The public is fairly bristling with biases, pre-judgements and bigotry about quite a few qualities a nurse may have, or not have. Or maybe they have. If a person (and incredibly, some do) makes a remark about, or a mociking hand gesture about, or mocks the accent or appearance of a nurse, we do not tailor our lives to that person's unfair assumptions.
But wait!! Nobody has to be a fat nurse!! They chose that! Maybe they did. Maybe they didn't. But I am sure as hell not going to throw all in the same basket because their life history isn't written on their forehead. And I don't think being privy to an insulting remark some person makes about another person will be my rationale guiding my attitude going forward.
Isn't prejudice defined as something we decide about someone else before we know them? I would just love to be with a patient who demeaned a colleague who appeared "fat" because they are taking steroids to treat their lupus, RA, etc, are battling lymphedema, taking chemo that throws them into instant menopause, or psych drugs that enable them to be out in the world as a functioning member of society and support their families. I'd love to have that conversation.
I don't want to to talk about those people who huff and puff and wear ill-fitting scrubs, or whether it is true that fat nurses skip patient education because they are too embarrassed about being fat, etc. We can always find an extreme example of any quality to use as an excuse to denigrate others who share that quality. So I'm not going to go there.
Who on earth would put down someone's efforts to get themselves healthier in their own lives? I would hope nobody would. But to then use yourself as a silent yardstick that colors your attitude with respect to your function as a nurse is misplaced unless you have occasion to tell that patient about your story. And they have promised not to try to sidle out of the room just as you're about to get to the most riveting subsection or have their eyes slowly begin to glaze over ... kidding. . don't flame meeee :chair:
We can talk about people who are not physically up to the job, and we can talk about some of the atrocious scrub get-ups people arrive to work in, that's fair to talk about. It isn't singling out a particular group.