Just read this post. I dunno..........I'm sensing you're giving us lots of excuses for him. You're letting him off the hook. Otherwise, you wouldn't have written this to begin with. It's pretty simple, really. You can go to city hall, or to your local JP - or do you have a favorite clergy person? They could come to your home, and you could have a small party there. Not being able to have big party is just not a valid reason in my book. As someone said, it's the marriage portion that's important, not the party. Just my 2 cents worth!