Does anybody else have that sibling or some other family member who has decided they are in a competition with you that you were not aware of? My younger sister has always seemed to think she's got to beat me at everything and I don't know why. I've never been that way. We've always gotten along okay, but I think we've got kind of a weird family dynamic because our mother was an alcoholic who was never really around from the time we were young. My dad was the one constant in our life but he worked a lot and that meant I was stuck taking care of my younger siblings most of the time. I'm the oldest and my sis is the middle child. I've always been the responsible, boring pragmatic one and she's pretty much the complete opposite. Somehow she's gotten it into her head that we are in some kind of competition and she's got to win.
I'll give just a few of many examples. I always grew up saying I wanted to be a doctor. In response to this, my sister said she was going to be a pediatric neurosurgeon. Of course neither of us actually did that, I became an RN and my sister played World of Warcraft for a couple years while living off school grants, never got a degree, and decided to join the Air Force instead. Last year she got out of the military after her 4 year contract and divorced her pathetic excuse for a husband. Then she moved 2000 miles away to live with a guy she had known for 3 months online playing WOW and has been living off unemployment since then.
It was always one of my biggest goals in life to own a home and a few years ago I was very proud to be able to make it a reality. About a month ago, my sister told me that she was planning on buying a house and eventually selling it to make money. I thought this was silly, partly due to her being unemployed and partly due to the economic housing situation, but I kept quiet because if I tell her not to do something, she just does the opposite. Since I had been through the process not too long ago, I offered her any help I could give her if she wanted it. She declined. Not long after that my sister told my brother she was turned down for a mortgage loan. She didn't tell me or my dad, but told our younger brother which irked me but I understand why.
I decided to go back to school with the goal of getting my NP eventually. After I told my sis about my plans, a short time later she announced to everyone her plan to go to school to become a PA. I have made the suggestion to her in the past that she could become a nurse, but of course she would rather do anything else but follow in my footsteps.
I really hope she becomes a PA, I've always wanted the best for her and it kills me that she has so much potential but has been wasting it. Anyway, does anyone else have a family situation like this? I'm just wondering where all her competitiveness comes from and would like to hear about others who have dealt with this. Thanks.