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Sick kid(s): you need something from the store, no one else around to get it (long)

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I wouldn't expect someone to drive hours from out of town to come watch my sick kid. That is not a fair thing to ask.

But there are times when I'd sure appreciate someone watching my little one so I can run to the store and get something we really need. This applies to real needs, like medicine or more diapers. Not a bucket of ice cream. I don't always think it's right to take sick kids out of the house - exposing others to their germs, but also from the child's perspective, who of us likes to be schlepped hither and yon when we don't feel good? If it was an absolute need and there's no one else around, I'd take my kid out, but it would be very grudgingly. Firm believer in small children needing food and rest here.

(PS - 'sick' to me is vomiting, diarrhea, or a high fever. A mild cold or an occasional cough doesn't fall into that category.)

Yep! :yeah:

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I haven't read any of the replies.

Your friend is nuts.

:)

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I want to clarify that she wasn't trying to get me to come watch her kid after driving for 4-5 hours, but thought it would have been nice for me to offer. The main issue between us is that I suggested she take her sick (only throwing up during the night...nothing else) kid to the store with her to pick up whatever she needed for him. She got offended at my comment and thought I was not being sensitive for thinking she should take her child to the store with her after he was throwing up during the night. So she decided to get mad at the world and everyone around her because no one would or could help her at the time, which is my whole point of just going to the store with the kid.

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If she is going to get upset because people were unable or unwilling to help her - that's her problem.

I have made store runs for friends who were unable to go.

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While I empathize with your friend's situation (it's gotta be hard to be a single parent with a sick kid), I think she was being totally passive-agressive. If she needed something, she should have asked directly, instead of being so manipulative. She's in the wrong, not you.

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I want to clarify that she wasn't trying to get me to come watch her kid after driving for 4-5 hours, but thought it would have been nice for me to offer.

That's called manipulation. "I don't want to have to ask for what I want from you. I want you to volunteer." Yup, manipulation, plain and simple.

Sounds like she's also overreacting about the kid. The child threw up during the night? So . . .? Kids do that. They live. And, short of buying white soda (that you have to let sit for awhile so it isn't all fizzy), there isn't much you can get from a drugstore that is actually helpful. You don't need Pedialyte unless they have been tossing their cookies repeatedly for a day or so.

But you can bet that if you try to explain any of this to her, she'll just blow you off because someone who doesn't have kids couldn't possibly know anything (even though some of this is just common sense).

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Thank you for the replies! I've decided to keep some space between the two of us for a while to cool off.

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Just don't like it when people try to make what is entirely THEIR problem, entirely YOUR problem.

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Thank you for the replies! I've decided to keep some space between the two of us for a while to cool off.

Was she THAT mad? I mean, was screaming or cursing, ect. This is kind of petty for friends to separate over.

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I should have worded it differently. By space I mean for us to not be so close like we are. We spend a lot of time together. She has also done a couple of other things where it works out to be her being with a kid and me being without one and I'm always the one who just doesn't understand anything that pertains to children. It's a bit much for me.

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I should have worded it differently. By space I mean for us to not be so close like we are. We spend a lot of time together. She has also done a couple of other things where it works out to be her being with a kid and me being without one and I'm always the one who just doesn't understand anything that pertains to children. It's a bit much for me.

i had a friend like that, many yrs ago,

she was a divorcee w/2 young kids, and i was single.

she would always complain about the woes of single motherhood, which i had no problems with.

what bugged me, is she also said that single, childless people, were the most self-centered, selfish people in the world...

since they i had no one to think of, but themselves.

she had a fantastic support system, an involved ex, and parents that were present at all times.

anyways, i think it's a good idea to distance yourself.

sometimes being passive-aggressive, is much worse than blatant resentment.

leslie

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There are some things a childless single person might not be able to relate to, but that doesn't mean you're a brick. To have that cliche trotted out as an excuse for what amounts to self-centered expectations hints at resentment on her part. I think you're wise to keep her as a friend but take a few steps back.

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