There are many who DO believe in being responsible for one's actions and choices. Include me in that group. You and I figured out, and were willing to make it without someone else paying for our ticket.
I really, really, really do not understand why that is so difficult for some people to understand.
Some people might say that they admire me - and you - for making it on our own. But it is not to be admired; it is the minimum that should be expected of a person.