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I had a friend go through this recently. Her friend stole her unborn daughters name. She was soooo upset. She picked another though which I think is better and gave it to her daughter at birth. Wouldnt you know that other girl made a stink about that name too, she was planning on her #3 to have that name. Some people.....

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Friends are seriously arguing about the names of their children? Who cares if one "stole" the name of her friends baby.

Perhaps because I am a male, it doesn't bother me. People stress way too much over the little things in life. And if someone is actually willing to END their friendship over something this small, then they probably never had a strong friendship bond to begin with.

I agree and I'm a girl . . this is not a big deal.

steph

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I'm female. I don't understand how a person can "steal" a name. I have yet to meet anyone who has a truly unique name, except for a few celebrity kids like Moon Unit and Apple.

When we named our kids, it turned out each one of them had an extremely popular name that year. We didn't plan it that way, it just happened. Was I upset that a friend named her kid the same as mine? No. Was I upset that my firstborn went to first grade with four other boys with the same name, complete with last initial? No.

It really does seem a bit much to end a friendship over naming a child.

Same thing happened to me . . . I read a name in a novel. Never ever heard of the name before. Named my daughter that name.

She went to school with 5 other girls with the same name.

You never know. I didn't tell anyone the name - and other people still named their child that name.

This is a silly reason to end a friendship - I agree.

steph

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It's not about the name. It's about the fact that the friend was uncaring enough to deliberately do this knowing it would hurt the other. With friends like that who needs a proctologist? It's about betrayal, real or perceived. The friend should have thought twice before doing that.

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I'd be upset if someone did that to me too. It's rude. Friend B isn't really A's friend as friends don't do that to each other. Tell your friend I think Mia Cara is an even prettier name. :)

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Wow. Names can be "stolen"? I find this thread interesting. Naming children is a different matter in many other cultures around the world. This would be seen as a trivial matter and not one over which to break up a friendship in some cultures.

In my husband's culture, children are usually named by the day of the week in which they are born.

A boy born on Friday is Kofi.... a girl would be Afua.

A boy born on Saturday... he's Kwame... a girl would be Ama.

For example, friends of ours, a couple from my husband's country, has a girl born on a

Sunday so her name is Esi (if she'd been a boy she would have been Kwasi or Kwesi)

And they have another child born on a Tuesday, a boy, so he's Kwabena (had the baby been a girl the appropriate name would have been Abena).

So its not uncommon to have children with similar names in one school, classroom, neighborhood, etc.

(though I happen to know that modern folks also add a more common English sounding name also, so the child is called one name by their family at home and use their "English" name in school)

In some cultures the fact that two close friends named their children the same might be seen more as a sign of their close friendship with each other....

Interesting... :)

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In relationship to my post above(since I don't appear to be allowed to edit)...

Monday for boys: Kojo, girls Akua

thursdays are boys Yaw and girls Yaa, Wednesdays are boys Kwaku and girls Akua.

All the names have phonetic variations.. so don't be surprised to see different spellings.

So the next time as OB nurses you come across a new little one with the above names, you can surprise the parents with your knowledge of Akan naming practices. :)

I hope the two friends make up :)

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"name stealing" is wrong and tacky!

I wanted to name my first daughter Marissa but didn't do it because it was to close to my husbands, brothers daughters name Melissa (the kids would have the same last names) thought it wuold be too confusing having the very close first names with the exact last name. My hubbys brother flipped out about the Marissa/Melissa thing he didn't want his daughter to have a cousin with a name so very similar to his.

So I named my daughter something very unique and I have only heard of 3 others with the same name in the last 16 years since she was born.

Now, same brother in law, stated after hearing my newborn daughters name that should he ever have anymore children, he would name his daughter the same name!!! GRRRR!! are you kidding me? Ok, same name, wrong, same first and last name...soooo wrong! I wasn't too worried as he had 2 children at the time and wasn't in a relationship and had no plans to ever have anymore children.

Twoyears later, his daughter was born. He named her Ciara (pronounced See r ah) which is very very close to my daughters name! And they have the same birth month and the actual day is only 3 days apart. Needless to say everyone (pharmacies, doctors offices, etc) are always confusing the two!

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Same thing happened to me . . . I read a name in a novel. Never ever heard of the name before. Named my daughter that name.

She went to school with 5 other girls with the same name.

You never know. I didn't tell anyone the name - and other people still named their child that name.

This is a silly reason to end a friendship - I agree.

steph

Hey I do understand that you can't control what other people name their kids. Especially if you don't even know them. We are not talking about people actually having the same name but rather a "close" friend who knew well in advance what her friend wanted to name her girl. And took it upon herself to give her baby the name instead. Without even saying "hey I really like that name do you mind if I use it too?" If she had I'm sure friend "A" would not have been so upset. I don't think it's a silly reason, IMHO it's shows the friend's character. If you are a friend and you know that something means so much to your friend I'm sure you wouldn't want to take that away from them. At least I know I wouldn't. Which is why I think she is not truly a friend. What else will she steal? One day she is going to be walking around with the same haircut, shoes, cars, and man as her. Ever see the movie Single white female? HA HA Just kidding:D he he

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I think it was tacky and wrong to name the baby the EXACT same thing.

I don't think I would be friends with such a person. True there are no copyrights on baby names, but it would seem the friend who "stole" the name did so on purpose.

The friendship would be over and I would still name my child the name I had picked out year ago.

My BFF and I were preggers at the same time. We both had girls. She had picks out a name that was special to HER(for a girl), and her husband had picked out a name that was special to HIM (for a boy). We didn't know what we were having either and her DH told her not to tell me the name he had chosesn because I would "steal" it.:eek: My BFF set him straight real quick, she knew I would never cross that line because of our friendship. The name he had chosen was UGLY and they ended having a girl.

I did use a name for my daughter that my cousin and his DW had picked out years ago, but when they had their ONLY child they named her something different. I used the name as a middle name and they were honored I had chosen it.

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Ten years ago my only son (and child) died at birth. I have written bits and pieces of this terrible hospital (nursing staff) experience in several different threads. I did have a funeral for him and was making the arrangements while still in the hospital. One of the nurses asked me what I was naming him and I told her. She stated how she had always loved this name for a boy.....

but was I sure I wanted to "waste" it!!:angryfire

How some people can be so insensitive never ceases to amaze me!

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