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Tuesday April 14, 2015

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Good Morning to you all,

 

Glorious rain started yesterday afternoon and has continued although not heavy but that good kinda rain that happily soaks in, still drizzling out there but I am so happy to receive the rain and so are the trees/ plants.

 

Dogs still wanted to go for a walk when I got home from work so off we slogged in the drizzle but it was fun I have to say. LOL

 

Had a great day yesterday with a nursing student and will have another one today as we head off to do the visits then I will have our team meeting this afternoon with our Medical Director. Love that time in sharing and learning about all of our patients. We will then have a staff meeting after that.

 

Hubby had 3 wonderful days off and is looking very relaxed, he is back on call for the next two nights.

 

Hope you all have a most excellent day no matter what you get up to.

 

Much love to you all.

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Morning Sabby

Back at work today. Hopefully things weren't too crazy while I was away. Hopefully I don't have too many voicemails

Went out for a hike yesterday morning, saw dad, then rode my bike in the evening. It's nice that the weather is warm enough that I'm able to do that now.

Plan to go into the office tomorrow, should be interesting we have a new office since I was last in.

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Good morning Sabby, Joe, and those who will follow. (Stars? Leonardsmom? Steph?

Today i drive to Orange county to take my Step Mom to the doctor. She has gotten up alone and not fallen. The staff was upset with her so she is now ringing. Her tax preparer came to the SNF to finish her taxes yesterday.

Tomorrow it's the dentist with husband. I'm available for a 12 hour shift Saturday, but will probably do break relief or go home early if someone has to.

I've been thinking about the fruits that will soon be available. Those pluots, plumcots, and nectarines. I'm looking forward to them.

My Romanesque broccoli is still small. it looks like most cabbage family relatives so far. i've thinned so only have four plans left. They are far apart so I hope at least one plant will have the amazing shapes I saw in the seed catalog.

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Good Afternoon Ladies and Gents!

I am feeling kind of out of sorts today. I hurt for my husband and am mad at his daughter. She has not been over to check on him or visit with him one single time since his surgery nor called more than once. She could call and offer to take him up to her house to see his grand daughters whom he deeply loves and misses. I see him wandering around the house now and then and I think, if it's going to be like this for him the entire six weeks he is recuperating, my heart will break for him. He has done so much for her and her family even when it wasn't convenient at all and he couldn't even afford to, but managed to pull things out of a hat to make things happen for her.I guess in a way that is a parent's job, but she is 40-something years old and is more interested in being self-righteous than compassionate. If it disappoints me this much I can only imagine how it feels to him.

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Understand your frustration about dh's daughter, NSIME.

:(

Are these her true colors, then?

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Understand your frustration about dh's daughter, NSIME.

:(

Are these her true colors, then?

R-E-D-N-E-C-K.

She 'comes by it honest', as the saying goes; she lives less than 1/4 of a mile from her mother and the whole clan. They gossip and huff around and fall in and out with each other so often I stopped keeping track years ago.

I once had hopes for her. I am always nice to her but don't go out of my way anymore. Even her dad says she is just like her mother.

Sad.

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Don't need that extra drama. No way, no how.

Your dh is a sweetie to do all kinds of things for her. Deep down, ya think he knows she is like this?

:(

good he has you! :)

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Yah, he knows. Certainly more now than before. He's talked about how it really hurts him that she is the way she is. If any 'getting together' happens,it's always him going up to see her there at her house. She doesn't put in much effort, though for a while there she would call him every single morning, and even sometimes after work.

But the after-work call seemed to have a lot to do with stoking her fire because she wanted to know if I fixed him supper. But I work 7A-7P, y'know, and who wants to wait until after 7:30PM for supper, when he had to get up at 4:30 in the morning? We worked out the supper-thing a long time and it suits us.

She does not understand that other people can do things differently and it doesn't make them 'bad'. But I guess I am a bad housekeeper and a bad wife because I am not of the Southern Woman mold. I don't jump up every morning and scrub and clean and mop and vacuum and launder and cook.

Hubby has no patience with her going on about me and my 'shortcomings'. HE is not unhappy with me. I honestly don't give a fig about any of her opinions about me. I just wish she wasn't so self-involved as to be blind about how she is hurting her father. One of the things that I found attractive about him in the early years was what a GOOD Dad he was (and still is!). And she is hurting her kids, too, because they really, really love their Pappaw and don't understand how come they are not getting to see him so often anymore.

I think there was some thing that occurred verbally between dgt and dad several months ago that started all this recent business. But, it's not my stuff, and if hubby doesn't want to share, I won't push to know.

I used to say that if there was one thing I could 'give' to my step-dgt, it would be that to know there are other (better) ways to live her life than how her mother's family lives theirs. Hubby said I taught HIM that and he is very happy he escaped that whole bunch, and found out how good a shared loving life can be.

I'm glad I wasn't raised in such a maelstrom of ******* family values. Too bad for her, though.

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Stars that is truly sad and I sure do feel for your sweet hubby, some things in life are simply not fair. I am sure it hurts hubby very much but at the end of the day his daughter will have to answer to her short comings. Good for you in holding your head up high and doing what you do for your hubby.

 

I am very blessed with a daughter and son who are not mine by birth but they are mine through marriage and we share a beautiful relationship. I certainly do not take them for granted, always here for them and we keep in touch all the time.

 

Sometimes blended marriages are tough when you have one that will continually rock the boat and keep things stirred up.

 

Hugs to you and hubby. x x x x

 

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Good evening everyone,

Stars so sorry to hear about the problems between your husband and his daughter and the way she has been treating him. It is hard to see someone that you love to be hurting and to know that there is nothing that you can do to help the situation other than to be there for them and to support them.

Today was a beautiful day, plenty of sunshine and temperatures in the upper 60's. Spent some time on campus this afternoon studying in the sunshine. It has been a while since I have been able to do that. Looking forward to being able to spend some time studying on my balcony enjoying the fresh air over the next few weeks. My pharmacology exam went well this evening missed two questions, one that I knew the answer for but my brain must have stopped working for a moment. Taking it easy this evening, will do some reading for pharm for next week and planning on getting to bed at a decent hour tonight.

Have a good night all if at home relaxing or working :)

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R-E-D-N-E-C-K.

Now wait just a second there lady . . . .. I'm a redneck! I'm married to a redneck! My kids are rednecks. ;)

Seriously now - I am very sorry that your husband doesn't get to see his grandchildren and that his relationship with daughter (other kids?) is not good. That is heartbreaking.

Hi to everyone - I'm on the ragged edge of just being too darn busy with work. Looking forward to summer and only one job.

We will be going up to Oregon to help my son and his family pack and get ready to move to Texas next week. :arghh: I was so grateful to spend 24 hours with my granddaughter over the weekend in Medford.

No garden yet here herring - been freezing overnight.

Sabby - we are having a luncheon for our volunteers tomorrow (it is Volunteer Week) and have gotten them all little presents as well. Should be a good IDT.

Not much else to say without going into whine-mode so I'll hush and wish you all a good evening.

:wavey:

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