I am not in the medical field and I wanted to get opinions and a consensus of the problem I am facing within my relationship with a nurse practitioner.
I chose to search for this forum because my female friends could not possibly comprehend the pressures and difficulties of your position. Your input is greatly appreciated.
I am in love with an NP who is 27 years old. She has been in the field since the age of 20. I feel and she has expressed the feeling is mutual. The only problem we constantly argue about is how much time we spend together. When we are together, it is amazing. However, when we are apart, that is where the problem lies.
To give you a little background, we have been dating for 4 months. She lives 45 minutes away. I live in close proximity to the hospital. Her schedule alternates from 11 P.M.-7 A.M., 7 A.M.-3 P.M and of course 3 P.M.-11 P.M. There is never any consistency.
The problem is I am a planner and she likes to "play it by ear." I can understand during the week, things come up. I can work around her schedule. I have acquiesced to have our time together tentative during a work day. While it is not ideal, she is worth it.
However, on her days off, she will not commit to it either. She says she doesn't know how she will feel that day. We argued about this and I gave an example to her: If you know you have Friday, Saturday and Sunday off, can you commit to make plans with me on Saturday. Day or night?-Her response was "No." I do not mind if she has plans with her friends, but if she doesn't, than why can't she set them?
I feel as though as I am her becking call. While I know she has strong feelings for me, I am confused as to whether her blaming her job is genuine or if it is just her.
Please let me know if I am not wrong or if I need to be more understanding.
Your input is greatly appreciated.