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  1. Good point. Thanks to everyone for all your advise.
  2. Hello everyone, thanks so much for your support. I am now doing very well. Things have changed in a postive way, and moving in the right direction. All your advise has been very help and kind. Once again thank-you. Take care everyone.:yeah:
  3. Hello everyone, I can honestly say that the hardest part of my life right now is my marriage. I am in the process of getting my license I have completed the first part just have to get comfortable driving so I can do the test. If my spouse has to take me anywhere it's a huge deal. It's heart breaking. I go to work and come home that is my life because I don't drive. For example I felt like going out for a nice meal just for a change and he made such a big deal I just said forget it. I'm so independent I don't ask for anything just a little help with transportation. I just don't know why this is happening to me, I haven't been married long and I wish I could turn back the hands of time I would have stayed clear of this situation. What should I do?
  4. Hello everyone, I would like to say thank-you for all your great advise and encouragement. I have made it a goal to get my license. I also agree that my spouse she not be my only source of feedback for advise or support. I don't have a lot friends because I am very sensitive and I tend to keep to myself. Thanks again.
  5. I would like to thank everyone for all your great advise. Yes getting my license has been the one goal I have wanted to fulfill in a very long time. When I was younger in my teens I got my license but I had no car to practice driving so when the time came to renew my license I lacked the experience to pass the renewal test. I have made a decision to go back and get my license. I am not sure if this will improve my marriage because there are a lot issues. I will make it a goal to start getting lessions ASAP. Thanks everyone for everything. It's amazing I have overcome a lot obstacles in my life but getting my license seems to be the greatest one. I also find myself being envious of other peoples marriages for example husband and wives that do things together. My spouse and I don't do a lot activities or travel. Believe me I have suggested several things he's never interested I really feel like I have wasted time being married and not having my license. Everything else outside of those two factors are amazing. I am very independent I don't rely on my spouse for anything other than drive here and there but even thats going to change. It's time I took back my life, I have taken a back seat to happiness long enough. Great things are happening around me but I have no way of getting involved. I don't know if my spouse and I can move forward from this I am very disappointed in him and us, he has changed my perception of him and once thats changed it's hard to go back. I mean simple things like asking him for an electronic item he says I don't need it. I have received flowers once, no gifts, I pay for everything outside of bills that we split fifty fifty, so whats the point. Thanks for allowing me to vent this morning.
  6. Hi everyone, I am so happy for this communication outlet. It's a great place to vent and get great advise. My question is do you thinks life's circumstances forces us to make decisions. For example I remember when I finished university and started my first job I the disagreements I had with my mother became more frequent to the point where it became difficult for us to live in the same home. So I got my own place and the rest is history. I have been postponing getting my drivers license for the longest time, in fact I purchased a car which my hubby drives. But as times goes on it's getting difficult to have hime drive me places so I often miss out on shopping for household items or shopping for clothing or simply going to the mall. In fact when I ask him for a drive he simply says No or gives me a drive when is upset the whole time. Well I wanted to go for groceries after work and I asked him if we could stop for groceries on the way home and he got upset stating he's tired and he doesn't know what I do all day but he works. So long story short groceries didn't get done. Also I can't remember the last time I went out for dinner or a movie, or did anything fun for that matter. I pretty much pay for all household items, we split the bills even and take turns on groceries. I buy things for him, he'll buy things for me if I ask but will not volunteer. He cooks and helps with the cleaning. So I have come to the conclusion that life is telling me to get my license and move on from this marriage as it is going no where. I guess my only think is I really don't have a support network. I keep to myself I pretty much work and come home. But I am a strong believer in God and I feel whatever decision I make he will see me through. I welcome your thoughts.
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    It's like having a sibling all over again

    I would like to thank everyone for your kind words of encouragement. I have tried to communicate with my spouse but the minute I raise my concern he becomes defensive. Forget counseling he's not interested. He thinks I have the problem. It's funny when we were friends prior to marriage we communicated very well and respected each other space when he got on my nerves I just ignored his calls. I decided to marry him because of his good nature, and at times funny sense of humour. He is also kind and respectful to others never showing anger. The problem is I like nice things, I like to travel, I like to go out to dinner, I like to go shopping and these are all expenses I pay for myself I don't ask my spouse for money. He pays half of the bills and I pay half we alternate for groceries. Not sure where to go from here. I know my spouse he will not buy a computer not when there is one in the house he can use. I guess I am tired of being responsible for all expenses outside of bills, I spend he saves.
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    It's like having a sibling all over again

    Hubby is short for husband.
  9. Hello all, I hope everyone is doing well. I have tried to reframe from complaining about this matter but it's getting on my nerves. My hubby and and I are both enrolled in courses that have assignments due. Both our assignments require that we study on the computer or write reports on the computer. A little while back I purchased a computer which has proved to be a great value. My hubby is always on my computer, In fact I have to ask to use my computer to complete my assignments. He doesn't get upset but gives me a look like I am preventing his educational goals. He keeps saying he is going to purchase a computer but doesn't he more than has the means to buy his own computer but prefers to save his money and use mine. I am not complaining of the same thing occures with the tv. I purchased a tv, and he watches more than I do, and if I want to watch something he gets annoyed, once again prefers to save his money and use my equipment. I have to keep a strict watch on my equipment if not he will not take care of it. I purchased a car, and he uses it more than I do, and he doesn't take care of it. The car is a total mess, and when I complain about the condition of the car he gets annoyed, he refuses to drive his car.
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    Signs you've given up on the relationship

    Hello all, thanks for all your encouraging words, kind words, and support. It is greatly appreciated.
  11. Hello all, I hope everyone had a nice holiday. What are some signs that one has given up on their marriage? I find that in the last several months I'm really not affected by the arguments we may have. I just feel tired, like there are so many factors that influence our marriage. I feel like I am second on the list, but I don't seem to care.
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    step-parents and the holidays

    wow, thanks everyone for all your great replies. I didn't think this area exist. I would love to know whats it like to be a step-parent. What were some of the challenges, emotions, joys, experiences. I pretty much I would like to know everything. Once again thanks the feedback is great.
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    step-parents and the holidays

    hello all, please share your experiences with step parenting.
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