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  1. Accolay

    Great Moments in Capitalism ...

    Maybe people don't know what a "moral" is anymore?
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    auto loan rates

    You're thinking about a car the wrong way. It's a rapidly depreciating thing that give you transportation. It's not an asset. You will see the poorest people thinking that a new car is the height of wealth when it is the exact opposite. Instead, think of putting the money for that car in an account and calculate how much you'd have in ten years at 6% interest. +1 for buying a good used car with cash. But if there is no way anyone can dissuade you, loan rates are better from a credit union. Question: do you still have school loans?
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    What comes to mind when you hear Donald Trump ?

    When I hear about Donald Trump, I think of some of the worst delusional, demented, mentally ill patients I've had and the worst families I've ever had to deal with. I would like a Trump supporter to outline one policy that has come from this administration that will be successful for the United States as a whole. I read some of this thread and I thought it was talking about the current standing President of the United States? Who's Hilary Clinton?
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    Is The Overuse Of Plastic Affecting Lives?

    Plastics are totally overused and affecting lives around the world right now. Chances are that if you're eating any seafood, you're having a little plastic with that. But we ask for it: It's convenient. There is absolutely no reason why any of our package waste shouldn't be easily recylable or compostable. And the only way to reduce the use of plastics in this way is with regluation. And that will be painted by the plastics industry as the Big Government Nanny State telling everyone what to do and infringing on our God Given Rights and Freedom® to do whatever we want and pollute as we please. So it's hopeless until people actually see it as a problem. I have very little faith in humans, so I don't think it will happen until people are dying en masse, and by then, it will be too late. But don't worry, we'll be dead by then. Before you die, don't forget to apologize to your children and grandchildren since we couldn't be bothered to have our precious freedoms infringed upon to clean up our own garbage.
  5. I lived in Charleston for a little while. It was ok. They have hurricanes. Florida also has hurricanes among other things and will be underwater sooner or later as I hear. Have you ever thought of Ellsworth AFB? Beautiful country. I think South Dakota nursing pay isn't great, but the COL is really cheap. Also, I'll +1 for anything in Germany. I spent a little time there and it was so very beautiful.
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    Am I Mean?

    It might be mean to tell a guy that you're unsure of how your parents might feel dating someone who doesn't make as much as you or doesn't have his GED. But also, sometimes people need a fire lit under their ass to get things done. The argument isn't really about money at all. It's about goals and what you'd want if you took the relationship to the next level. You think this guy can do better and you want the best for him and for your relationship. You've already alluded to this: the guy is in his 30s and doesn't have his GED. What does that say to you about him? If it takes this much for a guy to push through getting his GED, does your crystal ball put up red flags for the future? Is the little voice in the back of your head whispering in your ear? A hard knock life is a very troublesome thing to overcome, but eventually you either do or you don't. What does he want? Is he comfortable with having a secure job a house and a car? Does he want more? Love is grand, but it doesn't always hold a relationship together. Say he gets his GED and you move in together, and he's comfortable with where he is. Will you then be bothered if he doesn't want to continue with a traditional or vocational education? What are his goals? What does he want to be when he grows up? What are your goals? He may already be leaps and bounds above where he came from by owning a house and a car. Are you comfortable with that or do you feel like this guy has settled? It may not really bother you now, but in a few years you might start to really resent it. And you have a perfectly valid concern- if he doesn't get his GED then he wont have anything to fall back on if he's fired or layed off. There aren't that many jobs available these days for those without at least a GED, and probably fewer in the future.
  7. Welcome to the real deal. This is life. Remember the end game. If you can get through this bit, you can get through anything. Certain parts of your life will have to be put on hold until this stuff is done. Money may be tighter, stresses higher. And the hard truth is that it's not going to get easier until after she's graduated, and even then after she's put in a year of work at her first nursing job. If you really care, and you want to make it work, keep the mantra that it's all going to be better in the end and know that her life isn't sunshine and daisies right now. Keep doing the house work. That work will go unnoticed because it's the bare minimum standard. You start getting points for doing more than the standard. You may feel neglected sometimes, but know that she appreciates it. People who are successful do what they have to do for the long haul to get the job done. That means that you don't really want to do nothing, because that would mean it's not congruent with your joint goal of making this work. If the relationship dissolves what will be your defense? "I was tired after work and didn't want to do anything?" Come on! Suck it up and do what you have to do to make this work. +1 from Leader on scheduling a few hours a week of together time.
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    Return my husband

    Five months is a long time to have no contact with your spouse. Regardless of why you kicked him out, why wouldn't you expect him to be moving on after five months of zero contact? Why didn't you move on? What did you think was going to happen? Did you think everything would be better without any conversation about why you separated? Sounds more like you both abandoned the marrage. See if your husband will attend couseling with you. If not, then I'm sorry, it wasn't meant to be.
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    My boyfriend is being a jerk!!! Help!!!!

    You know the answer, that's why you're here. You want validation. This dude should know better about your time constraints if you work together. He has no empathy for your struggles right now. He tries to guilt you for doing what you have to do. If this guy was really into the relationship he'd be supporting you more by doing something. Helping with laundry, bringing you dinner, helping you with the little things around the house or your car, grocery shopping etc. etc. If he's not doing these things, he's just not that into you and I think you should set him free... on the curb with the rest of the trash.
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    Why is everyone's username not their real name?

    Again, it wouldn't be hard to put two and two together if we used our real names. Just take my word for it.
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    Why is everyone's username not their real name?

    If we used our real names, there'd be some real grey area about HIPPA violations I think. People aren't necessarily breaking rules, but if we used our real names you could also figure out where we worked and it wouldn't be hard to put together which patients we were talking about.
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    Why is everyone's username not their real name?

    Really? Welcome to The Internet. This is a place where people can vent and discuss nursing issues related to real patients they've had in real work settings. Using usernames can protect our license and job.
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    Do You Suffer from "Taxitis"???

    I don't suffer from "Taxitis" only general laziness and procrastination.
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    BELIEVE IT OR NOT? It's just me.
  15. Accolay

    Make American Great Again

    Cripes. I don't know how I got here. Look, guys, you will not be able to persuade a die-hard DTJ supporter. This is a sample of the 30% of people who elected him he was referring to when he said: This is why elections matter. Focus on your circle of influence: Volunteer to assist in the 2018 elections. Look towards the recent Alabama senate election for proof. Help people get registered. Offer rides to the poling place. Votes matter. Hopefully those that stayed home and didn't vote since Bernie wasn't on the ballot recognize this and will come out in 2018.