I too am weary of the never ending evidence that too many nurses seemingly cannot seperate their personal disdain for overweight persons from their professional requirement to treat all patients with unconditional regard. The shameless posts on AN criticizing and name calling their "fat" patients is embarassing and completely lacks in ANY professional decorum.
I am not obese. My family is not obese. When my kids were growing up we rarely had chips, dip, cookies, cakes, or colas in the house. My children perceived those things as "treats" that they got on special occasions or when they visited their friends. My husband and I believe in eating whole foods, natural foods, and at home at the table. I tell you this because I have an obese child. She is an adult now. She was thin as a child until her little polycystic ovaries came to life and then she started picking up weight at a remarkable rate, all the while she was actively skiing, playing soccer, playing volleyball, swimming, etc. Metformin has helped to stabilize this weight, but she has no success in returning to her previous "unfat" self.
When she had her child in the PICU at a major medical center having open heart surgery I actually overheard one of the ICU nurses refer to her as the fat, lazy, trailer trash mom at bed 4! Just think of that for a minute...that nurse didn't have to turn my daughter, help her up to the bathroom, or wipe her butt...she only had to treat her with kindness and respect...and she apparently couldn't overcome her own prejudices to accomplish that.
No, unfortunately, this will not be the last "fat" thread, because it is okay for people to dislike fat people in our culture. It is okay to ridicule them, and ignore them, to deny them jobs, and to laugh at them when they experience the same difficulties that every human experiences.
My mother was a nurse. She too felt that someone needed to speak "plainly" to my daughter about her weight and regularly pointed out to her that she "needed to lose weight". It broke my daughter's heart. Like so many of the nurses on AN, she felt that "somebody needs to tell her". She was not deterred by the thought that she is "told" that she is fat everyday by her peers in the school and by the mirrors in the bathroom, department store, and locker room.
When my daughter was 16, and lost all hope because of the relentless unkindness allowed in the schools, she cried out for help by attempting suicide. I had her hospitalized to develop a plan to address her psycho/social/emotional needs. I didn't bother to tell her grandmother...