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  1. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    what do you mean by "gone?"
  2. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    Whether or not I've been heard doesn't matter. In the end, it's more important to me to make my stand than that everybody gets it. Some people never will, but I figure that's their problem, not mine. :D
  3. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    It does. The one at the head of the horse kind of looks like it's kissing him.
  4. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    Everyone chooses for themselves whether or not to follow...
  5. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

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  6. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    Exactly!
  7. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    You need to go back and read other posts. This has already been covered.
  8. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    People who post in this vein are generally so fixated on their prejudice of fat people that they completely fail to see their condemnation for what it is. NO ONE has even suggested that anyone who is fat should be "enabled!" The point that everyone is missing is that you can't bring that attitude of condemnation to the discussion, wrap it up in the guise of helping, and expect that fat people will embrace your words and feel supported to lose weight just because you say that they are not intended to offend anyone! Would you have felt particularly enamored of someone who exuded an air of disgust while they were telling you to quit smoking? Would you have found that helpful? Seriously? You say you are helping your husband to change his lifestyle. Do you beat him over the head with the fact that he is fat? Do you tell him that you don't get what the problem is, that all he has to do is to simply stop stuffing his face and exercise? I'm betting not, because if you did, he would be like most people and push back. And I will reiterate what I've already said a couple of times. Do you really think that most people, especially nurses, DON'T ALREADY KNOW what it takes to lose weight? "All you had to do" to quit smoking was put down the cigarettes, but by your own admission you didn't quit smoking until you were faced with a major health issue. You had to get to a point where there was strong enough motivation. How is that any different for those who need to lose weight? Let me make this perfectly clear, since some are still missing my point. I have NOT been arguing the "how" or "why" of losing weight, or that it isn't necessary. I have NOT been arguing that it's OK to be fat or that anyone should be "enabled" to stay fat. What I HAVE been arguing is the attitude (prejudice and condemnation), content (don't assume that fat people are completely ignorant of what it takes to lose weight, many of them know more than you do), and timing (it isn't necessary to constantly nag) of the information when delivered.
  9. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    It's certainly understandable that you think this way... ETA: I totally get why you feel the need to post things like you have, but for YOUR sake, I have some questions for you. Why do you feel the need to "tell them the truth" as you see it? Do you think that people who are fat don't know they are fat? Do they not have mirrors? Do many of them not have others in their lives who beat them down with it on a regular basis? Do you honest-to-God think that if it's as easy as you seem to think to lose weight, that there would be so many people in this world who are fat? Do you think that those people who are now armed with YOUR truth are going to instantly feel empowered to lose weight? How does it benefit YOU to tell them what you think they don't know?
  10. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    OMG! Why didn't I think of that?
  11. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    You didn't offend me at all, but I used to be offended at this kind of stuff and I can recognize offensive language. I know that you say you didn't intend to offend, but I challenge you and everyone else that has/would post this kind of stuff to really reflect and ask yourselves if really believe this kind of post is helpful. If your answer is no, then the only reason to post comments like yours is to make yourself feel better. If your answer is yes, that you think it's helpful, then I would suggest that you need more reflection and try to remember what it felt like for you when someone said these things. Because I'm telling you, and I'm sure that others would agree with me, that it's not helpful for others to feel judged about their weight. And intended or not, that's what your comments do. Like I said before, everyone struggling with a weight issue deserves to get to "that place" that you did without being pushed into it by "well meaning" converts.
  12. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    Good for you that you were able to lose weight. You can assess yourself as a nurse because you know yourself as NOBODY ELSE does. But you CANNOT assess anyone else because you don't know them. No one here has said that it's OK to be fat or that they are happy with it. You say that you were always defensive, and you imply that you had to get to a certain point before you could accept help and lose weight. I'm betting that some of the judgmental comments you've made here used to make you defensive and didn't help you. So why would you think that it helps others for you to make them now? Everyone else should have the opportunity to get to the place that you got to by themselves, without someone else pushing them. You said you don't want to offend, and you said "...but I had to say this..." Why? You have to know that you can't just say "please do not be offended" and that takes care of it. Some of the statements that you have made ARE offensive and you don't get a pass just because you said not to be offended. This "rant" as you call it has only helped you.
  13. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    I don't remember what you said specifically in your other posts, but this sounds exactly like the kind of thing that I've heard many people say who have never had to deal with losing more than a few pounds. Losing weight can be much, much more complicated than just WANTING to. I don't know a single person who would say they love being fat and would consciously choose to get fat. ALL fat people WANT to lose weight. But losing weight is hard for most people, and most of those who do manage to lose a significant amount don't keep it off, and even repeat the cycle over and over. What they DON'T want is the pain that comes along with the process of losing weight, and the depression and defeatist attitude that comes from having to work at it for sometimes a few years in order to lose it all. And that's if they manage to steadily lose it without any setbacks. So it's the pain that they avoid; it's not a lack of WANTING to lose weight. That's the Readers' Digest version, but you probably won't understand that if you've never had to lose a significant amount of weight and keep it off. And if you have, please spare us how you were able to do it (or know someone else who has) and everyone can do it if you can. We've heard it all before. Posts like the ones you have made don't help at all, and in fact make it worse for some people. So think whatever you want, but if you truly want to help (otherwise why bother), please keep these kinds of judgmental comments to yourself.
  14. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    but not the diabetic, or one with HTN, or the smoker, etc....???
  15. GM2RN

    Can a fat nurse be a good nurse?

    Your story reminded me that I've had the exact same experience...only the setting was different. Back when I was still working for GM, there was this guy who was sloppily dressed with his belly hung over the top of his jeans. I observed him as he sat in a chair watching the women walk down the aisle, and he made rude comments to every women who didn't measure up to his standards in some way, either with looks or weight. I remember being so disgusted that I will never forget this.
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