My daughter also was held back a grade. I also tried everything I could think of. We go to a therapist, I am in constant contact with the school and try to watch her like a hawk. But I can't be in the classroom or do the work for her. My daughter believed that she was going to the pass to the next grade and get by with minimal work. Eventually that caught up with her and she had to redo the 8th grade. She was very depressed after that, all of her "friends" had moved on to high school. This August she will start the 9th grade, I will stay behind her as much as possible. At some point she will have to realize that it is up to her. I can only help if she lets me. I don't care what anyone says, it is not easy!