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  1. somenurse

    Relationships

    yes, i understand, there can be legal bennies, especially for widows/widowers, to having been legally married. I can also feel, for some people, there can be some emotional bennies to NOT being legally married, for some people. Others might feel there are emotional bennies to being legally hitched. Guess to each their own. we *almost* got married once, when he needed carpal tunnel surgery after planting 60 trees to line our yard....but, it seemed not a great reason to get married,:roflmao: so, we didn't.
  2. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    Many of your remarks, i feel i already addressed in posts above, so i will not repost the words again here, too. I do not 'condemn' her beliefs, i question how she came to accept the beliefs in the first place. I feel so long as one IS polite, it is okay to have a different POV, or to question the basis of how we ever came to accept some of our beliefs. Not questioning these ideas had helped religions grow more powerful. I don't think having a different POV equates to 'scorn', but, some people do. I was generous enough, that when someone stated earlier their son believes every part of the bible, that i did not list about a bazillion obvious false statements, contradictory statements, or severely, horrifically immoral parts of the bible. I skipped that. but, that'd be a fun discussion to have someday. Why discuss how Jesus might have reacted to today's issues? Well, I was just pointing out my favorite feature about Jesus, when i mentioned there are many qualities about Jesus that even i like. Some to many christians feel that "What would Jesus do?" is a guideline for today's issues. But, i can agree, there could be more rational ways to approach the issues of today, than by studying what would Jesus do. Many people on the religious rightwing, should reconsider the legislations and attitudes they push while their wearing their religion on their sleeves, IF their attitudes even slightly resembles the examples given by the gods that they are wearing on their sleeves. Some politicians do openly state they vote by their religious beliefs/"brinigng god back to Washington"/"what would Jesus do", etc. Seems to be perverting what Jesus actually said and did, imo, and such politicians should be questioned how they can push such blatant cognitive dissonance. but, overall, i am very much FOR complete, 500%, separation of religion and govt. So, sorry about that, i was just saying my favorite part about Jesus, was, his liberal views on almost every subject. Jesus was fairly consistent on those topics, too. OH, i thought a public thread ABOUT GODS, was a good place to discuss gods, even if not everyone agrees. Contrary to how many people see it, i don't think having a different opinion, or even just questioning, are 'disrespectful' or wrong or offensive. I think it is sometimes the root of self-exploration or good discussions. I do not see questioning or politely having a different POV as same thing as belittling, and do feel replying to her post to me, was a reasonable thing to do, even if i have questions about how one ends up participating in the religions that they participate in, on a public thread to explore ideas people have about gods. I think exploring how or why one came to believe the things they believe, is a good thing to regurgitate and reconsider now and then. But, many theists seem to think curiosity and questioning why or how they ever first came to believe what they believe ---is a bad idea. (SOME forms of questioning are acceptable, it is in obvious agreement, or done as academic just 'fine tuning' with other theists who all basically agree the bible is 'good', or done to prepare the believer for facing things they might hear that don't click with what they've being taught, etc. so their beliefs they are taught don't fall apart) But questioning why we believe things, where we got the idea in the first place, is often seen as bad idea by some theists, or even 'scornful'. I think exploring how we came to accept an idea as true, with no evidence, can be interesting discussion or even just a self-exploration to have, and should be encouraged. Why should it matter that you do think Jesus is a 'good' god? ^ *I* am not asking ^that, oh heavens no, i am not asking that!! don't blast me, i am not actually asking that. but, i am just turning your own words a bit, so you can hear it might sound in reverse if i were to post that to someone who posted they thought Jesus is a good god. I think i might get slammed. These two remarks, your remark, and my hypothetical remark below it, kind of seem the same, imo, but, in reverse, it feels different now, don't they? It almost sounds "scornful" to some extent, either remark.... btw, i was using the word "you" in a general sense, not you-YOU, Leslie, if that makes sense. I often hear people state Jesus was some amazing example of how to live----------------- it almost never questioned. It seems to be almost universally accepted, that yes, that Jesus was good moral example to follow. and i think it is worth exploring if that is true, or not. I think some of the things he was "for" are awesome, :) (as i listed above) :) but, i also think some of the messages he put out, are not moral, not 'good', and worth exploring as possibly very bad ideas. But, mostly, everyone has been convinced that Jesus is "good" example (many posts on threads saying that) but, i say, it's open to debate, if the either half of the bible ARE actually 'good' they way so many insist it is. i HOPE i helped you understand. f i failed, i did try, anyway. I also hope i replied sloooowly enough to show respect. THANK YOU. peace out.
  3. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    i believe you. The fact it was never brought up in your bible class, does not mean it's not true. That is fine if you do not want to attempt evaluating how Jesus's words could apply to today's issues, or if you do not want to attempt to explore how some of the examples Jesus set, could be used a guide for many complex issues we face today, but, i feel if one does look at the NT biblegod Jesus, there are many many stories that indicate he might have been a liberal on almost every issue. But, i will completely, entirely agree, that there are far more valid and rational ways to approach today's issues, than by studying what Jesus did. i feel the message in the NT is open to debate. It is not often questioned, if many or most of the messages, like "Love me or Burn!" or "Dump Your Family" are a worthy or even anywhere near a 'good' messages from a 'good' god, or if some of the morals being put forth are 'good' ideas. To even explore or even question if this is the case-- that the NT is 'good' book--- the very question is sometimes met as "an insult", and often, for some christians, a brand new idea that maybe the message there is not often a 'good' one. I could post many a NT bibleverse, which do not represent what most people see as 'good' family values, or very good morals. I feel the end result of believing in the bible, as being 'good' for a person, or a nation, is open to debate, too. but, i can and will admit, there are some good ideas in the bible, too,------ but, they are nestled amongst so many absolutely horrific ideas, i find it amazing so many are able to successfully cherry pick the good bits out, and then declare that is a 'good' book, with 'good' ideas in it. sometimes, we humans see what we are told is there. The overwhelming power of christianity in this nation being trivialized, does not happen often, as this religion has been in power for eons, and influences govt. Almost no one can be elected, without frequently insisting they worship the bible gods. (very few exceptions) If a politician is suspected of not worshipping the bible gods, or not worshiping the bible gods enough, or any suspicions that the politician ever worshipped other gods instead of the bible gods, wow, there can be problems, depending on the state he/she lives in. Hardly "trivialized" when it an impacts our govt and sometimes, even our legislation!! I do not see questioning something as same thing as "trivializing" something. I am for respectful and rational discussions, and feel questioning can be part of that exploration. PS---i hope i am correctly using the 'quote' feature, so this comes out right.
  4. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    I will be offline tomorrow, too, but, i am now reading your very thoughtful posts. NOt sure i'll have time to reply to everything today, or not. which i much appreciated her taking the time to explain why she chose the bible. I felt most of the need for the bible, imo, why she turned to the bible, that some parts of her reply kind of reminded me of hypothetical things done for another hypothetical god, back in reply#63. Why a person chooses one god over another, when there are so many available gods to worship, or how an obviously intelligent person like AKY, can cherry pick to find a way to overlook the atrocities and immorality in the bible, and still use it as her guide in life, is interesting to me, and a worthy topic, imo. Some people reading along can have the beginnings of an oncoming "ah ha" moment, if they study how they ended up worshiping the particular theistic god that they worship, why that theistic god? Others don't have that moment. Sometimes, that moment, can be a step towards more questioning. I am not so much promoting atheism, as i have, on multiple posts, made supportive remarks about deism over theism. I am more promoting logic, rationality, reason, the use of critical thinking skills, and questioning in general,how and questioning how and why we think what we think, and yes, i am, apparently, having to justify these things. To avoid making a too-long post, i will not reply to ALL the rest of the remarks in just one (1) post, and instead, will strive for shorter posts, and reply to other remarks in subsequent posts. I hope that doesn't get me in trouble for multiple posts, but, many valid questions are being asked of me, and i sincerely feel the other remarks deserve a reply, too.
  5. somenurse

    Menopause gives us pause...

    ah, sorry, i never read the article, cuz i can't remember my Medscape password, and when i try to RE-register to read the article, it says that email already has an account. *sigh*. so the article is about some kind of "bark"? Like what, tree bark?
  6. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    Herring, it's not hard to learn to use a clicker, it's really not. If you watch the vid, you can see how simple it is. It's only 5 minutes per day, too. Hilarious about the cat!!:roflmao: I don't know if this story is true, but, apparently, my grandmother, my grandmother was trying to potty train her pup, and in those days, it was not unusual to push dog's nose into the poop if the dog pooped in the house. Back then, humans might have thought dogs learn the way humans learn. So Grandma would push the dog's nose into the poop, and throw dog out the window. The dog never really potty trained well, and instead, learned to put his own nose into the poop and then, jump out the window!:roflmao:
  7. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    That was beautiful, AKY, so raw and honest, so honored how you shared such tender moments to explain your feelings. Thank you for explaining how you feel to me, it is an honor to stand witness to bits of your heart. My eyes heart moved when reading your post, AKY. Moments that were powerful to you, had the bible inserted into them. It is comfortable and familiar to you. At times when you were maybe barely able to inhale/exhale, at maybe the hardest ever moments in your life, others around you comforted you with words from the bible. You most likely, grew up with it. You have found a way to maybe focus only the parts you like best, ignore the rest, without letting those ugly parts land on you, or maybe you just skip over/gloss over those parts of the NT, and it is almost maybe a habit for you, to turn to it, when you are stressed or afraid or in pain or whatever. It might even be part of a community you belong to, in some form or another, like i talk about in post#63. Still, even the NT has terrible ideas, (like eternal torture for finite sins, and so many other bad ideas in the NT too, i could list them all, but won't) The Jesus character, who mentioned over 100 times to follow the OT, referred to OT stories as real, and Jesus did leave much to be desired, but did had some great qualities.. i personally especially loved that the Jesus god was a liberal. even said those who don't help the poor will burn eternally, (apparently didn't think of the poor as 'takers') and seemed to think rich people might not be getting into heaven, Jesus did not seem a fan of making money as the end all goal, was wayy into sharing (usually) Seemed to grasp that taxes were necessary in some communities with shared amenities, and was intermittently against violence. Lots of things make me think he'd be a liberal. Plus, like his dad, Jesus liked wine. You could pick a worse god. but, i could list a ton of things wrong with him, too. Kinda big list of questionable things most people don't seem to notice are very wrong with that guy. "Love me or Burn" is no way to get love, imo. There are some fascinating stories about that Paul. The origins of any religion are always interesting to me. but, you have made many powerful associations to the stories of these particular gods, and to that book. Maybe a solemnity can surround it, in your mind, too, because of the associations there. It might even be, in part, a sentimental thing for you by now, too. thank you again for opening your heart up like that, it was very beautiful, very generous of you.
  8. somenurse

    Relationships

    I have been in love more than once. I have been in love two and a half times. Two times, for sure, that was love. (the half way one, was just fun,:lol2: close to love, but not quite, still a very good part of my life) Each time i was in love, i was sure, i'd never be able to love like THIS again. I was positive and convinced, only THIS man could be my love, only THIS here man, and THIS here relationship, could ever be for me, nothing could match THIS!! NO one could ever be this close to me again, no one could ever understand me like this, only THIS man here, and i would never ever be able to really get to know and love anyone the way i love THIS man. I was wrong.:eek: I fell in love yet again. Much to my shock, it was just as wonderful, if not better!!! AGain, i think, "only THIS man could be for me. I could never love or be loved, the way he and i are together, THIS is it! No one could be as close as WE are, if this man dies or whatever, that's it, i'm retiring." and so on. but, love comes yet again, and is just as marvelous if not better, even when we were SURE our last love could never be topped. having married my first love right before college and had only ever lived with HIM, i was kinda shocked to discover, how DIFFERENT everything is, from one man or one relationship, to another. Since i'd really only lived with the one man, i guess i had somehow figured, pretty much all relationships are kinda basically the same if they are good ones. WRONGggggg!!!!! (in between the two loves, i had some fun being single, too, dating around and learned a lot about dating as a grown up. Have lots of single pals, too, whose lives i follow along. Meeting men in real life, is not quite like when we were young, when we were ALL single, and all Very interested in having a sweetiepie..... it can take actual effort in some age groups to find a mate...., you can see someone here or there, have hilarious conversation with someone, feel the click, and yet, sometimes no one gets numbers and you never see them again. that happens a lot to single gals, really. I'd like to think "the universe will just send me someone":rolleyes: or "Pure chance will send my pal Marlo someone to date, she is so wanting a sweetie" , but sometimes, it does help to look/participate in finding someone, like i was saying earlier in my derail-ish post. My single pals who look, and unabashedly admit they are looking for a sweetie, do better at finding sweeties than those that don't) Anyone out there, wondering if there really is more than one person you can love, and be loved by, let me tell ya, YES YES YES!! This planet is so full of marvelous humans, there is almost no way, that only one person is lovable and loving to you. so much love out there, almost impossible to imagine it can't be in yet another great relationship for you. PS---To AKY, i never married my 2nd love, either------ i figured i had a nursing license, a fishing license, a drivers license, and didn't feel i need a license for what i'm doing with him!! rofl!! :roflmao: BUT, we did get medical POA, financial POA (esp handy if someone dies) and other legal things done. Including hipaa stuff, too, so his doc can talk to me, etc. Can't even really think of alll the lil things we did to make things smoother that way. but yeah, insurance is a dawg!!
  9. somenurse

    Menopause gives us pause...

    Mine was pretty bad, and i was stunned, that i did have such a hard time with it, cuz i always saw myself as very durable, sturdy type, but nooooooooo, i had troubles. I had hot flashes, insomnia (which, at the time, i didn't realize WAS a symptom) a lil trouble focusing, and gained almost 20 lbs. My hot flashes were pretty bad for months, and once, while watching a nature show about creatures at the bottom of the ocean that blink off and on, i pointed at tv, and told my family, "THAT looks like, how i FEEL!!" :roflmao: ON the bright side, this reverse puberty does end. For me, mentalpause was such a shock to my system, it was almost like waking up with someone else's metabolism and body. Anyone see that movie "Avatar" about humans being transferred into blue alien-ish bodies? Mentalpause for me, was like that scene where the guy wakes up for first time in the new, blue body.. :roflmao::roflmao:(okayyyyyyy maybe i am exaggerating juuust a lil bit there..) but, it ends!! Then, it's all good.
  10. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    OH Herring, I understand, i had same trouble with my dog,:rolleyes: only it was he ate poop out in the yard!!:yawn: you can clicker train that beloved dog of yours to leave the trash alone, you can. It's not that hard to do, BUT it does take about 2 weeks of daily five-minute lessons to teach this SOLIDLY to a dog, so the dog can be trusted even if you are not there. Teaching "leave it" is done in increments, over time. I began with items my dog was NOT very drawn to, such a piece of bread. I was near dog, and bread was far away on floor. I only left it there for a minute at first. I set dogs up for success. We have to be careful to not ask too much, too fast. Reward BEFORE they mess up! ha ha!!:lol2: Over many five-minute long lessons, i trained my dog the cue "leave it". Over time, i advanced the cue so the item was closer to dog, and slowly increasing to more tempting items, and over time, i was ever so slightly further away from the dog. My dog got the concept right away, still, i "proofed" it---advancing slowly---- by not asking more of him than he was qualified to do yet. Now, i can put a hot steak down right in front of him. and leave the room, he won't touch it.:woot: After Buddy fully understood and had mastered the cue "leave it", THEN i took Buddy over to various poops, and gave cue "leave it" and he got big prizes for not eating the poop. I did this for weeks to ensure he 'generalized' the concept to ALL poopies he found. Now, he never ever eats poop. Never. Here is a link to quickie video to very similar method of teaching your dog to "leave it". This is an all-positive trainer i much admire, named Kikopup. Most any trouble anyone is having with a dog, if you google the words "kikopup + name of your dog's issue" like "kikopup barking" or "kikopup biting" or "kikopup running away" or whatever, there's a good chance that kikopup has posted a quickie, 5 minute video on how to solve that problem. Here is one of 3 different videos on "leave it" from kikopup. she has 2 other videos, too, on same topic, worth a google. ^her method is slightly different from mine, but, she is great. Either way will do. If clicker training is new to you, do google "kikopup clicker training" or see Karen Pryor's site. It does take some practice, the timing is crucial, but not hard to learn at all. No scolding is invovled. Use teeny tiny treats to avoid a full or fat dog. (i have recipe posted in somewhere in this "Pets" area of good treat to use) GOOD LUCK!! YOU CAN DO THIS, HERRING!! YOU CAN!! Won't your family be so surprised when you have taught your dog to leave the trash alone? :yes::) If you hit a snag, or a roadblock, feel free to post it on DogTrickAcademy, they are all clicker trainers over there.
  11. somenurse

    Interesting article about God

    don't give up. Others will be by, sooner or later, your question hasn't been up very long yet. here is that old old quote, that ti first heard decades ago. It is from Susan B. Anthony, sufferagate, civil rights activist, patriot, and apparently, a free-thinker. //" “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.”//
  12. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    //". So far it tells us there is some correlation. However, correlation doesn't prove causation; even if there is causation, correlation doesn't indicate which is the cause and which is the effect."// SUCH GREAT POINTS!! You are absolutely 100% right on that!! However, the malformations found in shy dogs or DA dogs, are never ever found in any 'normal' dog, not ever. The more i think about that, the more amazing it becomes. If if if they ever do find a 'normal' dog with the same abnormalities in his brain----- but that dog IS acting 'normally', it'd blow the whole theory, that these abnormalities are the cause. but, til they do find even one (1) 'normal' dog with the brain abnormalities, it does seem to suggest there could be causal relationship. also, like i've said before, there is a veyr consistent neurochemistry found in both types of dogs, and each type of dog, (the shy dog, or the DA dog) has it's own set of blood chemistry abnormalities, it's not the same as each other. This, along with the difference in their behavior, also suggests, it is two different disorders, with neurochemical causes at play. //" if so, then no, I don't know of entire litters being stricken with it or even every litter of parents who have produced it but I don't see what that has to do with my point."// Oh, i have forgotten who, but, someone seemed to have idea (or i misinterpreted their post) that entire litters are stricken, or that EVERY litter of pups everywhere, has 1 or 2 that are stricken, but, i don't think so at all. Sorry for confusion. It's almost invariably, only 1 or 2 of a litter, IF a litter is stricken at all, never the whole entire litter. (thank goodness, right?!)
  13. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    //"Not all training methods work for all dogs."// clicker training works for all dogs. as well as many other creatures. If anyone is having trouble clicker training, let me know, or join DogTrickAcademy. It can be done 'wrong', but, if done correctly, clicker training does work for all dogs. //". I like frustrating activists and people with agendas."// I don't see trying to reduce the number of dogs being put to death as an agenda, but, maybe it is. If it is, i'm proud to participate in it!! COUNT ME IN :) on that one!! Proud to have that 'agenda'.
  14. somenurse

    Don't buy a dog, not any dog at all.

    Pets to people, i disagree with much of what you said, and i especially disagree with your interpretation of what *I* am saying, you imply many many things i have never ever said, not a once. You are putting words in my mouth. or "posts" as it were! I can't defend what i never said. and yes, there have been actual posts on this thread, from people saying if one wants a working dog, or service dog, they'd have to buy the dog from a breeder,:rolleyes: which is why i said that isn't true. I did say that could be one of the more rational reasons to buy a dog, but, one can get working dogs and service dogs from the dog pound. but, whatever. Is no point to reply to all the stuff i am disagreeing with. Like someone said, not everyone can learn new ideas. I will readily admit, i am an optimist, and tend to have faith that my fellow man can absorb new ideas now and then. I also do not think many people in the general public are very aware of the crisis levels our dog overpopulation has reached. Maybe everyone or most of the people on this thread know of it, but, i don't think the general public knows how severe of a crisis it really is. I also never ever see the harm in TRYING to help others be aware of a crisis. Even if i fail, even if not one person has begun to see adopting a dog as a good option for them, instead of buying a dog with an AKC paper, even if i failed, what harm is done? good luck.
  15. somenurse

    Relationships

    btw, i want to apologize, that my post is so off topic, i misunderstood the OP as someone curious about resuming dating as a mature woman, or someone undecided if that is even worthy goal for mature woman/needed encouragement to go for it. sorry for my post which is more about egging her on to go for it, if she wants it.
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