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  1. CountryMomma

    Thank you Planned Parenthood!

    What on earth is wrong with you? Why would you say such things?
  2. CountryMomma

    Thank you Planned Parenthood!

    Thank you, Planned Parenthood, for providing me with birth control, no shaming or hoops involved. I was afraid to go after the local "Pregnancy Center" accused me of creating bastards, called my boyfriend abusive because we have sex, and then told me I was in spiritual danger and handed me Jesus tracts. I didn't seek out women's care for two years afterwards out of sheer fear. So thank you, Planned Parenthood, for being open, honest, and legit.
  3. CountryMomma

    Dirty minds!!!

    I'm horrible. There isn't a pressure washer invented that could clean my filthy mind. My tongue looks like a road maps from all the places I've had to bite it. :) I'm often heard muttering "Phrasing!" I like me this way and have no inclination to change.
  4. CountryMomma

    ixchel's 9/26 What I learned this week.....

    Oh I just watched that last night! Underworld on National Geographic.
  5. CountryMomma

    ixchel's 9/26 What I learned this week.....

    I gotta just walk away. I learned that when lay people come to AN to tell us how it should be, I get punchy. I learned to trust my gut feeling when my unstable vent pt was revealed to have PEs and a mucus plug resulting in loss of 25% of the lung fx on that side. Especially when the Dr says it's just weaning anxiety, bump up the ativan. :no: I learned that a good charge is worth their weight in gold.
  6. CountryMomma

    9/12 What I learned this week......

    I'm in the parking lot of my hospital, leaking tears and heavily puffing on my ecig. I learned that 5 pts will kill me. I will not give good care. I will feel guilty and ashamed when my patients ask why I've been gone so long. I've learned that some internal med docs are just phoning it in while they wait for their specialty to open I've learned that said docs phoning it in makes me use my bad words and get stroppy w the aforementioned docs. I've learned that nursing is not what I dreamed it would be.
  7. CountryMomma

    9/12 What I learned this week......

    I work in a supersecret med-surg imcu. Supersecret as in they won't label us as imcu (because then we'd have staffing ratio rights) but they dump imcu pts on us anyways.
  8. CountryMomma

    9/12 What I learned this week......

    I learned today that being considered an experienced nurse (at a whopping 1.2 years on the floor) means you will get the crappy, demanding, high acuity assignments so the horde of newb nurses don't abruptly up and quit. I learned that I will verbally eviscerate an aide when they discuss all the food they're going to eat in front of my NPO, alert, dying-for-food pt. I learned that I feel people who post only to correct soneone's grammar/spelling should be assigned points. I learned that I need flexeril tonight d/t the ridiculous number of dressing changes/total cares/transfers I had today.
  9. CountryMomma

    Those darned Holiday Shifts

    As I am a druid in a predominantly Christian area, I am used to not discussing religion to avoid conflict. Well that, and my state is generally one where politics and religion are not considered topics discussed in polite company. :) Recently, the topic of holidays worked came up, and as I work only weekends right now, I ended up not working Thanksgiving, Christmas, or NY/NYE. There were a few nurses and aides that found this unfair - their lot in the scheduling system often had them working one holiday and the eve of another, or scrambling to rearrange their schedules to accommodate the change in the weekly schedule from having the holiday off. (I celebrate the secular events with Christmas, and all religions can enjoy NYE and Thanksgiving IMHO.) The awkward part began when the complaints started popping up about me having holidays off. I got a little irritated with this rhetoric and finally pointed out that I had been working ALL of my holidays - my religious holy days- without one damned peep. I didn't ask for them off, I didn't rearrange the schedule to suit my religion, I worked the days like I was scheduled and followed the virtues of Integrity, Piety, and Wisdom. My co-workers were taken aback - they didn't even realize I *had* other holidays. The discussion was dropped immediately and I felt a bit foolish for falling for it to begin with. So, my topic for discussion is, do you have holy days that aren't commonly known/accepted? Do you ask for them off? Have you dealt with this sort of irritation and unpleasantness about holidays worked?
  10. CountryMomma

    What is your favorite Fast Food sandwich?

    A mushroom and swiss burger from a local burger joint, Burger Time. This thing is rich, messy, with grilled mushrooms and onions all smothered in swiss and some kind of manna from heaven in the form of a gravy, between two perfectly toasted and buttered buns. That with a side of their chili fries and one won't need to eat for the rest of the day. I don't go there very often, for that exact reason. :) But oh, that burger...
  11. I really appreciated this. Really. :inlove: I'm the sister-in-law of that adult child, and I have done so much to help my mother and father in law through this. Yes, it was in the paper. On the news. Unpleasantly splashed across Facebook before we had told many family members and friends. I can't agree more about the lawyer bit. We've switched three times, and that third time was the charm. All I can say is, you better be on your toes, because the legal system doesn't give a fart in the wind about families, defendants, or anything like that. I can't count the number of letters written, phone calls made, and person visits arranged trying to help my brother. He deserves it, but you know what? We didn't pay bail either. He's safer in detention, and we can pay for his lawyer instead. The other thing I would like to add, is watch who you talk to about it. A lot of people will look at you like you've grown two green heads if you say "So I just saw X at the jail." The prevailing opinion truly seems to be you must be wrong/bad/dirty/shady because you have family there. 'Cause really, it isn't like the Kennedys or the Bushes haven't seen the inside of a jail cell once or twice...:whistling: That, and some people will hesitate at nothing to share that little tidbit you thought was between friends to the nearest "news" source they find. Of course, anonymously. All the fun with none of the backlash. Can you tell I've been there?
  12. My brother turns 20 this spring, and is dating an 18 yr old he has known for a few years. She's 5 months pregnant, and had just been dumped by her ex-fiance when she and my brother hooked up. I was skeptical about that to begin with, but since they've hooked up, she's had him at her beck and call. He lives about 30 miles out of town, and about 45 miles from her, but he drives to her house at least 3 out of the seven days a week to spend the night with her because she works the closing shift at a fast food joint. Lately it has been runs to the ER late at night (three in the past two weeks)...he picks her up, takes her to the hospital, stays the whole time, and then drops her off at home where she goes to bed and he goes to work a 10 hr shift at a factory. Lather, rinse, repeat. I asked him what she was always going in for, and it ranges from her chest hurt (she had bronchitis), she had a back ache, to she slipped at work and fell, wanted to make sure she didn't have a concussion. She called my brother at 7 pm tonight after he got off work at 5:30 pm, he drove to her work, picked her up and took her to the ER, and is still there, because the triage nurse isn't real worried. Then he has to drop her off back at home at some god-forsaken hour of the night, and get back here for a change of clothing to drive back to town to work. He's overdrawn on his bank acct b/c of all the gas he's burning to see her, he hasn't showered in a few days, and I'm terrified that he'll fall asleep at the wheel and crash into a bad wreck. But everytime I try talking to him about it, he gets all Romeo and starts in about how no one wants them to be together, she's just misunderstood, they're young but not dumb, insert other melodramatic teenage starry-eyed expression here. I don't know how to reach him, but I don't want her to use him until she's over the other guy and then kick him to the curb, or just use him for a cheap taxi/hand holder/babywatcher. Any ideas? Is this really something where he has to get burned to learn not to play with the matches? I'm 11 years older than he, so he tends to bristle at my mothering, even though I was wiping his snot nose and tying his shoes not that long ago. :)
  13. OP, As a child of two parents that should have divorced long ago, I can honestly say, staying together "for the kids" is often a martyr's habit. The parents do it because being bitter and sad is a comfortable state, and doing it for the kids is more acceptable than staying because its revenge and too challenging to break free. My mother recently told me show hopes she dies before my father, so he can see how much she really did for him before she died. She is choosing to wish to die to spite my father over watching her children raise their grandchildren and have holidays with all of her kids. But hey, they say they are still married because they (erroneously) believe it would hurt my youngest brother by splitting. I asked him - he'd rather they just get out and stop the constant bickering, the silent treatment, the disrespect for each other and him. Do you have a daughter? If you do, she is learning the same love patterns and there is a good chance she will model it in her future relationships. Same goes for your sons, except they will be the aggressors perpetrating the same cycle against their partners. This is your chance to stop the cycle and reset your childrens future. It took quite a bit of modeling and CBT for me to understand how two people properly love each other, and I am seeing the beginnings of impaired intimacy in my younger brothers. If things really are as dire as you say they are, then you do no favors to your children by staying. Yes, they will be confused and hurt by the change, but most children are quite resilient, and they will benefit greatly from seeing a person safely protect their self-esteem and their family. Both my husband and I come from broken homes, and quite truthfully, it was seeing what didn't work in our parents' relationships that helped us cement ours. We have been through hell and beyond in our 7 years of marriage, but we grow stronger, not bitter. I hope you are able to come to a decision that gives you inner peace. You are truly stuck between the rock and a hard place. (And don't let people tell you that divorce will break your kids, or that it makes you a horrible mom. Sometimes, you just can't polish a turd, no matter how hard you scrub and rub.)
  14. CountryMomma

    Answering the Inevitable

    Well, thank you, "james", but I can do those things by myself, for free. :) Also, I don't believe in bewitching people to believe something against their will. Which is, in effect, what you are offering. Thank you, also, Jean Marie. There is no guarantee when working with the spirits or God, so you are right...impossible to offer one!
  15. CountryMomma

    Answering the Inevitable

    I'd like to thank everyone for answering. The respect and lack of shock makes me hopeful that it really *is* becoming less of an issue. I know one poster said it was not any of my employers business what faith I am, but when that employers Vision, Mission, and Core Principles all include the words Christian, Christ, or God, it is easy to call a worker to the carpet, say they are not aligned with the Core Principles of the company, and dismiss them. ND is an at-will employment state, which affords me little in the way of protection, especially when the community I hope to work in is so small and interconnected. That being said, I am actually less worried about it now. I'm gathering that it would be okay for me to politely sidestep the discussion. Or turn it into a different avenue of topic. Believe it or not, I have already been asked why my kids aren't in Awana, and my oldest is in 1st grade. I don't even know what Awana is, other than something similar to Sunday School, but a few of the PTA moms are curious. So, I guess it is considered to be more acceptable here? Maybe because it is assumed that everyone *is* Christian. :) Thankfully, the biggest Christian holiday has passed and maybe it will be less of a topic, too! Thank you for giving me the pointers and hope. I think I can confidently shut it down before it starts. (And just to be clear, I am not "open" about my faith, and neither am I "in the closet". If it were just me and my husband, I would be less worried, but I cannot afford to have my kids ostracized for our religion, so I stay pretty low key.)
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