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Well, she was very clear about her wishes.

It is good that she has you all to make sure those wishes are carried out.

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Herring it's a hard decision to make but it seems in this case to be the right one.  Glad she already has advanced directives in place

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2 hours ago, herring_RN said:

Sisters and I decided after her birthday party when all she ate that day was one bite of birthday cheesecake. Her favorite.

She was polite, but didn't focus, and clearly was not enjoying herself. She had been saying, "I hate my life."

We hoped she would get help from the psychiatric social worker, but she refused to talk with her. She refused the activities lady. After her birthday she only walked, with help, to the bathroom Starting last Sunday she refused to get up and all. 

The power of attorney she typed almost 20 years ago stated, "If I am physically or mentally unable to enjoy life I want no life support, no feeding tubes or artificial ventilation, and no CPR." After a long discussion I accepted tht responsibility. I am glad she did that. It is sad, and we tried all we could  to help her. All she wants to do is sleep.

It is sad, but she has made her wishes known and you are honoring them.  Still, it is hard to watch.

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Hullo, 

Herring, sending you thoughts of comfort as you and your family endure this challenging part of life. It does relieve some burden in that she has made her wishes clear, but still very sad to watch. 

I do not have a waterfall close by, but we did walk by the storm water retention pond, where a couple of mallard ducks were dabbling. Stars you inspired me to do a bit of cleaning. That and my allergies are acting up. I threw the dog's blankets into the washer, and thoroughly vacuumed to "de-alergen-ize" as much as possible. And I changed out the furnace filter. 

Joe, a bell chorus sounds lovely, if the bells can be readied in time. 

I am going to accompany eldest ds to his stress echo tomorrow at UW, my alma mater. They have a large display of flowering cherry trees, that should be blooming. They probably pale next to Japan, but still should be nice. blossoms4.gif.ec484ef66251ec8b55fe7223c1a060d5.gif

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What a beautiful pic of the cherry trees, J22!  I hope all goes well for DS tomorrow.

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3 hours ago, herring_RN said:

Sisters and I decided after her birthday party when all she ate that day was one bite of birthday cheesecake. Her favorite.

She was polite, but didn't focus, and clearly was not enjoying herself. She had been saying, "I hate my life."

We hoped she would get help from the psychiatric social worker, but she refused to talk with her. She refused the activities lady. After her birthday she only walked, with help, to the bathroom Starting last Sunday she refused to get up and all. 

The power of attorney she typed almost 20 years ago stated, "If I am physically or mentally unable to enjoy life I want no life support, no feeding tubes or artificial ventilation, and no CPR." After a long discussion I accepted tht responsibility. I am glad she did that. It is sad, and we tried all we could  to help her. All she wants to do is sleep.

Thank you No Stars, nursej22, BCgradnurse, Joe, dianah, and Nel!

Your thoughts mean a lot to me.

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Okay, I was going to add to my original post, but I couldn't get the cursor to appear after the picture. 

Anyway, yesterday I fought the urge to throttle crazy coworker during our meeting. We only work together for about 2 hours each Wednesday, but that is almost too much. I pointed out to her some errors and unclear charting she had done, and expressed that I was frustrated about the amount of time it took to correct. She always blames someone else, or wants to change the procedure, instead of trying to just do things the way everyone else does. And the lists! A weekly calendar, plus a list of routine tasks, plus a list of what clients will be seen, plus a list of her special projects she's doing, plus a monthly calendar. And each list has a special code that no one but her understands. Argle, bargle. Anyway, she is still alive, and I am not in jail, and  off for the next 6 days. Of steady rain. 

Ta, ta, off to run some errands, and purchase a new, hypoallergenic mattress pad. 

j22

 

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herring - you are doing your best.  Sometimes, people are just ready before we are ready.  

It is interesting to read about end-of-life stories from hospice nurses.  I'm fascinated by it. 

The class on Advanced Directives starts in about 40 minutes.  I'm back home for a snack (dry roasted peanuts and iced tea) and then will head up to the hospital shortly.  It is only a mile away. 

If Spidey didn't have baseball practice, I'd take him. 

I think I mentioned that my grandkids now have 6 chickens.  My son built a chicken coop for them and it is keeping the grandkids busy. The 6 chickens were born just before Christmas so they won't be laying eggs until June or July.  We'll be up there the week after Easter so am looking forward to spending time with my son, his wife, and the kids (and chickens).  

Better head out . . . ya'll enjoy your afternoon.

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Hello!

We are just about packed up and organized, and then we found out (and confirmed via the main festival organizer dude) that gates officially open for campers TOMORROW after 9am!!  They are apparently not set up to receive any campers before then.

So we removed some overnight necessities and will spend the night at home then head out in the morning sometime.  It won't be real early, dh needs to take his shower and feed the cats and load the instruments and do some other morning chores.  But tomorrow IS the day!!  The little refrigerator in our tiny RV is doing a good job keeping things cold.  We will have leftovers for linner (or dunch, or lupper, or whatever you want to call it --- eating too early for supper and too late for lunch!!) and hopefully enjoy a nice evening.

Wishing dh would come in, I am hungry!

Have a good evening!

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Steph: my youngest ds LOVES chickens!  I'm sure the grandkids do too!   Hope the weather is nice for your after-Easter visit.

 

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Have a great trip, Dianah!!

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3 hours ago, Spidey's mom said:

herring - you are doing your best.  Sometimes, people are just ready before we are ready.  

It is interesting to read about end-of-life stories from hospice nurses.  I'm fascinated by it. 

The class on Advanced Directives starts in about 40 minutes.  I'm back home for a snack (dry roasted peanuts and iced tea) and then will head up to the hospital shortly.  It is only a mile away. 

If Spidey didn't have baseball practice, I'd take him. 

I think I mentioned that my grandkids now have 6 chickens.  My son built a chicken coop for them and it is keeping the grandkids busy. The 6 chickens were born just before Christmas so they won't be laying eggs until June or July.  We'll be up there the week after Easter so am looking forward to spending time with my son, his wife, and the kids (and chickens).  

Better head out . . . ya'll enjoy your afternoon.

Thank you Steph!

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