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B will always know what she did to A, and I imagine at some time in the future, she will live to regret it.

Reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where George wanted to keep the name "Seven" for himself.......... lol.

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Something similar happened to me. A few years ago a pregnant co-worker (who I was quite close to at the time) and I were discussing baby names. She said her husband and she were having problems finding a name and I told her I have had the name of my first son picked out for years and shared the name with her. Several months later she gave birth and named her son the same name I had shared... I was rather shocked especially when she said she didn't remember the conversation. Whether or not that was the truth, it doesn't matter now as I quit shortly after and we are no longer in touch. I no longer share the name with others unless they are a close friend, I just tell people my first son will be named after my grandfather...

OP, I suspect these two women were never true friends, unfortunate for A to be betrayed during a time in her life that should be filled with joy. So, did she name her girl something different?

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ugh. Friend A should consider herself lucky. That name is horrible! :down:

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Something similar happened to me. A few years ago a pregnant co-worker (who I was quite close to at the time) and I were discussing baby names. She said her husband and she were having problems finding a name and I told her I have had the name of my first son picked out for years and shared the name with her. Several months later she gave birth and named her son the same name I had shared... I was rather shocked especially when she said she didn't remember the conversation. Whether or not that was the truth, it doesn't matter now as I quit shortly after and we are no longer in touch. I no longer share the name with others unless they are a close friend, I just tell people my first son will be named after my grandfather...

OP, I suspect these two women were never true friends, unfortunate for A to be betrayed during a time in her life that should be filled with joy. So, did she name her girl something different?

Have you had a chance to use the name yet or did you change it?

My friend did change it --- she said she didn't want to associate her little girl with that event. She named her Mia Cara which is my darling I believe in Itialian (not sure). Mia is pretty too.

Joolia --- people have different tastes. What's beautiful to you might be ugly to her. I find the name sweet & pretty myself.

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When I was carring my second son- I had always loved the name Ben I thought we would call him that - unfortunatly as a midwife I looked after a couple who spontaneously aborted their 22 week old perfect Boy - they had a naming cerimony for him in the hospital I was with them pregnant they called him Ben it was heart breaking so my second Son was called Sebastian and it suits him. Then my brother told me Ihad solen his boys name - first Ihad heared of it anyway as it turns out he had all girls!

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I think she had a right to feel upset and angry. I had picked out a name for my second daughter that started with H, same as my first, and everyone in my family knew it. A relative ended up using the name I had picked and I was bitter for awhile because the point of it, and I really liked the name. Anyhow, I named my daughter something else and as it turns out, I no longer really like the other name anyhow....became too popular. I got over it and hopefully your friend will too.

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Friends are seriously arguing about the names of their children? Who cares if one "stole" the name of her friends baby.

Perhaps because I am a male, it doesn't bother me. People stress way too much over the little things in life. And if someone is actually willing to END their friendship over something this small, then they probably never had a strong friendship bond to begin with.

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Fawzia, no, I haven't had the chance to use it yet... But I still will! That name is one of the only ones my SO and I can agree on!!!

MikeyJ, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you don't understand the big deal because you're male. Something like the name of a child is a big deal to many women, like their wedding day, they dream of having a baby much of their life. And to have something like this spoil that is (I imagine) hurtful. I think the situation turned out in friend A's favor, though, Mia Cara is a beautiful name!

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I'm female. I don't understand how a person can "steal" a name. I have yet to meet anyone who has a truly unique name, except for a few celebrity kids like Moon Unit and Apple.

When we named our kids, it turned out each one of them had an extremely popular name that year. We didn't plan it that way, it just happened. Was I upset that a friend named her kid the same as mine? No. Was I upset that my firstborn went to first grade with four other boys with the same name, complete with last initial? No.

It really does seem a bit much to end a friendship over naming a child.

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I think it's not just about stealing the name but the fact that B never fessed up about the name she was going to give her kid, speaks for the kind of friend she really was. The name is unique, there is no way you would have heard the name in a conversation and wont remember.

I would feel hurt if it happened to me.

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My mother actually had this problem several times. She would tell a friend what she was going to name her baby and then that person would steal the name and name her baby that same name both first and middle. It really is a betrayal and once a bad feeling is associated with that name you just cannot use it. My mother talked to us about it until we were teens. :chuckle

I did tell a friend what I wanted to name my first baby and she thought it was horrible etc and went on about it. It made me change my mind on the name. Yup. It's a good idea to keep baby names to yourself.

By the way, I think this is a good discussion. Glad I found it. :)

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