I guess part of the reason I am asking is because I do suspect we are not compatible. I also start nursing school in August and I know we are not supposed to have any dramatic changes in our life. I understand each person is an individual and if you love someone you love all of them. However, some of these items I was not aware of until recently and we have been dating for 3 years.
The boyfriend and I met back in 2008 on Myspace because ironically enough we went to high school together but did not know one another. At the time we started seeing each other he lived in Wisconsin and I lived in Florida. To give you the cliff note version, I ended up getting pregnant and he convinced the job to let him work remotely from Florida. I did not find out until he was on his way down to Florida in Oct. 2008 he was still married although separated for many years. I then had a miscarriage, went into end stage renal failure, and was put on PD dialysis. There is other stuff he has hidden from me such as contact with exs and comments he has met to his online buddies. I would not find contact with an ex a problem except it was hidden from me...purposely...and because the contact was a joke text asking her DTF? The females however decided to send me a copy of what he sent to them to me. I guess they didn't think it was appropriate either or maybe wanted to cause problems. He also had pictures and letters from exs up until the blow up about 2 months ago.
The second thing is the constant referral to his exs. I have never compared him to any of my exs and he threw in my face that one of his exs gave him blow jobs every morning before work. Same ex bought him an expensive watch, spoiled him rotten with gifts, and drove a Cadillac. I was excited about being able to wear cute scrubs and get a light blue stethoscope and the response was about how the ex had a $500 stethoscope with tons of different scrubs. I have a heart plaque in my living room his wife gave him for Valentines day that I have to look at everyday.
I should not know his sexual relationships other than whether he was protected when having sex with them. It has affected the sex life and will continue to bc I can't get his comments out of my head.
I really think our sense of humor is very different. Maybe I am more mature or need to lighten up but when he tells me that the single guys on his forum are trying to get girls on a christian dating website to give up their morals and sleep with them I am repulsed. I also found where he asked them for a pick up line on how to get a hot girl in the mile high club when he was on the plane. I was not amused in fact I was so mad I was shaking.
I like to think of myself as pretty easy going and friendly. I would give the shirt of my back to someone and he is not like that. I wanted to get braces to correct the little gap I have in my front teeth and he needed to get his front teeth done bc they were really bad. So I forked out $4000 and got his teeth done bc he didn't have the money and bc he said I acted like I wasn't committed. I can't tell you how many times I have been told I am selfish while in this relationship.
Now don't get me wrong I am not an angel but I am a good unselfish person. I know I can do whatever I set my mind to and I know without a doubt in the world I am going to be an awesome nurse. I am a very strong individual not just bc of all my experiences and conquering a kidney transplant but bc I have a strong will to do something good and meaningful in my life.
Don't get me wrong, he is a good guy. Our relationship sucked while I was going through dialysis but we reconnected after I had my transplant. I was Ms. Second Place the entire first part of our relationship and didn't really see it or know how to deal with it. Now however, I won't be Ms. Second Place bc I deserve more.
I guess I don't want to end up being Ms. Rose Colored Glasses.