What About Tinder?

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7000 Tinder matches! Is this the way we should arrange our love life?

What About Tinder?

Okay, so I recently came across the following (and yes I know its from 2017) but I'm slow..

Meet the Man with 7000 Tinder Matches

This guy has attained 7000 Tinder matches! Whew he is popular! This is a nursing student in UK. So...takeaways from this:

  1. Nursing students are hot!
  2. Tinder helps nursing students get dates.
  3. Nursing students don't have time to meet others.
  4. Should we all use dating sites?

So, how do we meet people with whom we want to have a relationship?

Does anyone remember personal ads in the newspaper? The first personal ad seeking love was in the 1600's shortly after the first newspaper was published. It was a male looking for a lady. Then in 1727, women got in on this too in a Lonely Hearts Club ad. However, this poor woman was ahead of her time - the mayor of her town had her committed to an insane asylum for this action.

People (both male/female) have used the media of the time (whether that was the newspaper, radio, TV, internet, online) to meet new people and develop relationships.

There have always been people that have been looking for younger partners, ones looking for relationships where they have a common interest, same-sex partners, or partners with distinct expectations. Some folks want short term hook-ups, others want marriage and some want something else.

So...what do you use to meet people? We all know in this day and age of the internet, more technology and less "face-time" this makes meeting people more difficult. And, there are many new options out there to meet people:

Tinder is just one of many dating sites. They are a web-based app that advertises: "meet new and interesting people nearby." They specialize in finding your matches locally, as physically close to you as possible. This is a plus in that it if your match is 500 miles away the chance for a successful relationship decrease as the miles increase.

And who can forget the FarmersOnly.com commercials? Many dating services cater to specific lifestyles and career choices. They offer the chance to browse photos without purchasing a subscription. And their advertising campaigns are memorable. Remember the city girl falling off the horse? The talking cows?

Where do nurses and student nurses go to meet people? Well, I searched and found quite a few sites...some seemingly legit while others quite sketchy and some really nasty (which if I posted would be a terms of service violation). Nurses are a hot commodity for dating services but as nurses we also work 24/7 and weekends sometimes leaving little time for developing relationships.

How do you meet people? Do you use different sites for different situations? How many people do you meet? Is it better to cast the net wider - accepting dates from anyone who find attractive or is it better to screen the list and only accept a select few to meet? How much time do you want to spend on this when time is at a premium?

Maybe we use different resources based on our backgrounds, our ages, what we want in a partner. As we change our focus, are we changing the way we meet people.

And in the end - is online dating wonderful? Or should we revert to more face to face time?

References:

The History of Dating from 1695 to Now

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Mudpinesredneck
by Mudpinesredneck

Tinder seems too "Hook up" ish for me.

My personality? I am a pre nursing student with a passion for helping others. I enjoy working on my cars in my free time. I can spend hours on end doing one of two things: Reading that damn Lippincott book, or mindlessly typing in part numbers and brainstorming how much it will cost me to build my dream SUV.

I listen to anything from Rebel Son (real Redneck"ish" band, I actually met the lead singer) to Suicidal Tendencies to Metallica. I believe in old fashioned relationships. I don't have one night stands, I don't enter relationships for sex. I don't crave sex voraciously like some I know. I am old fashioned. I care the hell less for bling in my vehicles, other than being slap covered in camo 24/7. Drink Budweiser and chew Copenhagen. I can back my trailer around an alleyway faster than you could nose your Prius into a parking spot. People I don't know ask me randomly where Walmart is. Gee, I wonder why? Did my truck on 35 inch mud tires, the camoflauge, or the dip in my lip give it away?

Would a nurse be a match for me? Sure, most of them are beautiful, inside and out. But I also don't make an object out of a woman for her profession.I would date a nurse in a heartbeat. And my resting heart rate is 40, that's1.5 seconds to think.

The question I ask, is how many see the traits I see, of those 7k? Caring soul, alone time, independent in finances, handles stress well, etc? That's what I see in a nurse beyond physical attributes. I've seen gal's at the parts store just as beautiful, physically, as that nurse without the personality attributes.

All that said, I try to narrow it down. I wouldn't want to date a young lady that had the opposite thoughts and opinions. I am who I am. I will not change for anyone.

Personally, I use Match, and have actually seen a few nurses on there, badge and all though.

I find that someone honest to say their rank on the site is good. I'd hate to date an RN and find out she's a CNA. But then again, do you want everyone knowing where you work?

As to nurses being hot, when I worked at the adult store, nursing pornographic genres were stocked more than any genre, other than, err, LGBT stuff? I found that stupid, honestly.

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psychrn4u
by psychrn4u

My personality? I am a pre nursing student with a passion for helping others. I enjoy working on my cars in my free time. I can spend hours on end doing one of two things: Reading that damn Lippincott book, or mindlessly typing in part numbers and brainstorming how much it will cost me to build my dream SUV.

I listen to anything from Rebel Son (real Redneck"ish" band, I actually met the lead singer) to Suicidal Tendencies to Metallica. I believe in old fashioned relationships. I don't have one night stands, I don't enter relationships for sex. I don't crave sex voraciously like some I know. I am old fashioned. I care the hell less for bling in my vehicles, other than being slap covered in camo 24/7. Drink Budweiser and chew Copenhagen. I can back my trailer around an alleyway faster than you could nose your Prius into a parking spot. People I don't know ask me randomly where Walmart is. Gee, I wonder why? Did my truck on 35 inch mud tires, the camoflauge, or the dip in my lip give it away?.

Mud pines - I love this profile can I borrow it? With a little tweaking it would fit a character in a story I am working on.

Psych

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Mudpinesredneck
by Mudpinesredneck

Sure! I can just see the powerpoint

"Today we study the effects and comorbidities of living in a rural area. Now, class, it's not to say that peeing in your front yard screaming MURICA has any health risks. But the stresses of prereq's, mixed with the various oils, transmission fluids, and coolant on this Mudpines guys arm may cause cancer, premature death and more!"

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SDANG
by SDANG

I didn't like Tinder. It definitely seemed like a hookup website. Not for me.

I liked match.com and used that to meet quality men over 10 years ago. I've also used plenty of fish, not quite the quality, but it was free for a long time, so alot of members. Catholic match and Christian cafe didn't produce any dates for me.... The man I'm living with now I actually met on J-Date even though I'm not Jewish ( a friend of mine recommended that I meet a nice Jewish man), but our relationship is not going the way I want to say the least. I may be back on match.com soon, although I may qualify for the OurTime site in less than a year.

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