Lets separate fact from fiction.
1. Myth: If you place a baby up for adoption, he/ she could end up in the foster care system.
Fact: Foster care is where children who are abused/ neglected are sent by DSS. Birth mothers can choose an open adoption or a closed adoption, but either way the child goes to loving adoptive parents.
2. Myth: Only white, male infants are adopted. (I can't believe anyone would actually think this!)
Fact: Infants are easily adopted out, REGARDLESS of race or sex. I personally know several families that have adopted cross racially, and both girls and boys.
Also, of course no one is 'forcing you be a vessel' to carry a child for some one else. You did not become pregnant magically, you made choices that brought consequences.
Life, and certainly our profession of nursing, has many ethical considerations. It is a very slippery slope when you start deciding who would be better off alive and who would be better off dead. As a nurse, you should value all lives.