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  1. somenurse

    POST A PICTURE OF YOUR DOG or pet!!

    Nursing is stressful, imo, and pets are so so comforting.:) Looks like there are a lot of animal lovers who belong to this nursing forum!! Post a photo of your dog or pet!! ^ That is my beloved border collie, a rescue out of the death row box. Best ever dog in the whole world.
  2. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    Do not buy a dog, not any dog at all. Ha, the above remark, might lead to you think I do not think people should live with dogs, but, just the reverse, I think almost everyone should live with a dog.:inlove: But, do not buy one, do not support a breeder/puppy mill/store selling dogs from puppy mills/ with YOUR wallet, instead, rescue a homeless dog or puppy from Petfinder.com. We have a severe dog overpopulation crisis in USA, (and most other countries as well) with over 6 million dogs being put to death for the crime of not having a home. Each puppy or dog that is bought, competes for the available homes against these dogs: Petfinder.com http://www.petfinder.com/ (if your country has a great adopt-a-dog website, please add it below) Top Reasons Why People "Buy" Their Dogs: 1) I want a purebred, so I know what I am getting. Fine, go to petfinder, over 40% are purebred dogs. You can sort the homeless dogs there by breed, and even sign up for email alerts if the breed you desire arrives in the dog pound. I totally support researching the type of dog a person brings home, wish more humans did that. 2) I want to buy my purebred dog, so I know it is healthy. This is just opposite of reality, in fact, purebred dogs are plagued at far higher rate with illnesses and maladies, at a higher rate than mutts and mixed breeds. This is due to the smaller gene pool, and less than 5% of breeders properly check dog's Entire family tree prior to breeding to reduce inheritable problems. If you are really interested in a dog more likely to have a healthy life, consider a mutt! 3) I want to buy a puppy, so I can see it's parents, and know what I am getting. Ha, this is hilarious! :roflmao:Like humans, dogs can create puppies much unlike themselves in both size, temperament, ability, etc etc. Ask around, some amazing stories out there. Also, the 2 most difficult inborn neurobiological disorders, (visible on MRIs of the dog brain) are the "shy" dog,(reacts to most unknown humans, also called the "fear-aggressive dog") and the "dog-aggressive dog" (reacts to most unknown dogs) are both recessive genes, and are not visible in the litter box, but manifest later on, at age 6 to 9 months, or later. Many human inborn neurobiological disorders (autism, some forms of schizophrenia, some forms of sociopathy, for example) are inborn, and not evident at birth. Most breeders (and most dog authorities) still believe these issues are result of 'raising the do wrong', though. We can definitely make such dogs better or worse, but, this behavior is neurobiologically driven. It's usually only one or two of the litter, and many a person has chosen a pup from two 'normal' dog parents, only to find when that pup approaches maturity, it begins to manifest either one of those 2 disorders. You can NOT tell by the parents if the pup will have either disorder. Best way to avoid dealing with either issue, is to adopt an adult dog. Either of these 2 difficult disorders, is usually painfully, most obviously evident by 14 months old. Much of a dog's behavioral baselines and traits are inborn,yet, every dog is unique individual. 4) I want a puppy, so I can be his first human, and guide him into the type of dog I want him to become. Fine, go to petfinders, there a millions of puppies there. But, be aware, much of a dog's personality and traits are inborn, and not always evident in the newborn. 5) If I adopt an adult dog, it won't "latch" onto me, the way a puppy would. Pure horse pucky, nothing could be further from the truth. If you take home an adult dog, that dog will be a bit reserved initially, as it sizes you up, deciding if you are safe. But, once the dog has decided you are safe, (you can spot the day you have been approved, is so heartwarming) that dog will indeed love you more than you love yourself, more than he loves life itself, if you only give him a chance. Have you ever needed a second chance? 6) I don't want a dog pound dog, there is something wrong with those dogs or they would not be in a dog pound. :mad::mad::arghh: This is so so false. THE OVERWHELMING VAST MAJORITY OF DOGS IN PRISON, ARE LOVELY, LOVING DOGS, "READY TO GO" COMPANIONS WITH ZERO ISSUES WHATSOEVER, and did nothing wrong, but got thrown aside for sometimes horrifically stupid reasons..... Like... girlfriend did not like the dog, some of these dogs were handled wrong/misunderstood/neglected, some are runaways, some the owners moved and left the poor dog to fend for himself, some couldn't afford them, relative is allergic, they wanted to move to a 'no pets' apt, human ignorance, owner death/illness, couch potato took home a high energy breed, dog got lost, etc etc, and many dogs never had a chance to show how loving they really are. Yes, there are a few problem dogs in dog pounds, (same with puppy mills or those bought from breeders) and the dog pound staff usually spots these dogs fairly quickly, and sometimes these dogs are put down if the problem is severe, not adopted out, or, come with warnings "no other dogs in the house" etc. But even those dogs with behavior issues, deserve a good chance to the few of us willing to take on dogs with issues. (these 'special needs' dogs require knowledge, commitment and time, not for everyone). MOST DOG POUNDS HAVE PERSONNEL ON HAND TO HELP YOU "TEMPERAMENT TEST" A DOG you are interested in. Many dog rescue groups will send someone over to temp test the dog, in an effort to help one more dog get off death row. ADOPTING AN ADULT DOG is a great option. If you do not have the time to go potty train a baby dog (takes very frequent outings for months and MONTHS) or if you are not interested in going through the chewing/destructive phase, the nipping/biting phase, (ouch! ouch! ouch!) the ruin your carpet and drapery and furniture and ipod phase, the "you can't be away from home too long"phase, the crying all night long phase, the expensive multi-vet trips newborn phase,and all the other stages of puppyhood that may not fit into your lifestyle. Some issues do not manifest til the dog is adult, too. (thread to come on that). MEETING YOUR DOG AS AN ADULT is much less mysterious than bringing home an infant dog. Dawg bless those humans who will invest 24/7, for almost a year, into raising up and training baby dogs. IF YOU REALLY WANT A NO-MYSTERY DOG, consider adopting a dog in "rescue".(being 'fostered') (his is different from a dog in a "shelter"/dog pound.) The dog in "rescue" is living with a foster family, who can tell you allll about the dog, every little thing, is he friendly, outgoing, is he lazy, couch potato, or hyper, how much exercise does this dog need to stay sane, does he walk nicely on a leash, what is he afraid of, how does he get on with cats, strangers, kids, etc, does he shed much or bark a lot, is he okay home alone, how is he in a car, is he destructive if home alone, does he have any behavioral issues at all, etc etc etc, WHATEVER you want to know about a dog, that family can and will tell you the truth, they are interested in finding a good match. Dogs in dog pounds cost about $50, some are more. A few are almost free, and most dog pound shave "specials", too, but, if you are really poor, check to see if you can really afford a dog's food and vet bills, etc etc. Dogs in "rescue" are usually about $200, but the org is not making profit, once the food, vet bills, transport, etc is subtracted, and need that to keep their mission going. GO FIND YOUR NEXT BEST FRIEND!!! http://www.petfinder.com/
  3. somenurse

    Cool recipe sites?

    Here are some recipe sites i use. Today i was searching around for a great recipe for a carry in, and thought, some of these sites might be worth sharing on AN. This one, "Kraft recipes"-------- although it sounds corny,:sarcastic: and not every recipe on that site would be appealing for a healthnut, (but they DO have a healthy recipe area) is still a great recipe site for cooks on a budget, and cooks who prefer recipes that often use very simple common ingredients, and very few ingredients. I myself tend to prefer recipes that do not have bazillions of ingredients. http://www.kraftrecipes.com/home.aspx?cm_mmc=srch-_-bing-_-crm_brandexact-_-kraftrecipes_kraftrecipe_exact besides using simple everyday ingredients, Other things i like about THAT SITE, include, one can have your own "recipe box" to save your favorite recipes, you can (and SHOULD) read the reviews below the recipe, hearing from others who have made it is a plus, and you can also hit "add to my shopping list" to print up ingredients you need to buy, and you can also search in the "Healthy" recipe area, the "Budget" recipe area, the "Quick and Easy" areas, and many other ways they offer to divide up recipes, like hors d'oeuvres, holiday foods, party foods, side dishes, seasonal recipes, whatever. also, each and every recipe, gives calorie count and nutritional info on every recipe. Also, one of the coolest of all features is, is "USE WHAT'S ON HAND" thingie over on right hand side of the page, after you click on "recipes", you get this screen: http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/main.aspx There, you can type in up to 3 ingredients, and get recipes using those 3 ingredients. cool, eh? THAT SITE, the "Kraft Recipe" site, is where i found my all time favorite way to make fish: http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/citrus-grillers-64871.aspx ^AWESOME recipe, that i've used for years and years, so simple, so easy, great to make for company, as it doesn't require much attendance, and everyone demands the recipe...can be used to make other meats, too. We grill outdoors all year long, we always just shovel path through the snow to the grill, and i much much prefer to always cook fish outdoors anyway. Even people who say they don't care for fish, LOVE that recipe.:cheeky: WHAT RECIPE SITES DO YOU USE??
  4. somenurse

    Strangling Democracy

    While canvassing in political campaigns, I meet many a Democrat who proudly tell me they vote a "mixed" ticket. Funny enough, most Republicans (2/3s) WILL and DO vote a straight ticket, and only vote for Republicans only, whereas most Democrats (2/3) vote a "mixed" ticket. ^This is a most striking difference in how the two parties' members vote. The Democrats usually take immense pride in the fact that they vote for some Republicans too, and seem to feel doing this makes them superior voters... But here's the thing, that most voters are unaware of--------- The local Republicans that so many Democrats vote for, are the ones who decide where the districts lie. Where a district starts and ends, and WHO is in THAT district, or, if that district even exists at all. This is called GERRYMANDERING and it's becoming increasingly popular, (google "Virginia Gerrymandering") Where just the other week, some Republicans snuck through a whole new district map while one of their Democrat senators was in D.C. to witness the inauguration. NO warning, no previous discussions, just ran it through when the Democrat was at the inaugural. If the Democrat HAD been there, it would have been a tie) This kind of stuff is going on all over. Pow! Pow! Pow! One state after another, and districts that vote heavily democratically, are either being sliced in half, in the new map of districts, so their votes will be overwhelmed by the rest of their new district, or, condensed into only one (1) district that Democrats can win, instead of two districts. Yet, the Democrats proudly state, "I vote a mixed ticket!!" And almost always, the Democrats vote for LOCAL Republicans and NATIONAL Democrat candidates. Unaware the local Republicans they vote for, are the ones making that state's chances of electing a national democratic candidate, very very very slim. Once a district map is layed out, it lasts for TEN (10) YEARS!!!! That 'new' district, will have trouble electing any democrats for next 10 years. My own state senate district, when viewed on a map, is about 70 miles long, very very narrow This kind of thing is done by LOCAL Republicans I myself, strongly wish, we had popular vote, and let go of electoral voting, which would indeed, whack the importance of where a district lies----------- in half, same as their gerrymandering maps do to our votes. GOP's gerrymandered advantages In 2010, Republicans won many state governors and houses of Republicans , and increased their gerrymandering, ------->and in 2012, Democrats won more votes, but got less seats in the US house of representatives. :banghead: It's only going to get worse. NOW some repubs are discussing and proposing that a state's house of rep districts be used to cast the electoral votes for the Presidential election, especially in swing states--------- even further reducing the power of popular vote, further strangling our democracy. Six states are now proposing adopting RNC chairman's plan to rig the electoral votes in swing states to favor the Republicans candidate in Presidential elections. "MIXED TICKET" DEMOCRATS, please reconsider the power of the local and state Republicans you vote for, in creating oddly imbalanced districts (gerry-mandering) that do impact the national vote for your state. IF IF IF there is ever any state ballot for a nonpartisan committee to draw district maps vote YES!! Here is more ideas we can do to help others learn about preventing the destructive gerrymandering onto our democracy: Three ways to block republican gerrymandering of the electoral college
  5. President Obama did not "double" the deficit. http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/statements/2012/oct/05/mitt-romney/mitt-romney-says-barack-obama-has-doubled-deficit/ The thing people do not understand, is, the annual budget was inherited. If the annual budget was $4 trillion per year when Obama walked in, it is $4 trillion per year, each and every year. It is an ongoing thing, in place, adding up. Kinda like your mortgage, if that comparison helps you visualize it. Your mortgage is $800, per month, each and every month. Lets say your name is W. Lets say you inherited an economy in almost record breaking great condition, but, then started 2 unpaid for wars, and lack of regulation on wall street in the banking world contributed to both housing bubbles and banks crashing, and for a number of reasons, let's say you did not pay the mortgage for about 7 years, W now has $900,000 in debt. W's annual "bills due to be paid" are now much higher, and adding up and up and up. If someone else assumed exact same loan from W, let's call him O, this person named O will now owe $15,000 per month, and is starting out $900,00 in debt already.(NOT the $800 per month list of bills due) If O can't pay the new size of the mortgage, of $15000, each and every month, adds onto the existing $900000 he inherited. In no time, O now owes $180,000 per year, due to the new size of the mortgage he inherited, in addition to the $900,000, and it will continue to add on and on, as those debts are ongoing, in-place debts & bills he inherited. Even just adding the cost of the wars, into the actual defense budget, on O's first budget, just doing that alone hugely and dramatically increased the budget, but, it's more rational than paying for the wars by congressional appropriations bills, which are not counted in the annual budget reports of "bills due to be paid". A fact no rightwinger seems aware of, is the budget was been dramatically reduced, the monthly mortgage has been reduced, and that $4 trillion, owed EACH AND EVERY YEAR, HAS BEEN reduced, in record levels, but, it is still overblown, and still adding up. Each and every year. http://www.nbcnews.com/id/49392702#.UR1AxJYUUtF //"The Obama administration spent $3.538 trillion in the 2012 fiscal year, 1.7 percent less than last year due to the expiration of stimulus provisions, a stronger economy, the end of military operations in Iraq and the continued drawdown in Afghanistan, the Treasury said."// Under President Obama, the yearly budget has been reduced $200 billion per year!! This is record setting reduction in the annual budget!! Yet, the budget remains more than we can pay, and it continues to add up. http://www.cbpp.org/cms/?fa=view&id=2755 The budget explained, in plain speak, although, definitely written by a liberal, so some may rebuke this post here: http://maddowblog.msnbc.com/_news/2012/10/12/14399005-us-budget-deficit-shrinks-by-over-200-billion-reaches-4-year-low?lite But, if you distrust a PhD in political science, then here is the CBO, saying Obama reduced the budget by $1.9 trillion: http://cbo.gov/sites/default/files/cbofiles/ftpdocs/99xx/doc9957/01-07-outlook.pdf Also, many people do not grasp kenseyian economics that well. turning around an economy as vast as the USA's is like turning a giant ship. At least we were saved from actually sinking! A crashing economy does need money circulating to keep multiple businesses alive. Imo, blaming Obama for the economy, is sort of like blaming the fireman called to put out the fire. Yes, it IS still smoldering, so let's blame the fireman next to it! Must be HIS fault, cuz surely the fire he ran to put out, should be extinguished by now. No doubt, i will get flamed for this post, but, interesting to learn some facts anyway. (hits "submit" and then ducks!!)
  6. somenurse

    Relationships

    yes, i understand, there can be legal bennies, especially for widows/widowers, to having been legally married. I can also feel, for some people, there can be some emotional bennies to NOT being legally married, for some people. Others might feel there are emotional bennies to being legally hitched. Guess to each their own. we *almost* got married once, when he needed carpal tunnel surgery after planting 60 trees to line our yard....but, it seemed not a great reason to get married,:roflmao: so, we didn't.
  7. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    Many of your remarks, i feel i already addressed in posts above, so i will not repost the words again here, too. I do not 'condemn' her beliefs, i question how she came to accept the beliefs in the first place. I feel so long as one IS polite, it is okay to have a different POV, or to question the basis of how we ever came to accept some of our beliefs. Not questioning these ideas had helped religions grow more powerful. I don't think having a different POV equates to 'scorn', but, some people do. I was generous enough, that when someone stated earlier their son believes every part of the bible, that i did not list about a bazillion obvious false statements, contradictory statements, or severely, horrifically immoral parts of the bible. I skipped that. but, that'd be a fun discussion to have someday. Why discuss how Jesus might have reacted to today's issues? Well, I was just pointing out my favorite feature about Jesus, when i mentioned there are many qualities about Jesus that even i like. Some to many christians feel that "What would Jesus do?" is a guideline for today's issues. But, i can agree, there could be more rational ways to approach the issues of today, than by studying what would Jesus do. Many people on the religious rightwing, should reconsider the legislations and attitudes they push while their wearing their religion on their sleeves, IF their attitudes even slightly resembles the examples given by the gods that they are wearing on their sleeves. Some politicians do openly state they vote by their religious beliefs/"brinigng god back to Washington"/"what would Jesus do", etc. Seems to be perverting what Jesus actually said and did, imo, and such politicians should be questioned how they can push such blatant cognitive dissonance. but, overall, i am very much FOR complete, 500%, separation of religion and govt. So, sorry about that, i was just saying my favorite part about Jesus, was, his liberal views on almost every subject. Jesus was fairly consistent on those topics, too. OH, i thought a public thread ABOUT GODS, was a good place to discuss gods, even if not everyone agrees. Contrary to how many people see it, i don't think having a different opinion, or even just questioning, are 'disrespectful' or wrong or offensive. I think it is sometimes the root of self-exploration or good discussions. I do not see questioning or politely having a different POV as same thing as belittling, and do feel replying to her post to me, was a reasonable thing to do, even if i have questions about how one ends up participating in the religions that they participate in, on a public thread to explore ideas people have about gods. I think exploring how or why one came to believe the things they believe, is a good thing to regurgitate and reconsider now and then. But, many theists seem to think curiosity and questioning why or how they ever first came to believe what they believe ---is a bad idea. (SOME forms of questioning are acceptable, it is in obvious agreement, or done as academic just 'fine tuning' with other theists who all basically agree the bible is 'good', or done to prepare the believer for facing things they might hear that don't click with what they've being taught, etc. so their beliefs they are taught don't fall apart) But questioning why we believe things, where we got the idea in the first place, is often seen as bad idea by some theists, or even 'scornful'. I think exploring how we came to accept an idea as true, with no evidence, can be interesting discussion or even just a self-exploration to have, and should be encouraged. Why should it matter that you do think Jesus is a 'good' god? ^ *I* am not asking ^that, oh heavens no, i am not asking that!! don't blast me, i am not actually asking that. but, i am just turning your own words a bit, so you can hear it might sound in reverse if i were to post that to someone who posted they thought Jesus is a good god. I think i might get slammed. These two remarks, your remark, and my hypothetical remark below it, kind of seem the same, imo, but, in reverse, it feels different now, don't they? It almost sounds "scornful" to some extent, either remark.... btw, i was using the word "you" in a general sense, not you-YOU, Leslie, if that makes sense. I often hear people state Jesus was some amazing example of how to live----------------- it almost never questioned. It seems to be almost universally accepted, that yes, that Jesus was good moral example to follow. and i think it is worth exploring if that is true, or not. I think some of the things he was "for" are awesome, :) (as i listed above) :) but, i also think some of the messages he put out, are not moral, not 'good', and worth exploring as possibly very bad ideas. But, mostly, everyone has been convinced that Jesus is "good" example (many posts on threads saying that) but, i say, it's open to debate, if the either half of the bible ARE actually 'good' they way so many insist it is. i HOPE i helped you understand. f i failed, i did try, anyway. I also hope i replied sloooowly enough to show respect. THANK YOU. peace out.
  8. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    i believe you. The fact it was never brought up in your bible class, does not mean it's not true. That is fine if you do not want to attempt evaluating how Jesus's words could apply to today's issues, or if you do not want to attempt to explore how some of the examples Jesus set, could be used a guide for many complex issues we face today, but, i feel if one does look at the NT biblegod Jesus, there are many many stories that indicate he might have been a liberal on almost every issue. But, i will completely, entirely agree, that there are far more valid and rational ways to approach today's issues, than by studying what Jesus did. i feel the message in the NT is open to debate. It is not often questioned, if many or most of the messages, like "Love me or Burn!" or "Dump Your Family" are a worthy or even anywhere near a 'good' messages from a 'good' god, or if some of the morals being put forth are 'good' ideas. To even explore or even question if this is the case-- that the NT is 'good' book--- the very question is sometimes met as "an insult", and often, for some christians, a brand new idea that maybe the message there is not often a 'good' one. I could post many a NT bibleverse, which do not represent what most people see as 'good' family values, or very good morals. I feel the end result of believing in the bible, as being 'good' for a person, or a nation, is open to debate, too. but, i can and will admit, there are some good ideas in the bible, too,------ but, they are nestled amongst so many absolutely horrific ideas, i find it amazing so many are able to successfully cherry pick the good bits out, and then declare that is a 'good' book, with 'good' ideas in it. sometimes, we humans see what we are told is there. The overwhelming power of christianity in this nation being trivialized, does not happen often, as this religion has been in power for eons, and influences govt. Almost no one can be elected, without frequently insisting they worship the bible gods. (very few exceptions) If a politician is suspected of not worshipping the bible gods, or not worshiping the bible gods enough, or any suspicions that the politician ever worshipped other gods instead of the bible gods, wow, there can be problems, depending on the state he/she lives in. Hardly "trivialized" when it an impacts our govt and sometimes, even our legislation!! I do not see questioning something as same thing as "trivializing" something. I am for respectful and rational discussions, and feel questioning can be part of that exploration. PS---i hope i am correctly using the 'quote' feature, so this comes out right.
  9. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    I will be offline tomorrow, too, but, i am now reading your very thoughtful posts. NOt sure i'll have time to reply to everything today, or not. which i much appreciated her taking the time to explain why she chose the bible. I felt most of the need for the bible, imo, why she turned to the bible, that some parts of her reply kind of reminded me of hypothetical things done for another hypothetical god, back in reply#63. Why a person chooses one god over another, when there are so many available gods to worship, or how an obviously intelligent person like AKY, can cherry pick to find a way to overlook the atrocities and immorality in the bible, and still use it as her guide in life, is interesting to me, and a worthy topic, imo. Some people reading along can have the beginnings of an oncoming "ah ha" moment, if they study how they ended up worshiping the particular theistic god that they worship, why that theistic god? Others don't have that moment. Sometimes, that moment, can be a step towards more questioning. I am not so much promoting atheism, as i have, on multiple posts, made supportive remarks about deism over theism. I am more promoting logic, rationality, reason, the use of critical thinking skills, and questioning in general,how and questioning how and why we think what we think, and yes, i am, apparently, having to justify these things. To avoid making a too-long post, i will not reply to ALL the rest of the remarks in just one (1) post, and instead, will strive for shorter posts, and reply to other remarks in subsequent posts. I hope that doesn't get me in trouble for multiple posts, but, many valid questions are being asked of me, and i sincerely feel the other remarks deserve a reply, too.
  10. somenurse

    Menopause gives us pause...

    ah, sorry, i never read the article, cuz i can't remember my Medscape password, and when i try to RE-register to read the article, it says that email already has an account. *sigh*. so the article is about some kind of "bark"? Like what, tree bark?
  11. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    Herring, it's not hard to learn to use a clicker, it's really not. If you watch the vid, you can see how simple it is. It's only 5 minutes per day, too. Hilarious about the cat!!:roflmao: I don't know if this story is true, but, apparently, my grandmother, my grandmother was trying to potty train her pup, and in those days, it was not unusual to push dog's nose into the poop if the dog pooped in the house. Back then, humans might have thought dogs learn the way humans learn. So Grandma would push the dog's nose into the poop, and throw dog out the window. The dog never really potty trained well, and instead, learned to put his own nose into the poop and then, jump out the window!:roflmao:
  12. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    That was beautiful, AKY, so raw and honest, so honored how you shared such tender moments to explain your feelings. Thank you for explaining how you feel to me, it is an honor to stand witness to bits of your heart. My eyes heart moved when reading your post, AKY. Moments that were powerful to you, had the bible inserted into them. It is comfortable and familiar to you. At times when you were maybe barely able to inhale/exhale, at maybe the hardest ever moments in your life, others around you comforted you with words from the bible. You most likely, grew up with it. You have found a way to maybe focus only the parts you like best, ignore the rest, without letting those ugly parts land on you, or maybe you just skip over/gloss over those parts of the NT, and it is almost maybe a habit for you, to turn to it, when you are stressed or afraid or in pain or whatever. It might even be part of a community you belong to, in some form or another, like i talk about in post#63. Still, even the NT has terrible ideas, (like eternal torture for finite sins, and so many other bad ideas in the NT too, i could list them all, but won't) The Jesus character, who mentioned over 100 times to follow the OT, referred to OT stories as real, and Jesus did leave much to be desired, but did had some great qualities.. i personally especially loved that the Jesus god was a liberal. even said those who don't help the poor will burn eternally, (apparently didn't think of the poor as 'takers') and seemed to think rich people might not be getting into heaven, Jesus did not seem a fan of making money as the end all goal, was wayy into sharing (usually) Seemed to grasp that taxes were necessary in some communities with shared amenities, and was intermittently against violence. Lots of things make me think he'd be a liberal. Plus, like his dad, Jesus liked wine. You could pick a worse god. but, i could list a ton of things wrong with him, too. Kinda big list of questionable things most people don't seem to notice are very wrong with that guy. "Love me or Burn" is no way to get love, imo. There are some fascinating stories about that Paul. The origins of any religion are always interesting to me. but, you have made many powerful associations to the stories of these particular gods, and to that book. Maybe a solemnity can surround it, in your mind, too, because of the associations there. It might even be, in part, a sentimental thing for you by now, too. thank you again for opening your heart up like that, it was very beautiful, very generous of you.
  13. somenurse

    Relationships

    I have been in love more than once. I have been in love two and a half times. Two times, for sure, that was love. (the half way one, was just fun,:lol2: close to love, but not quite, still a very good part of my life) Each time i was in love, i was sure, i'd never be able to love like THIS again. I was positive and convinced, only THIS man could be my love, only THIS here man, and THIS here relationship, could ever be for me, nothing could match THIS!! NO one could ever be this close to me again, no one could ever understand me like this, only THIS man here, and i would never ever be able to really get to know and love anyone the way i love THIS man. I was wrong.:eek: I fell in love yet again. Much to my shock, it was just as wonderful, if not better!!! AGain, i think, "only THIS man could be for me. I could never love or be loved, the way he and i are together, THIS is it! No one could be as close as WE are, if this man dies or whatever, that's it, i'm retiring." and so on. but, love comes yet again, and is just as marvelous if not better, even when we were SURE our last love could never be topped. having married my first love right before college and had only ever lived with HIM, i was kinda shocked to discover, how DIFFERENT everything is, from one man or one relationship, to another. Since i'd really only lived with the one man, i guess i had somehow figured, pretty much all relationships are kinda basically the same if they are good ones. WRONGggggg!!!!! (in between the two loves, i had some fun being single, too, dating around and learned a lot about dating as a grown up. Have lots of single pals, too, whose lives i follow along. Meeting men in real life, is not quite like when we were young, when we were ALL single, and all Very interested in having a sweetiepie..... it can take actual effort in some age groups to find a mate...., you can see someone here or there, have hilarious conversation with someone, feel the click, and yet, sometimes no one gets numbers and you never see them again. that happens a lot to single gals, really. I'd like to think "the universe will just send me someone":rolleyes: or "Pure chance will send my pal Marlo someone to date, she is so wanting a sweetie" , but sometimes, it does help to look/participate in finding someone, like i was saying earlier in my derail-ish post. My single pals who look, and unabashedly admit they are looking for a sweetie, do better at finding sweeties than those that don't) Anyone out there, wondering if there really is more than one person you can love, and be loved by, let me tell ya, YES YES YES!! This planet is so full of marvelous humans, there is almost no way, that only one person is lovable and loving to you. so much love out there, almost impossible to imagine it can't be in yet another great relationship for you. PS---To AKY, i never married my 2nd love, either------ i figured i had a nursing license, a fishing license, a drivers license, and didn't feel i need a license for what i'm doing with him!! rofl!! :roflmao: BUT, we did get medical POA, financial POA (esp handy if someone dies) and other legal things done. Including hipaa stuff, too, so his doc can talk to me, etc. Can't even really think of alll the lil things we did to make things smoother that way. but yeah, insurance is a dawg!!
  14. somenurse

    Menopause gives us pause...

    Mine was pretty bad, and i was stunned, that i did have such a hard time with it, cuz i always saw myself as very durable, sturdy type, but nooooooooo, i had troubles. I had hot flashes, insomnia (which, at the time, i didn't realize WAS a symptom) a lil trouble focusing, and gained almost 20 lbs. My hot flashes were pretty bad for months, and once, while watching a nature show about creatures at the bottom of the ocean that blink off and on, i pointed at tv, and told my family, "THAT looks like, how i FEEL!!" :roflmao: ON the bright side, this reverse puberty does end. For me, mentalpause was such a shock to my system, it was almost like waking up with someone else's metabolism and body. Anyone see that movie "Avatar" about humans being transferred into blue alien-ish bodies? Mentalpause for me, was like that scene where the guy wakes up for first time in the new, blue body.. :roflmao::roflmao:(okayyyyyyy maybe i am exaggerating juuust a lil bit there..) but, it ends!! Then, it's all good.
  15. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    OH Herring, I understand, i had same trouble with my dog,:rolleyes: only it was he ate poop out in the yard!!:yawn: you can clicker train that beloved dog of yours to leave the trash alone, you can. It's not that hard to do, BUT it does take about 2 weeks of daily five-minute lessons to teach this SOLIDLY to a dog, so the dog can be trusted even if you are not there. Teaching "leave it" is done in increments, over time. I began with items my dog was NOT very drawn to, such a piece of bread. I was near dog, and bread was far away on floor. I only left it there for a minute at first. I set dogs up for success. We have to be careful to not ask too much, too fast. Reward BEFORE they mess up! ha ha!!:lol2: Over many five-minute long lessons, i trained my dog the cue "leave it". Over time, i advanced the cue so the item was closer to dog, and slowly increasing to more tempting items, and over time, i was ever so slightly further away from the dog. My dog got the concept right away, still, i "proofed" it---advancing slowly---- by not asking more of him than he was qualified to do yet. Now, i can put a hot steak down right in front of him. and leave the room, he won't touch it.:woot: After Buddy fully understood and had mastered the cue "leave it", THEN i took Buddy over to various poops, and gave cue "leave it" and he got big prizes for not eating the poop. I did this for weeks to ensure he 'generalized' the concept to ALL poopies he found. Now, he never ever eats poop. Never. Here is a link to quickie video to very similar method of teaching your dog to "leave it". This is an all-positive trainer i much admire, named Kikopup. Most any trouble anyone is having with a dog, if you google the words "kikopup + name of your dog's issue" like "kikopup barking" or "kikopup biting" or "kikopup running away" or whatever, there's a good chance that kikopup has posted a quickie, 5 minute video on how to solve that problem. Here is one of 3 different videos on "leave it" from kikopup. she has 2 other videos, too, on same topic, worth a google. ^her method is slightly different from mine, but, she is great. Either way will do. If clicker training is new to you, do google "kikopup clicker training" or see Karen Pryor's site. It does take some practice, the timing is crucial, but not hard to learn at all. No scolding is invovled. Use teeny tiny treats to avoid a full or fat dog. (i have recipe posted in somewhere in this "Pets" area of good treat to use) GOOD LUCK!! YOU CAN DO THIS, HERRING!! YOU CAN!! Won't your family be so surprised when you have taught your dog to leave the trash alone? :yes::) If you hit a snag, or a roadblock, feel free to post it on DogTrickAcademy, they are all clicker trainers over there.
  16. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    don't give up. Others will be by, sooner or later, your question hasn't been up very long yet. here is that old old quote, that ti first heard decades ago. It is from Susan B. Anthony, sufferagate, civil rights activist, patriot, and apparently, a free-thinker. //" “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.”//
  17. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    //". So far it tells us there is some correlation. However, correlation doesn't prove causation; even if there is causation, correlation doesn't indicate which is the cause and which is the effect."// SUCH GREAT POINTS!! You are absolutely 100% right on that!! However, the malformations found in shy dogs or DA dogs, are never ever found in any 'normal' dog, not ever. The more i think about that, the more amazing it becomes. If if if they ever do find a 'normal' dog with the same abnormalities in his brain----- but that dog IS acting 'normally', it'd blow the whole theory, that these abnormalities are the cause. but, til they do find even one (1) 'normal' dog with the brain abnormalities, it does seem to suggest there could be causal relationship. also, like i've said before, there is a veyr consistent neurochemistry found in both types of dogs, and each type of dog, (the shy dog, or the DA dog) has it's own set of blood chemistry abnormalities, it's not the same as each other. This, along with the difference in their behavior, also suggests, it is two different disorders, with neurochemical causes at play. //" if so, then no, I don't know of entire litters being stricken with it or even every litter of parents who have produced it but I don't see what that has to do with my point."// Oh, i have forgotten who, but, someone seemed to have idea (or i misinterpreted their post) that entire litters are stricken, or that EVERY litter of pups everywhere, has 1 or 2 that are stricken, but, i don't think so at all. Sorry for confusion. It's almost invariably, only 1 or 2 of a litter, IF a litter is stricken at all, never the whole entire litter. (thank goodness, right?!)
  18. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    //"Not all training methods work for all dogs."// clicker training works for all dogs. as well as many other creatures. If anyone is having trouble clicker training, let me know, or join DogTrickAcademy. It can be done 'wrong', but, if done correctly, clicker training does work for all dogs. //". I like frustrating activists and people with agendas."// I don't see trying to reduce the number of dogs being put to death as an agenda, but, maybe it is. If it is, i'm proud to participate in it!! COUNT ME IN :) on that one!! Proud to have that 'agenda'.
  19. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    Pets to people, i disagree with much of what you said, and i especially disagree with your interpretation of what *I* am saying, you imply many many things i have never ever said, not a once. You are putting words in my mouth. or "posts" as it were! I can't defend what i never said. and yes, there have been actual posts on this thread, from people saying if one wants a working dog, or service dog, they'd have to buy the dog from a breeder,:rolleyes: which is why i said that isn't true. I did say that could be one of the more rational reasons to buy a dog, but, one can get working dogs and service dogs from the dog pound. but, whatever. Is no point to reply to all the stuff i am disagreeing with. Like someone said, not everyone can learn new ideas. I will readily admit, i am an optimist, and tend to have faith that my fellow man can absorb new ideas now and then. I also do not think many people in the general public are very aware of the crisis levels our dog overpopulation has reached. Maybe everyone or most of the people on this thread know of it, but, i don't think the general public knows how severe of a crisis it really is. I also never ever see the harm in TRYING to help others be aware of a crisis. Even if i fail, even if not one person has begun to see adopting a dog as a good option for them, instead of buying a dog with an AKC paper, even if i failed, what harm is done? good luck.
  20. somenurse

    Relationships

    btw, i want to apologize, that my post is so off topic, i misunderstood the OP as someone curious about resuming dating as a mature woman, or someone undecided if that is even worthy goal for mature woman/needed encouragement to go for it. sorry for my post which is more about egging her on to go for it, if she wants it.
  21. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    i love love LOVE your post here, Leslie!! I guess i feel similarly, about my impassioned love of rationality, learning, reasoning and critical thinking skills and questioning! I also kinda feel it is a loss for any who don't agree that these are most worthy guidelines to follow, too. I think reality is awesome, and think wayyyy too few people even realize the vast wonders all around us to explore and learn about. I know i didn't used to. so, i think we might have that in common!! I wish more theists could exist peacefully alongside of each other, but, sadly, theism is often (if not always, but, let's go with "often") somewhere at the root of most wars, and many of our darkest hours, much conflict, and even division amongst some family members at times. Endless list of problems caused by theism. But, hard to find many troubles ever caused by deism, imo. I do wish there was some universal religion, that was just about love, peace, understanding, including everyone, those who believe in deities, or not. Deities could be optional. Even I'D join THAT church!! If they don't link to theistic gods. Heck, i'd probably study up to become one of their ministers and donate heavily to such a religion.... If it existed. I know, i know, every theist reading along will jump in and say, "that's MY religion!" but, religions are exclusive, have odd and often discriminatory rules, oppress one group or another, etc. come with what seem to be very irrational stories, etc, is not same thing as love. Love is not same thing as the named gods of any theism. I don't think religions and gods have much to do with each other, at all. (if gods existed, i doubt they'd have anything to do with theism) Especially religion might not have anything to do with the kind of gods as described in the way that Leslie and others who might be understanding the gods as a more bigger, generalized "for everyone" love-energy and nature and physics kinds of visions of gods. okay, the others on this thread, described THAT kind of god wayyyy better than my lil synopsis there. btw, Leslie, one of the most interesting descriptions of gods i ever ever heard, came from my pals 9 year old son. He said, "We all have our very own god, inside of us. There are lots of gods, or maybe it's only one god, divided up amongst all of us. We all get a little piece of the god, just for us. We all get our very own god." i thought that was amazing from a child.
  22. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    I agree with so so much of this post. AKY, since any christian can really answer only for themself, could you share why do you use the bible or a religion at all? If you don't mind my asking. Since you are obviously capable of following your own inner moral code, and willing to do so, and since you do know right from wrong, how to be good moral person, etc, why do you need the bible? If you don't mind my asking this, but, you seem able to explain even difficult things, and willing to admit you do cherry pick. I can easily understand someone wanting to read inspirational stuff, i can. I do that myself. But much of the bible is not that great of morals, and most everyone just believes the stories they "like". I can understand someone wanting a god, i really do. I can understand someone really believing in a god, i really do. I just can't understand why someone would want to indulge in the bible, when so so so many of the stories in it are ghastly and immoral, no matter how you interpret them. Yes, yes, some bible stories ARE very open to interpret one way or another, but, genocide is genocide is genocide. Mass slaughter of children is mass slaughter of children. Ordering or condoning rape, is ordering or condoning rape. Lots of really horrific stuff in there, being ordered by or done by the gods. Lots of stuff does not strike me as inspirational, and wouldn't want children exposed to those stories. Tons of very bad morals in that book. I can agree, it *might* be the bible was not divinely inspired as some christians say it was, i can agree, there can be errors in translation, etc, but, why would anyone be so willing to slog through all the reeeally bad stuff in that book, to find where there might some good ideas?? Doesn't a person already know right from wrong, and how to be good moral person? I hope nothing here offends you, i am very sincere. I truly don't get it, why a person would choose a named god over being a deist. if you don't want to answer this, i understand. If anyone else reading along, is willing to explain why they choose a named god over being a deist, i'm happy to hear their ideas too. NO doubt, there'd be different ideas from different christians. As always, i am always willing to answer to any questions asked of me, too. I do not get insulted if you ask me stuff, i don't mind. I often get "what if you're wrong" and "aren't you afraid of hell" etc. I don't mind, i don't feel insulted by someone else's genuine attempt to understand a new point of view.
  23. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    me too! me too! i LOVE the holidays!! I am fairly careful to use only ornaments and customs with pagan or secular basis, and avoid the nativity crib, but i do use decorating the tree the red and green decor the evergreen wreaths music, singing and feasting for 12 days holly and ivy elves and imps mistletoe the yule log and many other pagan and secular based customs still enjoyed today. i LOVE the holidays, i celebrate them all too!
  24. somenurse

    Relationships

    such an honest thread, all the posts are so good!I love almost all of the many factors already listed above. Great stuff! I think it helps if the person entering into the relationship is already a happy person. If someone is generally a disgruntled or chronically depressed person, once the infatuation phase wears off, there's a good chance that person would default back to resuming being a chronically depressed person again, sooner or later. still, those kinds of people can have satsfying LTRs, but i think one's chance of having a happy relationship is increased, if the people entering into it, are basically happy people by nature. It helps if you have same priorities and goals as each other, and it is more fun, imo, if you have some mutual interests to share, and it helps if the people know how to forgive and move on, if they do hit a chuckhole (you will). Some people seem to have a better ability to love fully, than others do, imo. One can lose their appetite for love, as the OP sorta/kinda sounds like this might be something she is experiencing. I think many of our appetites, be it for companionship, food, sex, learning, whatever, sometimes, we have to push ourselves a bit now and then, as some appetites seem to do better when regularly fed. this might be true of dating, too. If one withdraws off the social circle, one can end up replacing some things or losing the urge for them entirely. Certainly, some people do need a break now and then. I once heard someone say, referring to not wanting to date, "It's hard to want a 7 course meal, when you've just thrown up" but, if one has healed again, i say, get back up on the horse, if that is what you want! (not that single folks can't be totally happy just as they are, too, not my point, but, if you do want a sweetie, go for it) so far meeting people, i am all "for" people persuing others actively. For real, it's lovely idea "if you are not looking, that is when love arrives" but, i think it is okay to actively look. Ask pals to hook you up, join various groups that you are interested in, do volunteer work in causes you care about, say hello first, try one of those online matchmaker things, but only meet in public,(NOT your home, you meet him in public) for lunch only, for first meeting(s). Lunch is cheaper, faster, and if you set down for dinner and immediately realize, this person is not a good match for me, oh wow, long evening. NO 'evening' first dates, imo, if this is a stranger to you. also, i am super liberal, super progressive type of person, but, i think some people do better if they don't include sex as part of "how do you do". For real, many women, and some men, after sex, begin to overly invest, and believe "we are a couple" when the other person is thinking "that was nice, where is the remote.." People jump into bed too fast, imo. Yes, yes, some couples still do well, evne though they have sex right off the bat, but, i think there can be long list of benefits to falling in love FIRST, and THEN having sex. Infatuation is not the same thing as love, love requires deep knowledge of the other person, flaws and all, and infatuation can be instant. Love is secure, infatuation is heady, sometimes anxiety-producing roller coaster feeling, veyr thrilling. anyway, the two emotions are often mistaken for each other. It's good thing to know the difference. Infatuation can lead to love, but, it is not quite the same thing as love. I think waiting to get know someone first, very very welll, has all kinds of perks, too many to list almost. It also reduces your chance of getting a broken heart, imo. You invest a little bit less, if you keep one foot on the floor emotionally, and for some humans, they are then a lil less vulnerable to assume the relationship is more mutual than it really is. I feel dating is kinda like driving....the slower you go, the less chance of having a terrible accident. oh, you can still feel all the joys and thrills, but, take it slooow....invest slowly. Get to really know this new person. Just reduces your risk to your heart, imo. It's better to find out he is chronic cheater or gambler or whatever, before you have handed over your heart. imo. Many people tend to hand over their heart, when they have sex. so waiting til you really know the person well, might be good idea. to the OPs other questions: Dating as older person, you can still get the butterflies and can still feel 17 all over again. Some things are just the same as when you were young. but I think advantages we can have as mature people include we often are far more aware of what we want or don't want we might be less likely to invest in someone just because they are cute. (some of us can let cute matter as a more important factor when we are young) we know who we are by now. We enter as fully developed, self aware people. some older people can enjoy being in a child-free couple thing, which can be fun, as parenthood can be draining sometimes. i also think relationships take work and prioritizing, now and then, to keep it healthy. I think you BOTH have to want it. good luck, hope anything here helps you, OP!!
  25. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    also, there ARE TRULY PHENOMENAL EVENTS going on, in real life, alllllll around us, and throughout the universe, for real. the more you learn of these things, the more amazing and fascinating they become. I must admit, i was blind to most of these til i became atheist and fell in with more science minded people and websites and books and documentaries and classes all turning me on to the truly amazing things all over this planet and out in the cosmos, that i was mostly oblivious to before. if that is too small, it reads "Reality is Awesome" it's been a real awakening for me.
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