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So I went out on a non-date with a guy that I met a the gym. The evening went all right and then he asked me what my vices were. Yeah, like I'll admit those out loud :clown: Anyway, I told him that I am a :smokin: and he told me that that was a huge turn-off. I, in turn, told him that his living with his mom and being unemployed was a huge turn-off to me. He is 45 years old. Yes, I went there!

I appreciated his honesty and my Sagittarius side which does not have a brain-to-mouth filter blurted out what I thought. So yeah, I do not think we will be going out again.

I crack myself up. :lol2:

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Unemployed men who live with their mothers after a certain age turn me off, too. I'd hate to sound shallow, but I would much prefer a partner and not an adult dependent.

Kudos to you for being so blunt!

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I would never consider dating a smoker, and come to think of it all my besties are non-smokers. But smoking is a deal breaker 100% of the time.

But you also have to have a job and a car to be with me. LOL

It's tough out there in dating land isn't it?

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If I were dating I'd have the same 'high standards' as you all! :D

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I dated a very handsome guy in my early 20's who had a great job and was funny and kind and compassionate. He smoked but never in front of me. Not sure why it didn't work.

My husband uses "Copenhagen" and it was almost a deal breaker for me when we first met.

Tobacco is an evil thing - very addicting. But the kind that doesn't create smoke is a bit easier to take then a person who reeks of smoke.

As to living at home - my husband was living on his family's ranch when I met him because he helped them with the farming when he wasn't logging. It was just easier. Not a deal breaker for me in this kind of instance as I saw it as a very good son who was helping his parents run the ranch.

If I was single right now - I would not date. Never again.

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Tobacco is an evil thing - very addicting. But the kind that doesn't create smoke is a bit easier to take then a person who reeks of smoke.

I agree. If my only two choices in the world were between man #1, who uses chewing tobacco, and man #2, who smokes cigarettes, I would have to pick guy #1. Smokeless tobacco and snuff have never bothered me as much as secondhand smoke.

I find this strange because both of my parents smoked in the house during my growing-up years, so one would assume that cigarette smoke does not bother me. However, I find everything about tobacco smoke repulsive.

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Both my parents smoked as well as my grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.

I hated it. I was the little irritating child who constantly berated my family and pointed out the dangers of smoking. I put up signs on the refrigerator against smoking.

I never even tried cigs.

My grandmother always had a cig going . . . . she'd usually leave it in the ashtray to burn up as she did her housework. The entire house reeked of smoke. When she'd send me something in the mail, the package and everything in it smelled like grandma's house.

I loved her and even lived with her for awhile.

My own mom lived with us for 5 years and smoked in our home.

I hated it.

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If I was single right now - I would not date. Never again.

i am so with you...i wouldn't ever date again, either.

never went looking for love before (rather, love found me) and am not the least bit interested in having another companion, if something happened to ed.

it really is a meat market out there...

and i'm perfectly content with my own company...and of course, my dogs.

poi...you should try enjoying being with you.

it's a tremendous comfort for some.:)

leslie

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If I was single right now - I would not date. Never again.

i am so with you...i wouldn't ever date again, either.

Note to self..... modify existing contingency plans. :clown:

I wouldn't relish dating again, but I don't know that I'd want to be alone for the rest of my life. After nearly 30 years I've kind of gotten used to having someone to boss me around. :D

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From one Sanitarian to another... I'm right there with ya!!! :lol2::yeah:

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Unemployed men who live with their mothers after a certain age turn me off, too. I'd hate to sound shallow, but I would much prefer a partner and not an adult dependent.

Kudos to you for being so blunt!

If I were dating I'd have the same 'high standards' as you all! :D

First thing I thought of was: "If I wasn't working and lived with my parents, IDK if I'd even be putting myself out there to date. And, I certainly wouldn't be worried about whether the other person smokes or not............"

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poi...you should try enjoying being with you.

it's a tremendous comfort for some.

Yeah. I informed a Co-worker that I am about the most interesting Person I know. His reply was, "You don't get out much, do you?" (I know I've submiited that little story before, but it's a classic worth repeating.)

But I do like leslie's concept- you know, as Henry David Thorough said, "I've found nothing more companionable than soul food."

I have to give kudos to poi dog, getting right back on the saddle. Good for you!

As far as the smoking thing goes, hey- I was licking ashtrays when licking ashtrays wasn't considered to be cool.

Now the unemployed-living-with-Parents-thing: I am gainfully employed and own my house and still wouldn't go out with me, even if I was destitute. To paraphrse Groucho Marx: "I won't go out with anybody who would have me as a date." I mean, I'm asocial, set in my ways, hard-headed, opinionated, and pass gas a lot. I feel blessed that Belinda puts up with me. No I don't.

Dave

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