Good luck! I guess I did a similar thing. The way my wife was "tipped off" was really nasty. Truly, what was reported to her was out of context, but I cannot get her to realize this. She is also going through a mid-life thing and things are really ugly. I stopped working at the hospital I was at, and now work at a different one. The hosp I was at I enjoyed very much, I had lots of friends/co-workers there. It kinda bothers me that "now I can't work there?"...Ummm, I can't agree with everything here. Access to my FB, phone, texts etc...I don't think so. She does "sneak" and try to find things. I am offended and bothered by it. She has gone as far as looking through texting history on our online bill statement. Honestly, it is having an opposite than what she wants. I feel as though "I may as well commit the crime if I am going to have to do the time..." Sounds wrong, but hopefully my point is taken. That is not building trust, that is NOT believing in someone, it seems more like motivating them to be good or stay clean for the worng reason. I have girls that text me, past classmates...I guess I could always just be rude and not reply. So yeah, now I work with several females, believe me I wish there were more guys around. This situation is NOT what led to all of this in my experience, it is just fuel for a fire that is already burning. SO, all women have to be my enemy in order to be trusted? Idk, but good luck to you. I don't know if I want to be trusted or married if this is how it has to be, getting too old for all the stress.