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  1. Hello all! I figured that there must be others who've made resolutions to lose weight in 2014, and thought an update thread might be a good way of keeping track of them. So, to start us out, questions!: 1. What is your fitness/weight loss goal for 2014? 2. What are you doing to achieve your goal? 3. How do you keep track of your progress? 4. How are you doing so far? Okay, so mine: 1. What is your fitness/weight loss goal for 2014? I want to hit 130 lbs and get to the end of constantly dieting. I've been on a "weight loss journey" since mid-2011. A true lifestyle/fitness change never ends, but I want 2014 to be the year I stop having to worry about losing mass amounts of weight. I also decided that now is the time to add in lifting weights as a normal thing I keep up for the rest of my life. I don't love it like I love cardio, but it's so good for me that I can't let my dislike outweigh the benefits any longer. 2. What are you doing to achieve your goal? I'm currently on Lyle McDonald's Rapid Fat Loss diet plan. It's a crash diet that not even the author recommends, since it's pretty miserable. But I've used it twice in the past, so I know it works for me. Not many diets work for me =/. I'll probably be using it in structured off and on stints til the end of the year to hit my goal. I've also rejoined the gym. I started off with free weights at home, but I decided that if I really wanted to get serious and make my life easier, I should join a good gym. Now that I've been doing weight lifting 3x per week for a month, I actually quite enjoy it. I don't like it while I'm doing it, but I feel empowered when I'm done. 3. How do you keep track of your progress? I log my food on MyFitnessPal. The phone app makes it incredibly easy to scan the barcode of what you've eaten and log it. All of it is free, as well. I'd love to get one of those little fitness trackers that monitors your steps taken, sleep, activity, etc. in the future, but I'm just a little too broke for it right now. My weight lifting gets logged on Fitocracy, also for free. Very cool websites, both of them. 4. How are you doing so far? I'm doing pretty decently. I diet hard for 3 days, then on the 4th, I give myself a guilt-free dinner. As long as my calories don't go too high, I don't concern myself with how much fat or how many carbs I'm eating. I find it's very good for me psychologically.
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    Reversal of Fortune

    Count me among those who have silently watched you fall and are thrilled to watch you rise again :). Just remember that even if your new job doesn't pan out and it ends up dealing you a sorry hand, you are still a damn good nurse and you should in no way feel like you have to hold your head lower for it. Getting a lower/higher paycheck doesn't change what you are. That said, I'm really glad you're going to be getting one again, and doing what is obviously a dream job :woot:! A reversal of fortune, indeed, and I'd be hard-pressed to find someone who deserves one more. Congrats!!!
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    How did you handle relationships during school?

    If done intelligently, hooking up doesn't have to be any of those things. I get where you're coming from. I frown at most of the hook-up culture today as well. I have a very different perspective on sexual matters and always have. Quoting a middle-aged man who thinks women should stop kidding themselves about hooking up and admit it hurts us emotionally is just silly, though. Not all women feel like that. The shame/guilt/negativity that makes them feel that way is deeply ingrained into our society. When I do have kids, what I'll teach them is that having sex doesn't make them "used", doesn't make them "dirty", and it certainly isn't something they should ever let anyone judge them for. They should set their own standards, set them high, and strive to exceed them, always. If they want to grow up and extend that into having casual sex with others, they are welcome to. As for myself, I've not chosen to. My standards are high enough that the types of guys who do hookups aren't the types of guys I'm into, not even for a hookup. I don't close it off as a possibility, though, if I found the right person. Casual sex can be detrimental. So can anything else if you partake of it without any kind of intelligent plan or moderation. I don't expect you to apologize or change your views, but it isn't going to stop me from clarifying my own. Just because you can't perceive how a girl could have casual sex and not be harmed by any supposed emotional attachment doesn't mean it isn't valid. As for her physical health, I doubt she's going to get pregnant if she's using birth control herself and makes sure to use condoms. Some STDs/STIs can still be caught with condoms, yes, but that's why you should always be selective about your hookups and always make sure you've got your sh*t together. Don't count on anybody else to have your back, especially when it comes to that. At any rate, this is very much off topic and so I'll go ahead and shut up about it.
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    How did you handle relationships during school?

    You're (rudely) projecting your own values and norms onto another person, or in this case, the whole lot of other people. Sex isn't the end-all be-all that most people make it out to be. If you feel like it's the wrong decision for you to engage in hookups, that's fine. If you feel it'd be disrespectful to your body to do so, also fine. Believe it or not, some people don't have the emotional attachment to it that you do, and hookups are a great stress relief for them. And there's nothing wrong with that as long as they're safe about it. If you want to see it as negative, that's okay. Teach your daughters whatever you want. I'm going to teach mine to be smart and in control and to do what they want to do as long as it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, and I can't see how hookups innately hurt anyone. There isn't a right or wrong answer on this -- it's a purely personal choice. Casual sex is beneficial to some and harmful to others. However, there's definitely a right or wrong answer when it comes to judging other people for their personal choices, and you're in the wrong for it. Nurses should strive to be more open-minded than that. And before it's even implied, there's a huge difference between a true scumbag guy who'd deceive a girl and use her for sex and one who is honest and up-front and says from the beginning that he wants to keep it casual. I don't advocate the former, and I don't condemn the latter.
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    How did you handle relationships during school?

    Jesus. Bunch of judgmental women on this website. No wonder OP is having such a hard time finding a good hookup in nursing school :no:. Don't hook up in your cohort, OP. I know it's been said, but I'll say it again -- small social circles + messing around = drama drama drama. Hell, even dating within your cohort is probably not a good idea unless you just find a girl you can't resist and you think she's going to be "the one" or something. The idea about finding someone in a nursing program that isn't yours (or maybe who's behind you in your school's program, eh?) is a good one. Then, she knows the stress of it all but also can't really affect your clinicals/labs/classes for the next 2-3 years.
  6. Tbh, I think anybody who's ever come into contact with nursing should know from just a first glance that if they're going to portray nursing as being a big party all the time and drama drama drama, that's not at all what nursing is. The only people who are going to believe this is real are the idiots who likely already have pretty messed up ideas about what we do. I work with nurses who come in with their hair down and a fair amount of makeup on, especially since girls more and more seem to be going heavy on the eye makeup. I don't think that makes them unprofessional. I don't think that going out and drinking and being "hellraisers" after work makes them unprofessional either. Then again, I've always had a wild hair up my bum about the way that people like to judge your professionalism based on your personal life. It shouldn't be any of their business as long as you aren't harming anybody. I'm not sure why nurses encourage each other to mandate their private lives to be representations of what the hospital/workplace wants even when they aren't on the clock. I, for one, feel that no hospital owns me, and that if I want to go out and party on one of my 4 days off every week, that's my prerogative and not my employer's. If stupid people don't realize that I can have a few drinks on Saturday and then come in Monday morning and be completely competent, they probably weren't going to treat me with the respect I deserve anyway. Why should I change my life to fit their boring definition of professionalism? Saying that other nurses don't deserve respect because they wear a lot of makeup or have tattoos or live it up outside of work is really petty. Saying that they have to be nuns outside the workplace or else keep it all in their homes is even worse. And I'll clarify that I know some people aren't doing this; some are just telling it like it is. I know that's how the world works right now. But it grinds my gears when people say that's how it should be. Judgmental attitudes aren't cute, and I don't know why nurses would want to do that to each other.
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    What is your favorite Fast Food sandwich?

    Cajun chicken club at Zaxby's, anyone? Though I think Zaxby's is mostly Southern. I eat at least one of these per week and it's always delicious! I can't stomach real fast food like BK, McD's, Taco Bell, etc., but I'll get the spicy Italian at Subway or a beef n cheddar at Arby's veeeery occasionally.
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    Want to help obese daughter

    Speaking only to the weight loss thing, it really is something your daughter has to find the motivation within herself for. At my heaviest I was 335 lbs at 5'2". It was pretty miserable. Nothing changed my mind about losing weight (though of course I'd tried all the fad diets and thought nothing could work for me) until I decided to say screw weight loss and focus on health only. I got over how unfair it was that I couldn't have all the delicious things everybody else could have, even if I exercised. I started eating right, exercising regularly, and the weight fell off. 100 lbs down in a year. It's been a year and a half since then and I've only managed to lose another 20 lbs. I sit at 215 now, so I'm still obese, but I LIVE. I run 5 times a week. I play tennis. I don't get out of breath shopping in the grocery store. I look beautiful and curvy in my clothes, and guys hit on me. If you're going to try and convince your daughter of anything, focusing on weight itself will only lead to self-esteem problems. Instead, focus on health! I have hypothyroid issues that I can't afford to have treated by a health professional because of not having insurance, which is a large part of why I've been stuck where I am for so long, but I don't stop trying. Everything I'm doing makes me feel better about my life even if I don't lose a single pound. Become your daughter's workout buddy, and don't let her start too hard and burn herself out in a week. She can't change everything all at once -- just small steps are the way to go. Now is the time to be her friend and not her mom. She has to know that no matter what, you accept her and see her as beautiful. Good luck :).
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    How do you exercise and manage a busy schedule?

    I'm a nursing student and also work at the local hospital and run a club at my school. Time feels like a precious commodity, I know x_x. But you can do it if you really want it. Motivation is the hardest part. Find something you enjoy, do it slowly enough and ease into it, and you'll feel good doing it and want to do it. I run. I started cool running's couch to 5k program, and I'm at the end of it now. I love being a runner, so I fit it in. The others are right -- that hour you'd spend browsing around the net or going on facebook or watching videos or TV, go work out with it instead! I don't get much facebooking in these days, but I started C25K on July 7th and I'm already up to running 35 minutes at a time, 4-5 days a week, and it's only been 6 weeks. Don't get me wrong -- exercise will burn. It isn't all easy. It is worth it, though. It might hurt me for the first 10 minutes when I run, but after that, I feel like a well-oiled and warmed up machine, easily able to push forward. And I weigh 220 lbs at 5'2", so it can be done even if you've got weight to lose. Running may not be your thing, but find your thing! If you want advice on staying in a comfortable zone and not pushing too hard too fast, just let me know xD. I'm always glad to help!
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    Teen charged for having sex with same sex teen

    I don't think I've ever met any 18 year old "men". Plenty of boys though! Seeing things like this makes me sad. Mental maturity isn't as black and white as the law is, but the fact that they're ruining this girl's life because her girlfriend's parents told her to back off and give up on the relationship and she didn't, that's terrible. Can you even imagine the 14 year old's horror at this? Those parents are never going to get that girl back. A felony charge, 2 years of house arrest, and 1 year of probation is the just punishment for being a few days too old for their relationship to be legally okay? How messed up is that? I'd be just as horrified at this happening if it was a guy and a girl, though the fact that it was a same-sex relationship probably played some role in the 14 year old's parents making a stink out of it.
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