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  1. carolmaccas66

    This just makes me cry :-(

    I have to say this - the mother is partly to blame. She put up with domestic violence until it escalated in the most horrible manner. This is what happens when women put their boyfriends first and not their children. I used to work in child and protective services and saw and heard many, many sad cases as bad as this, where the women were ALWAYS protecting their bf and NOT the children, then wondered why the kids were taken off of them! There is a lot of help available to these women today, I honestly think there is no excuse for these women - they say they are in 'love' their man and don't want to leave them. These women are delusional and live in a fantasy land of 'my man will change one day' (they never, ever do). My niece is a like this and it concerns me that so many women are like this. Well, if they are letting their children be harmed, unfortunately they will suffer the consequences. That poor child did not have a chance at a smidgeon of a life - mostly because it sounds like his mother failed to protect him. She states she 'feared for her life & that of her unborn child' & he was 'shoving her around'. So he was like this BEFORE the child was born from what I can gather - & she still chose to staye with him. I'd rather live in one room with my child in a shelter than be with a man like that. If that is love in these women's opinions, then I'm really, really glad I'm not in love. My Mum has always said anyone who interferes with, or who touches children in any way, or who murders children, should be put to death. I'm thinking as I get older that she is so right - then they couldn't do these awful things again. It's all just too horrible to think about.
  2. Another person who has been duped by all the fab law shows that are/were on TV (a bit like nursing/medical shows). Sounds like she needs someone to blame due to being unemployed, and others are willing to support her. All she needs to do is have a cry, bite back the tears after a while and go and find another job. But I suppose it's a law job or nothing for people like her. Maybe working at Wendys or a fast food job would not suit her. Think she needs to grow up a bit and start acting like an adult, not a whingey cry baby. And I myself have NEVER seen an institution here or overseas absoluetely GUARANTEE ANYONE a job when they finish. Normal people know it's pretty much hit and miss.
  3. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    I had to laugh when I read this! Yes it seems the opposite doesn't it? But I do care about the obese kids, struggling to walk to school, and I do care about other people who are obese and in denial. One of my best friends is headed for a serious MI or something of that nature - as she is so obese she can hardly walk. But she's in denial about it all, she has 3 kids and her hubby can't do anything. I don't WANT to see someone I know dying from obesity or having a massive MI, but she has chosen to be this way. We all (mutual friends I mean) got sick of trying to help her - and she begged us for our help, & we all rallied around her when she tried to commit suicide twice (that we know of). I was the only one who turned up at her bedside the last suicide attempt, cos everyone was sick to death of her. It've counselled many obese/anorexic patients. I would not do this as part of my Mental Health Grad Dip if I didn't like it. I don't want to see the next generation of kids in hospital with bad knees, diabetes, hypertension, and whatever other disease comes with obesity. I think not enough people care TBH. And I don't care if someone is overweight - you can of course be a good nurse if ur overweight - I just don't like the 'poor me' and whiny attitude that goes along with their overweight condition. Go and be overweight or obese if you wish - the choice, as I've said before, is entirely YOURS.
  4. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    My last word: I do not care a fig if you are obese, or fat. If you can nurse and you are obese, great. If you're happy being fat/obese whatever, good for you; I really mean that. Just don't come to work and tell me you have tried everything (maybe you have), and whine endlessly that you can't do this or that. I don't accept that - look for another job that fits in with your lifestyle if you can't do nursing (I don't include other jobs in this). Eating junk - and overeating as well - causes obesity, and not exercising makes people fat. There are other causes as well too numerous to list, (no-one has denied that on here as far as I can see). Everyone has issues with their weight from what I've encountered. I think we all pretty much struggle. I gain weight when it's cold and lose weight in the summer, and I've always been like this. Some people have realistic ideals re weight loss and being happy with how they look, others struggle such as anorexics. Most people can balance their intake of food (I DO NOT state there is 'good' or 'bad food'), and can exercise it off, some can't due to disease processes. We can all control what we do or don't eat. If you put food in your mouth, YOU are responsible for that food going in there, no-one else. It's not daddy's fault cos daddy didn't pay you enough attention; it's not mummy's falut cos she was always out working so you comforted yourself with food, whatever happened has already happened. Bad things happen to people such as abuse and that is very sad. People will ALWAYS have issues surrounding food, but as you get older, taking responsibility for your life and your precious body IS a big deal - and we as nurses tend to enable people to stay in their comfort zones and not move out into the big, bad world. Bad things still happen when ur an adult and we have to enable people to deal with these issues as best as they can. If people took more responsibility for their lives as they get older, and valued their bodies, maybe we wouldn't have these problems. NO-ONE is responsible for being overweight anymore, it's always someone or somethings fault, never our own. We have become a world of 'blame something else, maybe genes?' cos I'm not going to say yes this is my doing, and I need to change my lifestyle but I really don't want to and I really can't be bothered. NO-ONE IS MADE TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR BEHAVIOUR ANYMORE! and I think that is really sad. There are more overweight kids that you can actually SEE going to school etc, and who have diabetes, hypertension etc (according to news reports down here), than ever before. Kids never had these illnesses before. When people make the effort to exercise and find one they like, they become happier and healthier. They may not all lose weight at first, but they will tone up and their life improves. They can reduce/cease hypertension, diabetes - this is all proven fact. Takeaway/takeout outlets are more numerous and the population of fat people has risen since these have been introduced. People hardly cook anymore - we are all too busy. People used to sit around the dinner table and talk re their problems at the end of the day. We don't do that now. Everyone works and has their own schedule, problems don't get aired, tensions increase which leads to other problems. Most shiftworkers eat bad - that's not news. No-one on here has said anyone deserves to be fat that I have read, and no-one on here has made fun of fat people. Parents need to take some of the blame for making kids fat. I have seen numerous parents I have known or out at the shopping centre, stuffing hot fried chips into their kids mouths and drinking really gooey, sickening Wendys shakes. If you get kids used to the taste of fat and salt, that is what they will crave. Better go as work is calling.
  5. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    I'm glad you put this on here. You are a person/nurse with a conscious. You admit you struggle with your weight - who doesn't? And this poster wasn't 'judging' anyone. He/she has to keep apologising for not wanting to offend anyone because she's told she's judgemental. I don't see one judgemental statement in this. She is simply sharing a story, and she STILL gets judged! And to all the doubters about the obese and how they got that way, just do what I did today - walk around the supermarket looking at everything obese people put in their trolley. Hang outside a McDonalds where I went to stop and drink a coffee, and you'll see that 90%+ of the people who go in there are fat, and so are their children. They are obese (dare I use the word fat?) because they eat junk++ and don't exercise. There is no magic formula to losing weight, as different thinkgs work for different people, but no-one on here has said other things do not contribute to gaining weight. We all know we get stressed out, eat too much, don't exercise when it's cold, etc. I couldn't give a hoot if someone's obese, but if you're going to say being obese is caused by chemicals or whatever, can you put a link on here so I can read the up-to-date research to try and change my mind? It would be nice to see some back up of what people are saying re this. And we shouldn't focus on weight so much, but trying to be as healthy as we can. I've known many bigger girls who were great nurses/workers, they were just big girls who exercised and were healthy despite their appearance. As my old orthopaedic doctor said: you can't lose weight off your bones! But when you sit in a chair, and your knees are aching, and fat is spilling out everywhere so your clothes or shoes hardly fit anymore, all I can say is: take a look in the mirror and really, really think about your health and where you want your life to go. And this isn't being judgemental - it's stating the truth. And obese people DO NOT like people telling them the truth, even when they ask for it. And please don't tell me that obesity is not a choice - what, stuffing food into your gullet is NOT a choice? What is it then, if not a choice? And stuffing your kids faces with junk is not a choice either? Not very responsible parenting is it? OK I'm off topic now, I'd better stop.
  6. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    The Dalai Lama said something once like: You can choose to be happy or unhappy, it is entirely up to you. This applies to everything else in ur life. To me, I can either choose to be obese or not obese, I can choose to lead a healthy lifestyle or not, I can choose to be happy or unhappy, bad tempered or good tempered. I can choose to eat junk, then decide if I want to exercise it off, or sit around, and do absolutely nothing. You can take into account medications making you gain weight, but that does NOT stop you being healthy. People CHOOSE to be obese and unhealthy. Having worked with anorexics and on the bariatric level in psych, I see that people don't really want to change their lives. They have to WANT to change if they want to tone up, lose weight and feel better about themselves (and after they do change, they always feel better emotionally and physically). Irregardless of what I or anyone else thinks, obese people must want that change for themselves. And I don't take excuses for being obese at work, if someone can't do their job, if they're puffing and panting and their knees hurt. They live in denial, and if they can't do their job, I'm certainly not pandering to them and doing it for them, and I'm not going to baby them either. If you can't do your job because you're obese, you really need to take a long, hard look at your life and decide on some small changes at least. If people can do their job and are obese, I don't care. That is their life CHOICE, not mine.
  7. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    I really need to ask this: is there any national, ratified study with proof that genetics causes weight gain, or contributes to weight gain? I see this as another reason for being overweight and/or obese. Has anyone got a really good link I can follow up on?
  8. carolmaccas66

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    I cannot believe the amount of excuses touted on here for people being overweight, or the studies done that basically say 'being obese is OK, obese people should blah blah...' I can't believe people are still in denial about their weight. It's like the big people are looking for ANY study or excuse to say it's OK for them to be big! And as to medications causing weight problems, my gf's thyroid gave up 10 years ago, and she TOLD ME HERSELF that she only put on about 5-10 kg, so instead of leading a healthy lifestyle and maintaining a good weight for her, she gave up instead, and just eats c**p now, doesn't exercise, still smokes, etc - her hubby & daughter are just as bad. She denies any depression. I had not seen her for about 20 years and was appalled at all the junk she was eating, and shoving into her mouth. She'd just done shopping and her cart/trolley was full of stuff you fry and frozes meals. She also told me her 10 year old daughter is now overweight too but didn't seem really concerned about it. My gf also has joint problems now and denies her weight is causing it. The medication excuse is just that: I'm on meds and that's why I'm overweight. Sure you may put on some weight, but that does not stop you leading a healthy lifestyle and exercising. I'm on meds but I never use that as an excuse for extra kilos. I always gain weight in winter (less exercise), and lose a heap in summer. You only have to look at obese people to know they aren't healthy. I was standing beside a huge woman the other day, and she could hardly stand or breathe for that matter. I felt sorry for her, but unfortunately this is what happens when people don't look after themselves. I believe you can be a bit OVERWEIGHT and be healthy, but being obese is an entirely different matter. And I've worked with obese nurses who sat down a lot inbetween duties, c/o sore feet, sore knees, etc and don't seem to register that it's their weight that MAY be causing it. And I resent obese people sitting down when I've asked them to do duties, which I have to end up doing myself because they can't see that their weight is slowing them down. And peoples, you can't sit down in nursing! It's not going to happen, or will rarely happen so don't get used to it! I think too many people live in denial re their weight and don't want to make even the slightest change to their life. And you don't have to make too many. My Dad knows one man who just cut all his intake in half and lost 50 or 60 kgs in one year. He didn't make any other changes to his lifestyle except walking for half an hour neary every day. His BP went down and he felt healthier. I just get fed up with the obese nurses - and obese people - moaning and complaining to anyone who will listen: I was born fat, I don't know how I got like this, I don't like being overweight, it's my glands that cause this, God my knees hurt!! - excuse after excuse. It's like they are all little babies who we have to pat on the back, and lie to, like: Don't worry, your weight isn't the problem, I will do your work for you, that's OK. And I'm really tired of the obese nurses/people who come to work and whine in my ear about their weight - unless u want some REALLY fair dinkum advice - I will give it to you straight and tell you that you need to lose weight, tone up, and for starters stop blaming everyone else for your weight problems. I will always help people who are motivated, but the whiners and baby whingers need to frankly grow up. You are an adult now, not a baby and your life may never be perfect, but losing weight and/or toning up isn't going to hurt you - in fact, it will very probably help you. Even toning up and doing exercise you enjoy is the key, even if you don't lose a lot of weight at first, you're still doing something to enhance your life. Being healthy is the key, it's not just about losing weight - but we've all been brainwashed into thinking you MUST be a size 10 and be super slim to be healthy! If you're obese and can't handle the rphysicality of nursing, either get healthier or get out of nursing.
  9. carolmaccas66

    have you found Jesus?

    4got to say you can also say something along the lines like it is really none of ur business (and it isn't) but in a polite way, ie: I really don't discuss my personal business with people I don't know well, perhaps.
  10. carolmaccas66

    have you found Jesus?

    Do not get into religious dicussions with patients - ever. I just say I don't discuss things like this at work as people can be offended if u don't agree with their views. I also don't get into political discussions either. State the above, and keep changing the subject. If they try to witness to you, politely smile and just change the subject - they will get the message eventually. And let's face it, if you give a religious and/or fanatical person an opening, they will take it. My brother is a JW and they are trained in how to deal with any answers people give them and how to witness to them. It is a form of brainwashing to a certain extent. And DO NOT tell them ur happy to listen to them outside of work! You're only giving them an opening to come round & witness to them. And if u give them ur address 2 visit u, you are just asking for trouble. They will hound you to your grave, unless that is what you want. U also must think of ur own safety - many people use religions etc to get into people's homes to have a look at what they have, then people find the get broken into later on. I certainly would not be letting strangers into my house personally.
  11. carolmaccas66

    Mindless Eating at Work

    Have a good, filling, nutritious meal at home b4 going to work, that helps stop hunger later on. I found that when I was on call, I used to grab say a pie and iced coffee b4 rushing off to work, but I tried not to do that when I had time to cook and eat. Or I would keep peanuts/cashews and sultanas in a little plastic lock box to eat. I also ate tubs of fruit or brought fresh fruit and low dessert rise snacks to work. Also put a little lime juice in ur water bottle and that helps with low blood sugar as well. I personally don't get hungry much at work when I'm running around, so it's never really been a problem for me. Try to take proper breaks, or demand to have a proper break so you can have a proper meal or snack - you are entitled to it despite what ur NM thinks or how busy it is.
  12. carolmaccas66

    Christchurch Quake

    Hi yes my friend is OK, thank goodness. She works in Christchurch, and was in a shelter. They still have no power, no running water, it's cold and they have to use portable loos and line up for water. I doubt that the city will be re-built as it was in it's entirety. The structural foundations are too badly damaged. I moved to another Aussie state recently and was c/o the cold last night, then I felt ashamed - those Kiwis have it worse than us man, so I shut up and just put a jacket on. 165 dead so far according to recent reports :(
  13. carolmaccas66

    Christchurch Quake

    300 people are now missing. My friend is one of them. I so, so hope she is OK. The quake victims have been told not to use their phones, just to text. I suppose many people lost their phones in the quake and just had to run for safety. I'm watching our coverage of it in Oz - it looks like a war zone. One guy got out of his car, went into a shop to grab lunch, then was going to go back to his car, and 30 seconds later the quake hit and his car was destroyed! Lucky he wasn't in it. Just awful and so sad.
  14. carolmaccas66

    Christchurch Quake

    I have a friend who moved there. I've emailed her but have heard nothing - not suprising. But I hope she is OK. I've worked with many Kiwis and they are all lovely people. It's all just so awful that this has happened so close to the last quake. They have hardly taken a breath and recovered from the last one, then this happens.
  15. carolmaccas66

    Christchurch Quake

    Please think of the nurses and doctors on standby - and the ones being flown in - to all the hospitals in NZ, which has just been devastated by a massive earthquake. 65 people so far confirmed dead. Dunedin hospital currently being prepared to accept casualties. Say some some prayers for everyone please.
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