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Hi everyone,

Just checking in to see how you are all doing?

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I'm doing pretty good. Continuing my ongoing searches for jobs!!! Think I may go workout in a little while. Good for the mind and body! :D

Have a fun weekend!!! :cheers:

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Well, wish it were tonight, but alas, no.

Have a date tomorrow night.

It should be fun and nice to have it to look forward to.

Went on a date a week or so ago with another feller, but he wasn't as fun as I hoped.

This one seems interesting!

Wish me luck (that he doesn't turn out to be a creep or anything!)

Cheers!

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Well, wish it were tonight, but alas, no.

Have a date tomorrow night.

It should be fun and nice to have it to look forward to.

Went on a date a week or so ago with another feller, but he wasn't as fun as I hoped.

This one seems interesting!

Wish me luck (that he doesn't turn out to be a creep or anything!)

Cheers!

Have fun and be safe!

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Hi there...joining the party late :)

I just celebrated my 35th birthday, but feel (and look) much younger. I've been in love a few times in my life: once, when I was in college the first time around, and the second time, about 10 years later.

I am not one to take dating lightly...sure, I go out with guy friends from time to time (I'm female, BTW), but it is very rare that I even take an interest in someone of the opposite sex...

Most of all, I am scared of being hurt. I swear I almost died from a broken heart with that second guy. When we were dating, I had not yet decided to take the plunge and take pre-reqs. toward nursing school, and I had recently lost my job. So naturally, I was banking my future on this relationship...definitely more than I should have. I truly loved this person, but the nature of our relationship seemed to lean more toward brother/sister than boyfriend/girlfriend, (i.e., there was no "spark").

Since I will be in nursing school for the next two years, I have absolutely no desire to even be in a serious relationship, although I do have a special "friend" that I like to see, and he is not someone who will ever be available for anything other than what he is now.

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Oh, goodness, I feel like a veteran member of the singles club. :rolleyes:

31 and truly single....never been married. Was engaged years ago. Talked plenty of marriage with the last one. He turned out to be a cheating b@st@rd.

The problem? I still see the last one. We went maybe 6 months with no contact after we split up, and have been...involved?...ever since (so....3 years now? 3 1/2?). He's had two girlfriends since then, even, but has been also with me throughout. I KNOW this is bad, so please don't reinforce that to me. Believe me, I already know. :crying2: Numerous times it's come up that we should cut off contact, but it doesn't happen. It's like we can't stay away from each other. Pretty sure this isn't healthy.

He just got back from another deployment, he was in Iraq for a year. We talked often when he was there, and got emotionally closer again. Now that he's home, he seems more like his "old" self...but I also know he's having trouble adjusting. He did last time, too (that was when we broke up). Then he talks about us having kids, what we would have to change from the mistakes we made before, etc. It was while he was gone that we FINALLY talked about the problems we had. I finally heard the words I'd needed to hear for so long..."you didn't do anything wrong." We know the obstacles we faced back then (he was unemployed and was drinking too much). Problem is, now I'm the unemployed one (argh). NOW I realize the depression he dealt with while trying to find a job. He didn't handle things right (the drinking), and I didn't handle it right, either.

I know I should walk away. I know I want to give more than he wants to take. I know I love him, and I believe he loves me, but I am pretty sure it isn't enough. I don't want anybody else, though. He's been the only man in my life since I was 24!

Sorry for putting all this out here....I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. Didn't realize how badly I needed to, until I started typing!!

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poi, i was just joking about starting a singles club thread. but now that it's out there i appreciate that you did.:)

like you, i'm in my late 30's. as i had mentioned on the other thread, even though i dated other men, i consider two men special in my life. one of them is a man who was my "first" and we dated on and off for a long time. my heart sunk, when i recently went to his facebook page and saw that he had gotten married. however, i was happy to see him happy. finally i am able to move on and not think about him anymore.

regarding my ex, he was rushing into us getting married and immediately have a family after five months of knowing each other. at that time, i knew i wanted to spend my life with him but my priority was nursing school and he wanted to live an hour away from the nursing program. to make this long story short, when i told him that i wanted to get married after i finished school, he threw a tantrum and he married his ex-girlfriend without my or even his family's knowledge. he ended up getting a divorce eight years later and contacted me about giving him a second chance which i stupidly did. he wasn't there for me when i quit my last job and that is when i decided to not pursue this relationship anymore. i accomplished so many things on my own, that i told myself that i don't need him in my life.

it has been about a year since i last dated (my choice) and i keep myself busy with work and learning new activities. i would like to meet somebody new, but i find myself being petrified of meeting men and them asking for my phone number or even asking me out to dance. for now, i'm enjoying my own company. i want to believe that the man for me is out there and he will come into my life when i least expect it.

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I like the crazy girls for some reason- ya know, the ones who look like porn stars and that threaten to cut you if you ever leave em'. :) BUT they have to be good Christians at the same time... I know I know, I'm strange what else can I say.

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“There is this push for marriage in the straight community and in the gay community, essentially assuming that if you don’t get married there is something wrong with you,” says Naomi Gerstel, a sociologist at the University of Massachusetts in Amherst who has published a number of papers comparing the married and unmarried.

“But a huge proportion of the population is unmarried, and the single population is only going to grow. At the same time, all the movement nationally is to offer benefits to those who are married, and that leaves single people dry.”

The Plight of American Singles - NYTimes.com

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This seems like a fun post so here goes... I am "seperated" with a "pending"

divorce.Quotations cause nothing is legal now, we just live in diffrent states haven't seen each other in a year but haven't filed any papers cause it cost to darn much anyway...I have been married 10yrs and I enjoyed being married hey there is alot of perks! I think we loved each other at least I felt I loved him. This "single" life is not all it cracked up to be, I am lonely more than I like to admit and I am spending way too much money on battries***Wink*** lol. But I should really be focused on finding who I am it is easier said than done..I still feel like __________'s wife and _________'s stepmom etc...even though my role has changed....

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