We started taking our children out to restuarants at a very early age. We began with family friendly establishments. Even at those places, rules were rules and I always took things along for distraction. As they grew, we went to more upscale restuarants and they were always well behaved. We always received many compliments on our childrens' behavior.
Once, on a trip, I stopped at a fast food restuarant. The older two were given very explicit instructions on expectations for behavior and the consequences if they did not comply. The place was very busy, and lines unusually long. As things would happen, the two "broke" a rule. I told, okay, that was it, we were leaving. Begging ensued and I was not dissuaded by grandiose promises. They were quiet as church mice for the rest of the trip. We did stop and eat about 30 minutes, no misbehavior anywhere in sight. What they still don't know is that the first place we stopped had lost power!
Never had any problem with them on planes. Again, a little planning went a long way. They could always pinpoint bad behavior and would ask me why that mommy didn't make their children behave.
Lately, I've witnessed more bad behavior by adults than children.
BTW, love John Rosemond.
I cannot condone a person slapping a child, whether a parent or someone else. I've seen too much abuse in the hospital. I have left stores with a screaming child and had to go back later for my items.