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btw, i want to apologize, that my post is so off topic, i misunderstood the OP as someone curious about resuming dating as a mature woman, or someone undecided if that is even worthy goal for mature woman/needed encouragement to go for it.

sorry for my post which is more about egging her on to go for it, if she wants it.

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i can actually say that if anything ever happened to eddie, i would remain single for the rest of my life.

i love my solitude; my dogs are my companions; and have absolutely no desire to have any type of other intimate relationship.

and i am comfortable with that.

leslie

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btw, i want to apologize, that my post is so off topic, i misunderstood the OP as someone curious about resuming dating as a mature woman, or someone undecided if that is even worthy goal for mature woman/needed encouragement to go for it.sorry for my post which is more about egging her on to go for it, if she wants it.
Your input was valued, sometimes we do need to hear 'go for it' from someone. ;)

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i can actually say that if anything ever happened to eddie, i would remain single for the rest of my life.i love my solitude; my dogs are my companions; and have absolutely no desire to have any type of other intimate relationship.and i am comfortable with that.leslie
I feel the same way Leslie. I would stay single, especially while my kids are still home. They would be my priority. I could see myself as a spunky old biddy when older if I was widowed. :rolleyes:

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I could see myself as a spunky old biddy when older if I was widowed. :rolleyes:

i too frances, will be a "spunky old biddy".

the spunkier, the better...for me, anyways.

heaven help those who live with me. ;)

leslie

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We are, again, in the same boat, Leslie...

If Mike were to preceed me in death I doubt that I would remarry, I've been spoiled!

I might consider some male friends with "benefits" though...ah hem...even us old gals like a little fun on occasion.

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We are, again, in the same boat, Leslie...

If Mike were to preceed me in death I doubt that I would remarry, I've been spoiled!

I might consider some male friends with "benefits" though...ah hem...even us old gals like a little fun on occasion.

:roflmao: You made me laugh Tewdles.

So, when we are little old biddies, We will hang out and wreak some havoc. What do you say Ladies? It's a date. :yes:

I envision us with our little walkers, shawls, granny glasses, metamucil,

bengay cream.....

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Good times.....good times.

Edited by nursefrances

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Hey ladies, i am an expert in the field of lost love. When Mike died I could never imagine another man in my life. Eventually i did not wnat to go to everything alone. I was in a new town, did not know anyone and those I met in church were never going to be friends. i do go out with a few guys and enjoyed some dinners and conversation, movies and weekends at the shore. Nothing serious.

Then I met my SO. I will not say it was love at first sight. It was comfort. We have been together almost 2 1/2 years now and love has grown. Would we ever consider marriage? I don't know. We are both happy together. My kids are OK with him 2 of his 3 kids are OK with me. The third is horrible to me so it has negatively impacted their relationship. My SO puts me ahead of this grown up son who should be more respectful.

We enjoy almost all the benefits of marriage. Well taxes are nasty. I never would have envisioned me with anyone but Michael. Ours was a love at first sight that endured much hardship and lasted as if we were newly weds for all 28 yrs we were together.

Never say never. i have met many widows who said that and many have found a different relationship.

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that's how i feel now, aky...

that ed is clearly THE love of my life;

i knew it the moment i laid eyes on him.

and so, if anything happened, i don't believe anyone could even touch what i had with eddie.

besides, i never even actively sought love or romantic relationships.

stuff just happened.

if i found myself alone again, i wouldn't be proactive in pursuing a relationship.

i still would love to see a pic of the gift your beau got you.

leslie

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You will, I promise. it is at the shop getting the stone tightened. i did not want to lose it. Antiques need a bit of love. it should be out soon and i will take a pic with my camera since the phone does not work well for this.

She is a beautiful lady. Worth the wait to see.

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I have been in love more than once. I have been in love two and a half times. Two times, for sure, that was love. (the half way one, was just fun,:lol2: close to love, but not quite, still a very good part of my life)

Each time i was in love, i was sure, i'd never be able to love like THIS again. I was positive and convinced, only THIS man could be my love, only THIS here man, and THIS here relationship, could ever be for me, nothing could match THIS!!

NO one could ever be this close to me again, no one could ever understand me like this, only THIS man here, and i would never ever be able to really get to know and love anyone the way i love THIS man.

I was wrong.:eek:

I fell in love yet again.

Much to my shock, it was just as wonderful, if not better!!! AGain, i think, "only THIS man could be for me. I could never love or be loved, the way he and i are together, THIS is it! No one could be as close as WE are, if this man dies or whatever, that's it, i'm retiring." and so on.

but, love comes yet again, and is just as marvelous if not better, even when we were SURE our last love could never be topped.

having married my first love right before college and had only ever lived with HIM, i was kinda shocked to discover,

how DIFFERENT everything is, from one man

or one relationship,

to another. Since i'd really only lived with the one man, i guess i had somehow figured, pretty much all relationships are kinda basically the same if they are good ones. WRONGggggg!!!!!

(in between the two loves, i had some fun being single, too, dating around and learned a lot about dating as a grown up. Have lots of single pals, too, whose lives i follow along. Meeting men in real life, is not quite like when we were young, when we were ALL single, and all Very interested in having a sweetiepie.....

it can take actual effort in some age groups to find a mate...., you can see someone here or there, have hilarious conversation with someone, feel the click, and yet, sometimes no one gets numbers and you never see them again. that happens a lot to single gals, really. I'd like to think "the universe will just send me someone":rolleyes: or "Pure chance will send my pal Marlo someone to date, she is so wanting a sweetie"

, but sometimes, it does help to look/participate in finding someone, like i was saying earlier in my derail-ish post. My single pals who look, and unabashedly admit they are looking for a sweetie, do better at finding sweeties than those that don't)

Anyone out there, wondering if there really is more than one person you can love, and be loved by, let me tell ya, YES YES YES!!

This planet is so full of marvelous humans, there is almost no way, that only one person is lovable and loving to you. so much love out there, almost impossible to imagine it can't be in yet another great relationship for you.

PS---To AKY, i never married my 2nd love, either------ i figured i had a nursing license, a fishing license, a drivers license, and didn't feel i need a license for what i'm doing with him!! rofl!! :roflmao: BUT, we did get medical POA, financial POA (esp handy if someone dies) and other legal things done. Including hipaa stuff, too, so his doc can talk to me, etc. Can't even really think of alll the lil things we did to make things smoother that way.

but yeah, insurance is a dawg!!

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PS---To AKY, i never married my 2nd love, either------ i figured i had a nursing license, a fishing license, a drivers license, and didn't feel i need a license for what i'm doing with him!! rofl!!

 

 

 

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