Jump to content
Pierrette Pierrette (Member)

What It's Really Like to Be 40 (or 50)

Aging   (3,895 Views 51 Comments)
10,186 Visitors; 1,507 Posts
If you find this topic helpful leave a comment.

that was a good article, and i smiled knowingly, throughout it.

i had a wonderful youth, and can reminisce w/o an ounce of regret.

what i considered in my 20's, to having it all, i now know how little i knew.

and so, i can peacefully say 'adieu' to my youth with its great looks, great body, unsurpassed arrogance...

and gratefully embrace my true sense of who i am and what i stand for.

it's funny how looks play such a dormant presence these days.

i now look at my incredibly gorgeous dtr, w/her strut and have-the-world-by-the-balls laissez-faire attitude, and have to smile.

i was her once.

and i don't miss 'her' one bit.

i see the older woman in front of me, and am growing to love this new friend.

it's a discovery process, for sure...

but with ea new line, ea new gray hair, i am becoming the totality of who i want to be.

big difference from 25 yrs ago.

and for that, i am most grateful.

leslie

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Leslie, as usual---you nailed it!!! You put my own feelings in such an articulate way that I don't need to add anything. Beautiful. :bowingpur

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This woman's blog is interesting in that she focuses on the external parts of growing older: not getting hit on by every Tom, Dick, and Harry that we see, choosing to not wear certain clothes because we feel sorta silly in them, etc.

But, what she doesn't really concentrate on--but I know she feels/thinks--is that we don't FEEL older. She writes with such liveliness and vivacity, and that's how I FEEL.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
This woman's blog is interesting in that she focuses on the external parts of growing older: not getting hit on by every Tom, Dick, and Harry that we see, choosing to not wear certain clothes because we feel sorta silly in them, etc.

But, what she doesn't really concentrate on--but I know she feels/thinks--is that we don't FEEL older. She writes with such liveliness and vivacity, and that's how I FEEL.

i remember when i was 22 and my mom was 50, we were sitting at the kitchen table and i asked her how it felt to be 50?

in my 20's, i was much more focused on aging and dreaded it.

i'd notice women in their 30's and making promises to myself, that i will never a, b and c.

but i also felt that i'd be ok if i inherited my mom's genes.

anyways, she shrugged her shoulders and said she felt as she did in her 20's.

now that i am there, sometimes i look at myself and cannot match the chronological age to the mental one.

in many ways, i still feel like that spunky, inexhaustible renegade that doesn't acknowledge any perceived boundaries.

but also, i relate to those much younger, knowing i've been there/done that, and appreciate the now vs then.

when i say i would never want to go back, i mean that wholeheartedly.

as a matter of fact, i actually look forward to the remainder of my life, even knowing that eventually i will deteriorate.

i am often reminded of groucho marx lamenting that there was nothing worse than being a young person in an old person's body (something along those lines).

so far, i do not agree and hope to remain in disagreement.

leslie

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm like you, Les. In a lot of ways, I still think like I did 20-30 years ago. I haven't aged a bit in that respect. Maybe a little wiser with the years, but the "girl" is still there and wants out.........a LOT!! LOL!:clown:

I do feel my body limitations now and I'm accepting it with grace and charm, I think.;)

Sometimes I have to check myself that I'm not a youngun anymore........check myself meaning I enjoy laughing, acting a complete nut sometimes, be the instigator, giggle. In my career, I have to be soooo professional that when the opportunity comes along where I can act like I did years and years ago, I sometimes feel guilty later 'cause I think I acted silly.

But, in my head, I'm a young woman/kid and hope that I never EVER grow up.

Will be interesting to see what I'm going to do when I'm 80. I have a feeling, unless something tragic happens, I will be the exact same girl wanting to get out. All I can say is everyone just better look out. HAHAHAHHA!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Will be interesting to see what I'm going to do when I'm 80. I have a feeling, unless something tragic happens, I will be the exact same girl wanting to get out. All I can say is everyone just better look out. HAHAHAHHA!

we can only get better, siri.

and absolutely nothing wrong with feisty.

if circumstances are such, i would love to share a room w/you at a ltc facility.

we could corrupt the best of them.:lol2:

leslie

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
we can only get better, siri.

and absolutely nothing wrong with feisty.

if circumstances are such, i would love to share a room w/you at a ltc facility.

we could corrupt the best of them.:lol2:

leslie

I'm already making plans for said corruption. HAHAHA!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ahem. Thirtysomething crashing the party for a second....:D

This thread reminds me of 'The Boxer' by Simon & Garfunkel:

"Now the years are rolling by me, they are rocking evenly

And I am older than I once was, younger than I'll be

That's not unusual

Though isn't it strange after changes upon changes

We are more or less the same,

After changes, we are more or less the same."

Edited by ElvishDNP

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

That's quite true, Elvish, and I love that song anyway, so it makes even more sense to me now. And, I'm sure we all appreciate your input, since you are far wiser than your years. :)

I've lived long enough to have pretty much come full circle myself, having strayed far from the belief system I grew up with and returned "home" again in later years. The advantage is, it's my choice this time, in no small part because of my experimentation with different systems over the years. However, it's also tempered by the knowledge that while there are some moral absolutes---and those are non-negotiable in my view---most issues have more than two sides; not everything can be defined as black-and-white, right-or-wrong.

Yes, the more things change, the more they stay the same. :) And the best thing to do is expect change.........it's just about the only thing in life you can count on!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
×