quote from http://www.riverfronttimes.com/2011-05-26/news/suzanne-venker-phyllis-schlafly-flipside-of-feminism/
Well, as my mother says, staying home is lots easier than WORKING, for those women who just don't want to work, lol. Psychologists say that some values tend to alternate and skip a generation. Maybe that's what's happening. There also seems to be a cycle in the USA of women gaining ground in politics, workplace, and finances, and then some movement coming along to criticize them and take away their power, and push them all back in to the subordinate homemaker role. Part of it follows the economy: Booming economy with lots of jobs ('20s, WWII, '60s-'80s) favors women working, and recession/depression makes the men antsy and then women get pushed back into that unemployed homemaker stuff again, "for the good of the children, and the Family." ("You'd do it for Fam-uh-lee"
except the townsfolk sing "Fam-uh-lee") But, it's really to take women out of the workforce so that men can have an easier time getting jobs, for which they might not be the best-qualified applicants, either.
The shrills can keep their SAHMammahood and perpetual servitude. Personally, I prefer the rat race. I love it, as a matter of fact. I'm a woman who decided at age 6 (no lie) that almost anything is far more intellectually interesting than motherhood and raising children. And I vowed pretty much at that point to never get trapped into either marriage or motherhood. I did marry, once, not until age 36. And I had a notion when I met that man at age 32 that I wanted a child, but he stopped that. So, no kids for me. And no real regrets. I still spit on most of the "traditional values, " because they are too restrictive and they look ridiculously limiting, to me. Someone gave us Protestants contraceptives so that we can get something done in life besides childcare and housework. ;-)
The problem that I run into now that I am divorced, is all the men I meet are very anti-marriage. And most of them are that way because they financially supported a SAHM and had too many kids and not enough money, and then cheated on the wife and wound up divorced and debt-ridden. And their traditional values are what sunk 'em.
Well, here's a tip: Do what engineers do: ONLY marry a spouse who is educated, and works outside the home, and earns something close to what you earn, and have none-to-one child, no SAHM, and if either of you brings assets or pre-existing children into the marriage, have a prenup. Then if you split up, there's is likely to be an equitable distribution, and enough assets to split that neither person goes away empty-handed. Those child support payments are enormous in some states, so limiting to 1 kid really keeps that manageable, too.