I'm almost 30, and am a few exams and an application away from nursing school. I've done all my pre-reqs online. I realized I focus a lot better on my own (in online classes) than I do in physical classes. And, I believe it's because I used to have urge to constantly socialize. Recently, I made a big change in my life. Stopped working at a bar, stopped hanging out at bars, and realized I was working at bars all this time just for my social life, and not my future.
What I'm worried about is that I'll see a cute girl in class and then my life will spiral back out of control. Dramatic I know, but I thought I had an alcohol problem until I realized I was just drinking because I was just nervous around girls at bars. I haven't been drinking since I quit, but I know it's mostly because I stopped dating around and am solely focused on school and me myself.
If anyone has gone thru nursing school, and maybe even seen someone they had a huge crush on, but was able to let go and focus on school instead, I'd love the advice
At the beginning of my college career, I failed a class because of the fights between me and my ex. I guess, in the past, my relationships were more important than to me than school. And, they still are, but, I realized I'll be better for people once I get through school. School is just so important to me, so I thought I might ask how other men (or women) deal with distractions like dating or just the natural urge to pursue a relationship during school. Maybe I can have the mindset I had when I had a girlfriend. I wasn't focused on other women at all. My ex just happened to drain my energy anyway.
Also, I don't even wanna worry about being attractive. Like, I don't wanna cut my hair or shave, because I feel like I'll only do it for attention from a girl. And, school isn't about that. Maybe I'm just overthinking this (I worry a lot), but I've been doing so good since I left the bar scene. The potential of getting to know a girl used to have me drinking all night and ruining the next day due to a nasty hangover. I don't want the same thing to happen in school, again. :/
I mean, school is different now. I feel I found my calling, so maybe I won't be as irresponsible as I was 10 years ago when I first tried university. And guys, even if you did date during nursing school, it would be cool to hear those stories too. Thanks guys :)
Some of my hobbies are riding my bicycle, going for walks, lifting weights, and watching movies, if that helps with perspective Lol.
p.s. I looked around the site for advice on this topic, but all I found were people instead encouraging dating while in school. I'm almost positive I can't and won't. I'm not like other students. I usually have to do twice the work because it takes me longer to study than most.