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  1. NightNerd

    Trying to get pregnant between UDC3 and 4

    Girl. Omg. As a woman rounding 30 myself, I can physically feel the baby rabies in your post, lol, and it's kind of stressing me out on a personal level. What is it about the age of 30 that is scaring you in terms of just beginning to start a family? I think you need to answer this for yourself and see how you feel about what you find out. If you know of specific medical issues you have that may contribute to difficulty conceiving, I can totally understand your concern. However, I think that having your first child around 30 probably wouldn't be as rough as you anticipate. Sure, your parents will be older - two years older than the timeline you seem to be pushing, which honestly isn't that much. If they are able and willing to help, they will do so at any age. But, you're the parents! It's all you guys, so you have to make sure that YOU are in a physical, financial, and spiritual place to have children. Only the two of you can determine what needs to happen before you do this. I have to say, being about to turn this age you seem to be wary of, I feel MUCH more prepared for the reality of having more than just me and my boyfriend to take care of - even more than just a couple years ago. Having the opportunity to get our careers underneath us, figure out where we want to live, and just be together has been very valuable and will play an instrumental role in our family life if we do decide to have kids. I don't think there's any hard rule about the time between NCLEX and getting a job, but it's a good idea to start something relatively soon, for your own benefit. That way you'll liketo what you've learned in school fresh and start to build on that knowledge. Another thing to consider is that nursing school is rough. People have totally had kids in the middle, pushed through, and become kickass nurses! I know that for me, I would have lost my mind and had a lot of trouble finishing. It is already going to cut into your time with your BF; can you imagine dividing what little free time you have even further in order to care for an infant? I think the benefit of waiting until you graduate is that you and BF can catch up, save some money, and just be you guys again, and really get your relationship ready for this big change. I feel your pain; baby fever is real and it is wild. What I keep reminding myself is that I don't want to steal the joy of this experience from myself by pushing it too early. If there are solid reasons to wait a couple years and only baby fever as justification for doing it sooner, I think it's worth it to stick it out. But only you and your boyfriend can decide your priorities. Sorry for the stream-of-consciousness post, lol, but hopefully it helps you further develop your thoughts and plans in a constructive way!
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    Dating for nurses

    I met my boyfriend of two years at work on night shift. I'd been single for a year and a half, ish, and had done some online dating, had friends set me up, etc. Work was supposed to be my prospect-free zone, so I was pretty bummed that I had to start looking cute there too, lol. For real, though, he is wonderful, and it's awesome to be with someone who understands what this job is like. I have met a lot of other great guys in my two and a half nursing jobs - doctors, other nurses, security officers, etc., so I would say there's a fair chance that you'll meet someone you click with through work. If not directly, maybe your nurse friends can set you up with people they know. I don't know of any medical/human services dating sites, lol, but I met some nice people through Match. I was on for maybe two months and then got off to focus on my new job. It's a nice way to get yourself out there and remember what it's like to date, but I didn't just love it; I know others who have met their partners online pretty quickly, though. My advice: focus on the new job, making friends there, and rediscovering who you are without the last boyfriend. It sounds like a fairly recent break-up with a long-term partner, so it's good to spend some time on just you. (I know that is easier said than done - after five years with the same guy, I know I had no idea what to do with myself!). But it's nice to figure out who you really are on your own, so when you meet new people you can recognize who you naturally fit with. Just my experience, for what it's worth.
  3. NightNerd

    What Did You Do Or Treat Yourself Today?

    Is it wrong to think that new socks (fun ones, not the normal kind) are just as fun as a grown-up smoothie? That sounds really delicious, I may make something like that tomorrow. Iiiiiiii got drug tested for next semester's clinical experience. And it took forever, after I had worked the past two nights. >_
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    Nurses Who Kill!

    I dunno about y'all, but we had the shift from hell last night. Bottle of wine + doughnut + Nurses Who Kill = possibly the most important coping mechanism of the modern world. I'll let you know how it goes.
  5. NightNerd

    Making time to date in nursing school ?!

    Not gonna lie, I had no idea what I was doing when I was dating, but it worked out pretty darn well anyway. As for the rest of this open letter, say whaaaaa? "Your Father"? What am I missing here?
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    Making time to date in nursing school ?!

    No one can predict that. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. A solid relationship will withstand challenges of all kinds, including nursing school. If you have a great feeling about this guy, you may very well regret not giving it a shot. But, know your priorities and what you are/aren't willing to do to keep him. Figure out a game plan together, try it, and see what happens!
  7. IDK where you are in the US, but prolly either Washington State or Maine would be good places to enjoy the outdoors in not too sweltering temperatures. Bonus (for me, at least) is that both of those places are great for whale watching in the summer. I haven't taken an entire trip in my own before, but I definitely would! Sounds so peaceful! I guess just make sure someone has a copy of your itinerary, and check in with family/friends fairly regularly. I would love to hear more tips about this too.
  8. NightNerd

    I see quite alot of tall nurses

    Cool.
  9. NightNerd

    World Turned upside down

    Wow, I am so sorry! That is such a slap in the face after eight years together. :( It hurts now, for sure, but your life will be so much the better for this change. You now have the mental and emotional freedom to fully pursue your career; and soon you'll know the satisfaction of tackling this challenge independently. And, bonus, when the time is right, you'll be ready to have a partner who is proud of your accomplishments and will support and encourage you in your ambitions. Do not let this guy's insecurities interfere with your life anymore. You deserve so much better, especially with the hard work and dedication you have shown in your life. Chin up, and know that we're here for you.
  10. Trust me, as much as my nursing friendships mean to me, I am glad to talk to my significant other about anything BUT nursing. It helps to have a good listening ear, which it sounds like you provide her with, but she is dating you because you appeal to ALL of her, not just the nurse part. As long as you have some interests and values in common, it seems to me that you have nothing to feel insecure about.
  11. NightNerd

    Off topic, but I'm curious - what did you read this summer?

    Thanks, Abigail! I was hoping someone would be a fellow history lover. :) I tried Pride and Prejudice a long time ago and could not get into it. Perhaps the zombies version would be more my speed?
  12. I don't know about y'all, but I spent most of my summer reading textbooks (mine were Chemistry). This fall, I want to make at least a little time for fun reading, especially since I've only got my Micro class left before I apply for the nursing program! So, any recommendations??? Bonus if they have anything to do with nursing (after all, that's what we're on this site for). Currently the only couple books I actually finished this summer were: -The Serial Killer Whisperer (true story about a brain injury patient who started writing to various serial killers and helping their victims' families find closure - gory but very interesting, if that's your thing!) -The Princess Bride (had to re-read it - I love that one, even more than I love the movie) If I remember any others I'll let you know!
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