Thank you Planned Parenthood!

Adoption is ignored intentionally in these conversations because of the inconvenient reality that it is a legitimate reason not to abort .

And sometimes it's as simple as A WOMAN DOESN'T WANT BE PREGNANT.

Nobody has a moral obligation to serve as a vessel simply because there are people who want to adopt.

And I think you mean "figuratively" lined up, not "literally"

Well, I'm adopted and both my mother (my real mom, the one who raised me) and I appreciate the decision my biological mother made but are also very pro choice.

Also, adoption tends to be most feasible for white infants, especially male infants. Non-white or disabled, not so much.

Also, adoption tends to be most feasible for white infants, especially male infants. Non-white or disabled, not so much.

EXACTLY.

No one is lining up to adopt the kids that's I take care of-not even their own family members-aunts, cousins, grandparents are king up, especially with those parents who have multiple kids and they are taking care of said parents other kids; no matter how smart and polite the child is, I see far too many children going into care, or when a child is ready to receive a child, they back out at the last minute.

Lets separate fact from fiction.

1. Myth: If you place a baby up for adoption, he/ she could end up in the foster care system.

Fact: Foster care is where children who are abused/ neglected are sent by DSS. Birth mothers can choose an open adoption or a closed adoption, but either way the child goes to loving adoptive parents.

2. Myth: Only white, male infants are adopted. (I can't believe anyone would actually think this!)

Fact: Infants are easily adopted out, REGARDLESS of race or sex. I personally know several families that have adopted cross racially, and both girls and boys.

Also, of course no one is 'forcing you be a vessel' to carry a child for some one else. You did not become pregnant magically, you made choices that brought consequences.

Life, and certainly our profession of nursing, has many ethical considerations. It is a very slippery slope when you start deciding who would be better off alive and who would be better off dead. As a nurse, you should value all lives.

Sorry, but many kids in foster care are up for adoption once their birth parents' rights are terminated. Also, even infants have a tough time if they are medically needy - the fact is, adoption is not the panacea that the forced pregnancy crowd would have us believe.

Furthermore, the fact is that my reproductive choices are none of your business and are not subject to your review or approval. Period.

This thread was started as an expression of gratitude for the work done by PP and others for over a hundred years, to give women some measure of control over our own reproductive and economic lives. We won't be relinquishing that control any time soon.

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Name calling aside, the idea that poverty and/or foster care must necessarily follow bringing a pregnancy to term is just not true. Adoption is ignored intentionally in these conversations because of the inconvenient reality that it is a legitimate reason not to abort and that is contrary to the narrative that is continually being played.

Thousands of couples and individuals are literally lined up waiting for a phone call advising them of a baby needing a home.

"Of a baby needing a home." And that's the problem. People won't adopt kids that are already there. Kids have to meet their age and ethnicity and mental preferences. So many kids slip through the cracks. If a woman feels more at peace by birthing a child and giving it up for adoption, I absolutely support that decision. But i don't believe adoption is as merciful as people make it out to be.

I once read that if one person out of every 3 churches in America adopted a child, our orphanages would be empty.

I apologize for sounding blunt. That was not my intention. And I'm happy that your family is bringing you happiness. It sounds like you adopted, and that's wonderful! I'm not saying adoption shouldn't be a consideration. I'm saying that whatever brings the woman the most peace of mind is what should be considered.

Two VERY different scenarios, birth mother choosing a private adoption vs the state terminating parental rights. So, how can you possibly equate the two?

Raviepoo, just out of curiosity, why did you decide to write this post in a forum about nursing?

Two VERY different scenarios, birth mother choosing a private adoption vs the state terminating parental rights. So, how can you possibly equate the two?

I didn't equate them - just pointing out that the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy can go in different directions. Oversimplified assertions about adoption are a total non sequitur. The choice a woman makes regarding her reproduction are no one else's business. The agreement or approval of others is simply irrelevant.

Also, of course no one is 'forcing you be a vessel' to carry a child for some one else. You did not become pregnant magically, you made choices that brought consequences.

Ah, yes. The old "You made your bed, now you must lie in it" argument. Which is actually just a thinly veiled method of ****-shaming.

Luckily, one of the Supreme Court-given "consequences" of getting pregnant is that a woman can choose to have an abortion if she doesn't want to be pregnant.

Raviepoo, just out of curiosity, why did you decide to write this post in a forum about nursing?

I wouldn't presume to speak for the OP, but why not? Nursing is an integral part of the work done by PP and other women's health providers. Why wouldn't she want to thank the nurses that helped her there.