Most cats like butter, so that's what we have always used. Take the pill and squish it into a small ball of butter, just enough to cover the pill. Then place it in the freezer for at least 5 minutes, so it hardens. The freezing is because it's such a tiny piece of butter that when you handle it, it melts before you can get it into the cat, so it buys you some extra time. My mother likes to put this into the cat's mouth and hold it shut, and the butter helps the pill glide down the throat. MY personal trick is to simply put this piece of butter on top of the cat's front paw. You know how they hate being dirty, and with a buttery pill messing up their fur...a bath ensues, and during one of the licks the pill almost always ends up in the mouth by itself.
Now, as far as the cat "not liking" or being afraid of you, try this trick: IGNORE IT! I swear, it totally works. If you have a cat that doesn't like being around you, act like you could care less about it. Feed it, change it's litter, etc. But NO playing, brushing, talking, etc. Within a few days, the cat will be dying for at least a little human contact and will reach out to you. At first, just act like you're doing it a favor by letting it come up on your lap, but don't get all excited and pet the cat too much. After a few days, increase your affection and the cat will probably do the same.
GOOD LUCK! Cats are great, but boy are they moody!!!