the title of bully. Grrrrrrrrr . . . .:mad: What a *******. :uhoh21:

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asterisked my word

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I think we may all have different posts in mind while we are discussing this thread...and unless we were to link the specific posts its sort of hard to make our point. I just REALLY dont get some of the pointless rude comments on here. Im not talking about the 'do your own homework' comments, I can understand those. I'm talking about the posts that don't add anything constructive to the conversation and are just MEAN.

I probably shouldnt let it bother me, because in a post full of wonderful caring advice, the rude comments stick out, and most people form their own opinions of that person.

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most people form their own opinions of that person.

True that. There are a handful here that are rude more often than not, and I always think, "You must be one miserable witch."

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I try to be kind in my posts. Sometimes it seems like some people think everyone is trying their patience on purpose and type accordingly. I try to talk to others the way I would want to be talked to. Just seems kind of common sense like to me. It's sad when others haven't learned that part of the golden rule.

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I think we are all guilty of saying mean things. What sparked this thought for me was the treatment of Trekfan when she posts sometimes, and I thought it was worth discussing. Are there very many that I would classify as a bully-absolutely no. Trekfan seems to find them, unfortunately. Some criticize her spelling, but that's not so much a problem. It's those that call her a waste of the system that really peeve me. Thanks for the thoughts!

I think what got me bent out of shape in that thread was that the primary "attacker" (and yeah- I call it that :)) had no clue about the background, and what was going on.

There are a LOT of people on this site who are going through their own personal xxxx every. single. hour. of. every. single. day. FOR. YEARS.

If you figure 500K+ people being registered here, and say (just a number for example) 50K "regulars"- even if infrequent, there are others who know them from being around here, and of those maybe 10K are going through some sort of chaos in their life....and maybe another 10K who have in the past- there are a LOT of people with a lot going on- or who have come through a lot.

Those who have been fortunate enough to not have a clue about that also need to realize that just because they don't have that frame of reference doesn't make it "untrue" or something to snivel at. Their time just hasn't come. And nobody knows how they will react in a similar situation or what gets someone to the point of being at the end of their rope.

It's SO easy to judge when life is going well. :)

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Although I quite agree that a high level of asshattery was shown, notwithstanding the extenuating circumstances of the OP, it's also rather presumptuous to expect that everyone will refrain from posting something snarky prior to having thoroughly researched the poster. The wholehearted support of what is clearly an exceedingly unrealistic goal stymies me. Dreams are nice, but need we provide fodder for the impossible?

Edited by SuesquatchRN

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