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Did she give her reasons for her dislike of the country. Maybe she just saw her pay check and saw our dear government just robed her blind

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I reminded her that the Middle East has a lot of problems too, that there's a lack of individual rights, and an extremism that pushes people to blow themselves up to kill others. I told her that the grass isn't really greener on the other side of the fence.

Exactly, extremism. We have that here too. I am all about patriotism, but you did exactly what you are railing against. You bashed her homeland. The difference between you and her, she has actually seen both cultures. I do not believe she was tactful in stating her opinions at work, but she is entitled to them.

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Instead of thinking it rude, look at it another way. She felt comfortable enough to tell you how she feels. Often it's these unplanned, honest moments where you get to see how others think, and see you and your country, whether you like what they say or not.

It's also an opportunity to maybe correct her on some of the misconceptions she might have.

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America is a great country warts and all.

One of the best things is one can dislike, disagree, protest, rally against and speak their mind in relative freedom here.

She can have her opinion like everyone else.

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Meh. My husband is Canadian. He went to university in the US and has now been in the US another eight years on a green card to be with me. He has no desire to naturalize (he could if he wanted to) and is certainly not overflowing with fervent, over-zealous patriotism despite the fact that he has a good job here in the US.

That doesn't really surprise me. He's here because of YOU. Not because he wanted to move to the U.S. I'm not sure what part of the U.S. you're in, but the U.S. is largely a more populated, less socialized version of Canada in most ways. I go to Ontario on a semi-regular basis and half the time I forget I'm not in the U.S. until I go to use my cell and remember why I put it in airplane mode.

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Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!!

Hate is not a word allowed in our home. You can dislike peas, or Fox news or rainy weather, but you can't HATE it.

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Not funny. I just threw up a little in my mouth!

America is a great country warts and all.

One of the best things is one can dislike, disagree, protest, rally against and speak their mind in relative freedom here.

She can have her opinion like everyone else.

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Sometimes I dislike the United States. We have become a land of ME ME ME instead of US US US. That being said there are a lot of lazy people out there who take advantage of the kindness that is out there. Our freedoms are a blessing, but also lead to a lot of violence and pain. It's a mixed bag.

I can easily see how a young girl would see the flaws, especially if she misses the home her young mind remembers. I'm sure if she lived there now she might feel differently, or perhaps not.. Either way I wouldn't get upset about it. In the land of the free we are entitled to speak our minds even if no one else agrees with what we are saying.

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I kind of wonder if she was just going for a reaction. It is an odd thing to say out of the blue when you were both relaxing.

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I think that there are many people in this country who are currently not that thrilled with what it has become.

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My 10yo US citizen son has voiced similar opinion, but not because he has heard it from us. Neither his Mexican father nor I say things like that, nor do we think them.

What he means when he says it is, "I don't like some of the things I've seen happen here." Like, how immigration policy has directly affected our family very negatively. Like, how his uncle got shipped to A-stan and came back with PTSD. Like, how people talk about how God made the whole world but then carry on about God blessing America....well, if God made it all, why would he want to bless America to the exclusion of everyone else? Why not bless the whole world?

So we talk about how 'hate' is a very strong word and how it's possible to dislike government policy but still appreciate a country for the beauty of its terrain and its people. And how we love our friends from other countries just as much as we love our American friends and vice versa.

I'd say, go gently with this coworker and try to figure out what the subtext is. When people say things like that, there's almost always a whole lot more to the story. Likely that you'll both grow and learn from it.

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