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For all the singles out there who are in the process of healing or who are single by choice.

This thread is for us to commiserate or celebrate together!

My name is Marie and I like long walks on the beach...oops, wrong thread :smokin:

*clears throat* My name is Marie and I am 39 years old. I was in a long term relationship that ended 3 months ago. For the moment, I am done with dating and am concentrating on myself and learning to love myself. I was a serial dater because I dreaded (read: hated) being alone.

I am sorta getting the hang of being by myself but I still fight with feeling lonely. I am slowly learning to embrace being alone. It is not my ideal way to live but for right now, it is all right. I have learned that I will not die from loneliness. I would rather be alone with my thoughts than have to deal with Mr. Right Now.

OK, your turns. Black Jade where are you?

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Quotes on being single.

"I'm single because I was born that way."

-Mae West

"Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand."

"You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose."

"A woman needs a man like a fish needs bicycle."

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After being single for nearly 4 years i've really become set in my own routine. Yes, there are times I get lonely but I know i'd be much happier being single and not dealing with any unnecessary drama. I feel like I became a little bit of a serial dater for a short time. I had joined a few of the online dating sites but always felt like I was just going to meet up with someone, chat over a drink and never really saw past that. Then there were others I wished i'd never met and were nothing but a nightmare. :eek:

One thing i've noticed about myself now that i've been single for so long is whenever I thought about the possibility of being back in a relationship, its kind of scared me and thinking about not having the independence i've grown accustomed to over these past few years. Well, maybe it's going take the right guy to come along and then I won't think anything of it! :redpinkhe

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The one thing that I don't want to do is become bitter and so far I am not. I think if I were to become bitter, than it would be better for me to be alone.

I still believe in this thing called "love." Maybe that is my first problem...:nuke:

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I'm a 52 year old single gay male. I've had two relationships in my life, one lasting 1.5 years and another lasting almost ten years. For the last four years I've lived alone and have been single. I recently dated a nice guy for about five dates and it didn't work out. I'm open to what the universe sends me but am content living alone and being single. I like making my own decisions.

I still believe in love and would like to think that I'll fall in love again, but if I don't I'm o.k. with that too.

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Yay!

I love AN...

Anywho...

I have loved hard three times in my life:

The first turned out to be gay (bless him).

The second guy I married. He was my world and the only thing lacking was I had no sexual attraction to him. There. I said it.

We were married for 13 years and I fought hard for that marriage and worked to overcome my issues.

I did it, but he also was not the person I thought he was.

He was/is a man with serious personality issues that I did not see when I was with him.

Treated me like crap.

Devastating.

The third was like a dream. Dated him for over 2 years. Loved him more than any man in the whole wide world.

Fine man... midlife crisis.

True story.

I am trying to focus on passing my boards, but it's been hard.

I am not a serial dater. I look for a good person.

They are out there, but I must be patient.

I need to get myself back into working hard and continue to do what is right.

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gosh, not sure how to say this...

but while i am married and content, one of the reasons my marriage works, is because my husband has finally accepted that i need my space.

i've been a loner all my life, and truly am more comfortable being single.

never went to clubs, or out to find someone...never had any interest.

maybe it's a tad unhealthy (:rolleyes:), but i could never relate to being warm, fuzzy, drippy or sappy with any adult.:rolleyes:

most important, i love this thread...with y'all opening up and disclosing personal things about yourself.

i'm very impressed.:redpinkhe

leslie

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most important, i love this thread...with y'all opening up and disclosing personal things about yourself.

i'm very impressed.:redpinkhe

Would you like to know more about me?

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Would you like to know more about me?

I would. Come join us.

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I am Virgo, student nurse. I was engaged at the age of 23 to what I thought was a wonderful man. He was 28, tall, played for a professional basketball team. I should have ran, when I found out he played ball. You live and you learn.

I was so "in love" , I looked past all the signs. He was a liar, emotionally abusive, and just mean sometimes.

I forgave him for the way he treated me, and made me feel for two years.

The final straw was when we had put the deposit down on "our place". The next day I was minding my business moving into "our home", and this chick comes to the door telling me she is having "my future husbands baby". She apparently had been dating him, when he came ino her town to play ball.

He denied everything, and I left him. I moved out of the house, and back home to my parents for a short while. He continued to call and say he was sorry, but enough was enough for me.

I told him in certain words," if you don't leave me alone one of us is going to jail". He got the picture after a loong year, and a restraining order, and small claims court.

He was dropped from his team, due to blowing out his knee, and I really don't know what he does to this day.

I am now 30, going on 31 and have decided to focus on my education. When the time is right, we will be sent our mate.

Best Wishes to all.

Virgo

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I dislike whining but I am having a rough time tonight. I feel so danged alone tonight. I feel like a hypocrite because I am lauding the benefits of being alone yet, here I am in the lonely pit and wishing I were out of it.

:nuke:

:crying2:

I think I need something. I feel like I have a huge "L" stamped on my forehead.

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