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What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

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hmmmmm.......I'm not sure........I'm already a homosexual vegan non-Christian eco-terrorist male nurse. I've pretty much done my own thing. What the heck do I care about anyone's judgement.

I'll await your answer to see what sort of things you're talking about. :)

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hmmmmm.......I'm not sure........I'm already a homosexual vegan non-Christian eco-terrorist. What the heck do I care about anyone's judgement.

i mean, REALLY now.:yeah::rotfl::yeah:

just perfect, tweety.

leslie

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hmmmmm.......I'm not sure........I'm already a homosexual vegan non-Christian eco-terrorist male nurse. I've pretty much done my own thing. What the heck do I care about anyone's judgement.

I'll await your answer to see what sort of things you're talking about. :)

I enjoyed reading your answer. :smokin:

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I'd be bald. I've had to shave my head for cyst removal surgeries, and lost hair twice with chemo... I like being bald. It's cooler (unlike this dead animal that is stuck to my head now- sheesh....post-chemo hair is a mix of Richard Simmons and Carol Brady :eek: and HOT). If I was at all self conscious (not likely) I'd wear a bandana.... but I went to the store like Telly Savalas' illegitimate offspring. Didn't bother me in the least. I made a shirt that said "chemo-hairapy' :D

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I'd be bald. I've had to shave my head for cyst removal surgeries, and lost hair twice with chemo... I like being bald. It's cooler (unlike this dead animal that is stuck to my head now- sheesh....post-chemo hair is a mix of Richard Simmons and Carol Brady :eek: and HOT). If I was at all self conscious (not likely) I'd wear a bandana.... but I went to the store like Telly Savalas' illegitimate offspring. Didn't bother me in the least. I made a shirt that said "chemo-hairapy' :D

hmmph...reminds me of a business colleague i saw, and he was completely bald. (had never been before).

with a big smile, i asked him, "keeping cool this summer, mr. clean?"

he replied with one word: "cancer".

i responded with, "you wear it well" and gave him a hug.

that was one of the lower points in my life.

so, i don't ask questions r/t baldness, or if a belly-prominent woman, if she's pregnant. :-|

leslie

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hmmph...reminds me of a business colleague i saw, and he was completely bald. (had never been before).

with a big smile, i asked him, "keeping cool this summer, mr. clean?"

he replied with one word: "cancer".

i responded with, "you wear it well" and gave him a hug.

that was one of the lower points in my life.

so, i don't ask questions r/t baldness, or if a belly-prominent woman, if she's pregnant. :-|

leslie

I kind of had a warped sense of humor about it all....The first few times I went to the grocery store, some old ladies looked at me like I was a mutant from some very distant planet. Check out folks would avoid eye contact. Other customers (who weren't sizing me up for a transfer to Roswell, NM- lol) would hurry to get around me. One day, one of the baggers (a young guy) just blurts out "what kind do you have?"- WOW- what a breath of fresh air! Turns out he'd had bone cancer over the past year (he looked good- hair back, so nothing obvious), and hated when people looked around the elephant in the room. We struck up a friendship over the weird parts of chemo- we both craved pickles :D. Had to be Claussen kosher dills- :yeah: Then on the arsenic, anything garlic made me cringe...hard to stock a pantry :)

Every time I see him, we chat; he's doing really well, as am I- from the lab work standpoint...the chemo side effects kick my butt- BUT only another 3 months- a little less- then no more nasty oral chemo :).

BUT, not everybody is open, and that's cool - they're dealing the best they can however it works for them :) The checker that day the bagger asked me (after looking up mortified to see what my reaction was) joined in the conversation about 2 of her sisters who had breast cancer, etc. I painted another t-shirt thanking blood donors. I don't know whose blood I got (I might not be Scandanavian anymore - :D)- but I'm glad a lot of someones were good enough to donate.... I got 25 units of PRBCs and platelets (total, not each).

You handled the situation well- sounds like maybe he was having a bit of trouble that day- I had those days. One big clue is eyebrows. I hadn't thought about that before, and my mom never mentioned it when she lost her hair. My eyebrows fell out over a year ago- and are coming in one at a time. I look like an idiot. :D Richard Simmons-Carol Brady lovechild with about 6 eyebrows on each side- and some are skin color :hhmth: :uhoh3: HA!!!

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I have a nurse friend who has breast cancer and is undergoing treatment . .. .she lost all her hair and wears these gorgeous scarves. She looks beautiful!

I think I'm like Tweety . . . I can't think of anything I'd do differently because I'm a wacko born-again right wing Christian and what the heck do I care about anyone's judgment?

:smokin:

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I would dye my hair blue ;)

Other than that, I have no regrets about my decisions.

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I would dye my hair blue ;)

Other than that, I have no regrets about my decisions.

Oooohhhh blue is so calming:)..... Any spikes, or keep the same style?

I had a kid in drug rehab ask to go to town to get his hair cut (a guy- wanted to look decent- needed resuscitation for the staff :D).... well, then he comes back..... Oy.... he has this unicorn spike thing rising from the top of his head, with enough gel to keep him steady through a cat 5 hurricane. He came into the detox unit to check back in. The only thing I could ask him was "Do you get HBO now?" He found me less than amusing :D

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As much as I enjoy nursing, I'd give up my career in a heartbeat to stay at home and write full-time. :idea:

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As much as I enjoy nursing, I'd give up my career in a heartbeat to stay at home and write full-time. :idea:

Why would anyone judge you if you did that? Most people I would think would be supportive, unless you shucked all responsibility to your family to do so.

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