DirtyBlackSocks

DirtyBlackSocks

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DirtyBlackSocks has 2 years experience and specializes in Army Medic.

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  1. Don't know if it really counts as an accident since it was self inflicted - but in training when we were given saline bags to practice IVs at our leisure, one of the guys decided to fill his up with vodka. Showed up the next morning green as a leprechaun still puking his guts out.
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    You ONLY work 3 days a week!

    Good job for standing up for yourself. As a husband I often find that when my wife is mad about something she bites her tongue, and it all explodes later on. Keeping an open communication line over the negative sides of our marriage is probably one of the hardest parts of being married - nobody likes to look at their mistakes and short comings. That being said - every time she does open up and explode when she reaches a breaking point things fix themselves the next day, she empowers herself by speaking her mind - just as you did. It's the little things that matter. I noticed a lot of women on here categorizing standards into men in general - I just wanted to point out that as a man, and a loving husband, we are all not that bad. I pour my entire life into my family, but the most important thing in keeping my relationship strong with my wife is that we communicate our actions and how they relate to strengthening our entire families future.
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    I guess this would go under here? For parents on the forum.

    They actually smiled when they both said the gangs name at the same time - like it's some kind of cool game to be so in the know because you're a cop. One of the cops said "I used to fight all the time when I was a kid, I grew up in a rough neighborhood." So did I ******* - I was the only white kid in a gang ridden neighborhood and I spent about the first 14 years of my life scared witless and defending myself. Think I want that for my son? They side stepped around what Penal Code 422 is for (the law against threats and violence). It states that a threat must be made, but also that the person threatened must feel in danger of their lives. Cop asks my son "So how did you feel about the message on your phone?" My son "Well at first I was like - yeah right - but then I heard the second one (the one with the actual death threat) and got scared." They didn't write anything down, they didn't even have any paperwork with them. They handed me a piece of notebook paper with the departments address, phone number, the incident report number, and their names on it. The cops main deal was "I don't think there should even be laws against kids, I mean they're just kids. If they're doing this crap - your Principal should expel them, this isn't a police matter." I explained to the cops that I'm ex military - and I wanted to get something on paper, so that if this happens again and I go stomp a mud hole in the kids parents I won't look like some nut job aggressor who is over reacting. That's about as far as it went, the cops acted like I was wasting their time. Wouldn't even shake my hand when they left - and pretty much did everything the opposite of what I expected the law to do. I think it's time we moved to a more rural community, this inner city living brings up so many issues.
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    I guess this would go under here? For parents on the forum.

    We're getting the run around. Principle says it's an issue for the police. Police say it's an issue for the Principle. So frustrating - can't get a police report filed to even have anything on record that it happened. Principle did nothing but suspend the kids. Police confirmed both of these kids are gang bangers - in fact when I mentioned the kids last name they both spouted off the gangs name immediately and at the same time. So frustrating. Apparently the difference between "You gonna die." and "I'm gonna kill you." is the difference between a threat and nothing.
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    You ONLY work 3 days a week!

    Your husband sounds like he's a real piece of work. When I first got married - it took my wife and I a little while to get used to each others habits. She would always want to do chores around the house before she would study for her classes. I was the opposite - I set my priorities differently, and made sure all my school work was done before anything around the house was done. The flaw in that, is that studying for 12 hours a day left me tired and I wouldn't do much to help around the house - my wife got overwhelmed and almost had a nervous break down. So I started doing everything around the house - and man it gave me a whole new level of appreciation for her and what she does. Things are different now, and she's adopted my philosophy priorities: 1. Our son. 2. Our school. 3. Our house work. As I type this out there's a pile of dirty dishes sitting on the sink that have been there for two days, but who cares - school and our livelihood is more important. Anyway, I'm rambling. Tell your husband to nut up or shut up and start pulling his weight around the house. Just because you bring in a paycheck doesn't mean you're king turd. If he DOES get laid off, you should make him volunteer to shadow a nurse in ICU for a week - 5 days a week, doing full shifts. See how he hacks just WATCHING some one pull 13 hour shifts 5 days a week in a job like nursing. Good luck to you - but make sure you stand your ground on this one. Don't be an enabler. Marriage is 50/50 - not "I bring home a paycheck and you do everything else." EDIT: As far as books go. There's one called "The Love Dare" that my wife and I went through separately on our own as part of pre-marital counseling. It helped a lot - but it takes a commitment.
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    Gun control...

    I apologize to anyone I offended or made feel uncomfortable with this thread. It was done with the intention of getting statistical information around different subject matter - and I could have probably constructed the entire thread in a more productive manner. Staff, please close this up - I don't want anyone on the site feeling uneasy because of a discussion related to something on my account.
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    Gun control...

    I agree with all of your statements, if there is a better forum to post this discussion under I would like it to be moved as well. I posted it in here because I was looking for statistical evidence of undiagnosed mental illness among the general population - and thought those in the medical field may have a few leads to evidence on that.
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    Gun control...

    I myself have PTSD and Acute Anxiety Disorder so I know what the stigma is like. That being said - I was leaning more towards paranoid schizophrenics who develop symptoms at an older age, or undiagnosed bi-polar having fits of rage. I don't think that just because you're clinically depressed, or mentally ill - that you're inclined to violence. I do think that people who are more inclined to violence will not be able to discern right from wrong logically if they have a mental break, though.
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    Gun control...

    I think if I'm deranged enough to want to kill random people I'm going to do it in a more inconspicuous manner than opening fire in a public place like that - and if I am deranged enough to open fire in a public place like that I don't value my life to begin with.
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    Gun control...

    The only numbers I can find is that 2/3rds of Americans who are diagnosed with mental illness do not seek medical treatment. I do not know if it is possible to find a study that can definitively show how many Americans go undiagnosed altogether due to a stigma against mental illness in our society. Yes, liberals tend to push more towards gun control - and conservatives tend to push more towards honoring the right to bear arms. My Professors rationale is that if everyone had a gun, there would be no argument - and we would have a country that polices itself simply by fire arm intimidation.
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    Gun control...

    I've got a pretty liberal Professor for a Political Science course I'm taking - who thinks that all Americans should be allowed to carry a side arm, and that the end result would be a decline in crime. I disagree - even though I am not pro gun control, either. I'm trying to find articles linking to estimated numbers of Americans who suffer from undiagnosed mental illness, such as bi polar disorder - or other serious neurological disorders that would pose a risk. I think it's the best rebuttal that I can offer to it - and this isn't a graded project. I'm having trouble finding any information, though. I know it's out there, I'm just not looking in the right place or Googling the right phrases. Anyone want to lend some extra insight into this - or have a push in the right direction for where I can find this information?
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    I guess this would go under here? For parents on the forum.

    My son did fine in school today. One of the kids told him that the kid he reported went to juvenile hall and that they found out my son was the one who told because the principle told them - both are untrue. After talking with some police officers I'm going to definitely report everything to get it documented.
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    I guess this would go under here? For parents on the forum.

    Just a brief update. We took the voice messages to the principle this morning and were told it would be handled. Her response was "Usually it's more bark than bite." which I understand, but felt she wasn't taking it as seriously as it should have been. The student in question - who had the marijuana - is on indefinite suspension until things are figured out. I have spoken with police officers who live in our neighborhood, and everyone in the community who is not a gang member is going to be watching out for us and our son. I am waiting to see how my son did today in school to decide on escalating to a police report or not. I also have some spec. ops. military friends who happen to be in the area (within a 3 hour drive) that said they'd be more than happy to come talk to the family members if things don't die down. We have made it very clear to them that no physical violence is to happen - but you'd be surprised how intimidating law enforcement or military personnel can be when they come knocking at your door unexpectedly.
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    I guess this would go under here? For parents on the forum.

    I think police action at this point is over reacting. Depending on what terms I get out of the principle tomorrow I will definitely weigh that option though. Keep in mind these are 10 year old children.
  15. I know this is a nursing forum - but it seems to be quite active, and I'm trying to get as many opinions as I can before I go through with such a serious matter. So I'm going to go over what happened, and what I plan on doing - additional advice is appreciated from anyone who is a parent. Yesterday my 10 year old son came home reporting that one of the kids had marijuana and was showing it to him - we live in a gang member neighborhood, and this particular child who was showing the marijuana is actually 13 - but has been held back numerous times. His parents are split up, and both drug addicts (I have met them both as they live down the street). They've almost had their children taken away for a new born baby they had testing positive for meth at a hospital. I called the principle and notified her of the situation as soon as I found out about the marijuana. I thoroughly expressed my concern for my own son's safety - and this needed to remain anonymous. He was called to the principle's office over the loud speaker, had to make up a lie about seeing the nurse when he came back. Now his only friend is being harassed because they think he told. He feels terrible about all of this - which is understandable. He just now received two voice mails - of whom we know the origin - saying "I'll see you at school tomorrow, you're gonna die" and something inaudible. Unfortunately his cell phone was off at the time these calls were made, so his history shows no record of who the call was from - but him and these kids have history together, they used to be friends, and I know who it is. My PLAN is to go straight to the principle tomorrow morning with these voice mails and demand something be done. I've already told my son that doing the right thing is not always easy, and that if he decides to come forward and tell the truth about being the one to tell the principle there is nothing wrong with that. What I am concerned about is his safety, and being made an outcast at his school. It's a very difficult situation to say the least. I'm a U.S. Army Vet, and so my views on integrity are probably held to a higher standard than some people. Have I taken this out of line and put my son in danger because of my own personal opinions?