I grew up with parents who never cut me any slack on anything, and I could never understand why. Now that I supervise adults, some of them older than me, who have been babied their entire lives, I understand the wisdom of pushing the baby birds out of their nest (although that analogy doesn't make as much sense, given that we're talking about your Mom). You aren't wrong and the day should come when your Mom can see this. I would counter her stories about what her classmates say with observations that you're sure that she, as your mother, knows you better than that and the classmates are making very superficial judgements. The bottom line is that your role in helping your mother through nursing school should be as a support, not a crutch. There's a big difference between the 2.