I have found that the best way to have things work out nothing like I pictured at all is to use the word "plan".
OP, this includes having children. Just know that these responses are from those who have BTDT. I "didn't want a Christmas baby" ... so the good Lord blessed me with two.
I also thought it would be really cool to have a baby in the fall (I don't know, because I loved fall?) so I got one in the beginning of June.
It all worked out.