I have hesitated to post further for fear of continued degradation, but I would like to clarify somewhat. First let me say that I do not think my wife has done anything wrong, nor do I think she views her job in any type of sexual manner. Hence the title "help me overcome my feelings". I honestly understand my feelings are unwarranted, but I have them nontheless. That is why I posted here. I was hoping for some perspective or advice on setting these feelings aside. I am certain there are others who feel this way (men and women), so I was hoping to hear how they adjusted or overcame these feelings. For example, I spoke to a friend of mine who is a gynecologist. He and his wife had similar conversations as she struggled with his job. Her advice was, simply put, trust and time.
I appreciate the advice to seek counseling. I have scheduled an appointment for Thursday.
I also applied some of your advice to not interrogate her when she comes home. This past weekend we just talked about her day. I did not ask for specifics and she simply told me about the joys and frustrations of her day. One of the posts said to be her husband. That is what I did. I left my profession at the office and just let her talk about her day. I offered advice on dealing with her frustrations and congratulated her on her accomplishments. Her text to me today: "it was nice to laugh with you last night." So, I think I have taken a step in the right direction. It did feel much better to laugh then to argue. As I focused more on her and her day and less on the things that caused me anxiety, we were able to laugh. I much prefer that feeling. I am not saying it wasn't difficult to refrain from asking (its a little like asking water not to be wet), but I just kept thinking about what many of you said about having a lot to lose and maybe driving her away.
I thank you all for the advice. If there are other suggestions, I will listen.