Here's the story and I will get to the question at the end:
I was out of town (about 4-5 hours away) on a weekend trip recently when on my final day of the trip my good friend sends me a text message asking me when I plan on leaving to come back home. I told her in about an hour I will head out and make the drive home and asked her what was up. She said her 3 year old son was throwing up all night and she needs to go to the store to grab a few things for him to help him feel better. As she put it: "It will only take 10 minutes." She said she obviously couldn't leave because she had no one to watch him for those 10 minutes while she ran to the store. She was also frustrated that no one was available to get some items for her from the store since she couldn't leave her son alone. She is a single mother and does not have a partner to help her out. Also, she is fairly new around town though she has her sister in town (whose baby was also sick at the time), a roommate, and a few close people from work. I have no children and I already had plans after my trip.
I sent her a text asking why she couldn't go to the store. She said her son is sick and ended it at that. Today, we started our conversation by her expressing how frustrated she was that no one was available to help her. I asked her if some of her frustration was directed at me because that was the vibe I was getting. She said she was very shocked and offended that I would suggest she take her sick son to the store. She said she knew I was traveling, but that it would have only taken 10 minutes for her to run to the store while someone watched her child or someone could have taken those few minutes to grab the necessary items for her. She mentioned that she was trying to be sensitive to the fact that I don't have kids and probably don't understand that you don't take sick children to the store because it's inconsiderate to expose others to the sickness. I said...WHAT? If I had a sick child and no one else to help me then of course I would run in and out of a store to get what I needed. I asked how is it any different than when grown adults go to the store all sick to get medicine if they have no one to bring it to them? Also, how is it any better that you have someone else watch your child while you go to the store since that exposes the person to whatever the kid has? If your child is sick then you do what you need to do is what my opinion is. This all balanced on a fine line of her being a terrible mother and me not understanding what it's like to have kids.
I don't think she's a terrible mother, but I personally stick with my opinion that if you have a sick child and you need to go to the store (and no one is available to help) then you go yourself with your child...in and out, get what you need. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Am I being insensitive to my friend who has a 3 year old? Was I supposed to come to her rescue right after my trip and watch her sick kid while she ran to the store? I'm not a mother so maybe I'm missing something. :confused: Please share and thank you in advance for taking the time to read this.