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Trying to get pregnant between UDC3 and 4

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As someone who is pregnant with my first at age 31 I would encourage you to wait. Your first few years of nursing are tough enough without throwing pregnancy and a baby into the mix.

I've worked with several nurses who were pregnant on my floor in their first year of nursing and every single one of them didn't make it. They all quit shortly after having their babies and none of them are working in a hospital setting to date. Figure out your career priorities and make sure they will balance with your family plans.

And also I second what the others said about timing. We started trying at 29, and didn't get pregnant until 31.

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Babies come when ready. Pregnancy does not happen on a timeline of our convenience most often. Once the kid is here, your life is not your own.

Realize that there may be kinks in your plans and be prepared to adjust.

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Thank you so much for taking the time to write a reply. My mom had my younger sister at the age of 31 and had to give birth early bc of pre-eclampsia. My aunt gave birth by the age of 38 and also had complications and my aunt had twins at the age of 40 but she takes medication for clotting factors and she ended up losing the babies and her doctors thought that it was best that she didnt go to term. I guess im afraid to have similar situations when my BF and I start planning to conceive. But thank you so much for replying definitely made some good points.

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Girl. Omg. As a woman rounding 30 myself, I can physically feel the baby rabies in your post, lol, and it's kind of stressing me out on a personal level. What is it about the age of 30 that is scaring you in terms of just beginning to start a family? I think you need to answer this for yourself and see how you feel about what you find out.

If you know of specific medical issues you have that may contribute to difficulty conceiving, I can totally understand your concern. However, I think that having your first child around 30 probably wouldn't be as rough as you anticipate. Sure, your parents will be older - two years older than the timeline you seem to be pushing, which honestly isn't that much. If they are able and willing to help, they will do so at any age. But, you're the parents! It's all you guys, so you have to make sure that YOU are in a physical, financial, and spiritual place to have children. Only the two of you can determine what needs to happen before you do this. I have to say, being about to turn this age you seem to be wary of, I feel MUCH more prepared for the reality of having more than just me and my boyfriend to take care of - even more than just a couple years ago. Having the opportunity to get our careers underneath us, figure out where we want to live, and just be together has been very valuable and will play an instrumental role in our family life if we do decide to have kids.

I don't think there's any hard rule about the time between NCLEX and getting a job, but it's a good idea to start something relatively soon, for your own benefit. That way you'll liketo what you've learned in school fresh and start to build on that knowledge.

Another thing to consider is that nursing school is rough. People have totally had kids in the middle, pushed through, and become kickass nurses! I know that for me, I would have lost my mind and had a lot of trouble finishing. It is already going to cut into your time with your BF; can you imagine dividing what little free time you have even further in order to care for an infant? I think the benefit of waiting until you graduate is that you and BF can catch up, save some money, and just be you guys again, and really get your relationship ready for this big change.

I feel your pain; baby fever is real and it is wild. What I keep reminding myself is that I don't want to steal the joy of this experience from myself by pushing it too early. If there are solid reasons to wait a couple years and only baby fever as justification for doing it sooner, I think it's worth it to stick it out. But only you and your boyfriend can decide your priorities.

Sorry for the stream-of-consciousness post, lol, but hopefully it helps you further develop your thoughts and plans in a constructive way!

Thank you so much for replying. Definitely a different view for me to see this situation

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I'm always amused by people who plan to "get pregnant Tuesday" and have the baby "Thanksgiving week" ...and with a boyfriend in his 20's who may or may not be around in two years.

You're probably getting a little ahead of yourself, but I do agree that younger is better- especially if having children is important to you.

Yeah he may just be my BF and we may not be together in 2 years. But we do plan to get married. We have been together for almost 5 years and we have lived together for 4 1/2. But obviously anything can happen in two years but our plan is to be married before i actually graduate Nursing school. Thank you for your reply.

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I don't know, I wouldn't wait. My husband and I waited until after nursing school and after I got my first job and now here we are, over four years later, with no baby. We didn't find out that my husband had sperm issues and a varicocele until 6 months ago, and he didn't have surgery to correct it until 3 months ago. He's the healthiest person I know, never had any health issues. We're 32 and 33.

So, my advice to you is don't wait if it is what you want. You'll have to prioritize what you really want in life. Nursing school will always be there but having kids won't be.

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"Planning" when you're going to have a child...HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! Good luck with that!!!!!:roflmao::roflmao::roflmao:

Isn't there a saying to the effect of "We make plans, then God laughs"?

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Thank you so much for taking the time to write a reply. My mom had my younger sister at the age of 31 and had to give birth early bc of pre-eclampsia. My aunt gave birth by the age of 38 and also had complications and my aunt had twins at the age of 40 but she takes medication for clotting factors and she ended up losing the babies and her doctors thought that it was best that she didnt go to term. I guess im afraid to have similar situations when my BF and I start planning to conceive. But thank you so much for replying definitely made some good points.

On the other hand, my mom had me at age 39 and I am practically perfect in every way. :angrybird5:

In all seriousness, OP, I suggest doing some research to help ease your mind about having babies at age 30. I had the same hang up for a while, but lots of people have babies later. There is also a big difference between pregnancy at age 30 and at age 38/40. (Much bigger than between ages 28 and 30.)

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Please, for the love of all that is good in this world, what is UDC?

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I just read through all these posts with all this wonderful advice (Bravo guys) and I come to the end and klone makes me laugh out loud by asking what UDC is.

And in all seriousness I want to know too!

What is UDC??

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Don't plan on getting pregnant immediately/exactly when you want. Don't plan on getting pregnant until you are in a very stable relationship for your future child. (I don't know how long you've been with this boyfriend but that always raises a red flag in general). Don't plan on having a baby if you can't afford it on your boyfriend's income if you haven't already graduated and passed your NCLEX. Don't plan on not having a preemie and allowing your graduation to ride on having a perfectly healthy pregnancy and having no complications or special needs at the end of your last semester.

Basically, if you have been with this guy for years, you can afford a baby on his income alone, and you don't mind pregnancy complications foiling your plans of being a nurse, then you can do what you are planning to do. If those three things aren't true for you, please don't execute this plan.

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