I don't know what this is............. vent, rant, opinions, a plea for guidance?! I just know you fellow nurses have some pretty good advice so I am asking again. : )
My youngest son is 19. He graduated 1.5 years ago from a technical high school. So theoretically, he could just jump right into an apprenticeship. (in the appropriate field, which shall remain nameless) In this terrible economy, there are not any apprenticeships. They are a thing of the past. So he has been chugging along, doing part time work, and getting by. I have to admit here that I have been letting him slide on things because I know once you start full time work, the opportunity to glide along in life with someone else footing the bill comes around never.
About 6 weeks ago I had some work done at my house. (in the same field as my son's) When the work was completed, I chatted with guy a bit. I asked him if they ever offered apprenticeships, jobs, etc where he worked. He kind of chuckled and just said a big fat nope. It was worth a try, right?
He called me a week or so later and said "my boss ok'ed me to have an apprentice, I need him to start asap. That blew me away, and my son started. That was ~ a month ago. I thought things were ok, but my son came to me today and told me that things ARE TERRIBLE. Apparently this person is the preceptor from HELL. He expects my son to know things which he does not. He flips out and yells and throws tools on the floor when he gets upset. My son feels like a PO*. Something I thought was a miracle is turning into a
It is NOT HELPING AT ALL that my son get hit on the way to work last Monday. He can not drive his car, and has to be driven to work like a 5 y/o. It is also not helping that this is a car that my mom gave to him before she died earlier this year. Also not helping is the fact that my ex used to treat him like this............. oh my goodness, this is a mess.
He fessed up to me today and I gave him a pep talk. He spent time studying today.
I guess my question to all here is........... would you let this continue? Is my son a big baby that should just get his **** together? Am I an enabling mom that wants to shield her son from harm? I have lost perspective on this ............. hence the asking for help. Thanks for reading............. rdsxfn