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renerian

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    Cheerfuldoer, this is for you!

    Love the pictures and thanks for sharing! renerian
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    Motherless Daughters

    To Grace and Blue Eyes, I consider both of you to be people of strong moral character and both of your posts moved me to tears. Blue Eyes, I read your post and can see you are a very strong person who has suffered and worked through tremendous emotions. I don't know if traumas of that nature are ever solved or completely dealt with since the scars are so deep, but I can see you have thought about it so much. Grace, wow yours actually made me think!! My parents both died at 67 (years apart due to the age difference) that now I think I will be considering that aspect when 67 comes LOL. I can imagine how hard it was for you being so young. You are indeed very strong. I am going to the library website in our area and find that book. Thank you for the original poster for starting the thread and thank you to those who commented on the book as well as those who shared their stories. renerian
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    Motherless Daughters

    I am so glad I had the time I did to mend fences with my mother. It was a blessing..... Hugs, renerian
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    Motherless Daughters

    My mom died at the age of 67 and was healthy as a horse but died of a necrotizing skin infection that went septic with DIC. Was a horrible death that none of our family was prepared for. I was in my early 40s. My dad died of cancer at the age of 67 also. HE died when I was in my late 30s. His death was alot a long drawn out terrible thing to watch. I still miss them so much. I never expected to not have my parents around in my early 40s. I have questions every day I would love to ask them. If your parents are alive, talk to them as much as you can. You are blessed. renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Thanks everyone for your comments and sharing of stories. I really appreciate the time you all took to share. renerian:wavey:
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Wow the stories are really emerging here. It is very interesting to read about other people working like I do to survive. YES YES I too am contemplating everything in my life. Where I have been, where I am going, how do I get there, what do I want to do with my life.....................everything. I agree, I too, am in the throws of a crisis. I too am not needing "toys" or other things, I want peace in my home, I want to work less and "breath.". I want to take more vacations ( I have had 2 in ten years). College costs are very high. We were spending around 20,000 per quarter for the 4 in college but I had to wipe out my entire retirement to help and now there is nothing left to do it :rotfl: and I thought it would be enough money.:chair: My kids all work and have worked part time during school and full time in the summer to help and their money helps but they all have loans on top of that. I had hoped to save them having loans like I did but that won't happen either. I drive a 99 car/praying it lasts and we don' t go out except once or twice per month........ Seems crazy to me. renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    mjlrn I think it sounds like your happy with the living arrangement and that is great. Thanks for the comments. renerian:)
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    I wonder if a huge change occurs once you see your children as adults, on their own and okay. I realize young people struggle. I remember having 2 kids by the time I was 24 but I see my second and third around the same age as I was and they don't see to realize that it is time to fly the coop. My three stepkids, all three, said they did not want to grow up? I don't remember ever feeling like that......while I did think I knew alot more than I did. I do hear that from quite a few parents that their kids don't want to leave home and don't want to even try to be semi self supporting. Does anyone have a clue why? I have read some on the topic and I read over and over it is a generational thing. I would not mind if things were semi smooth but the drama seems crazy. I am happy for those of you who are happy............ renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Grimmy thanks for your thoughts...............................glad you could go home and act adult enough to do the things you needed to do to move in the right direction. I do agree with you as having some times of financial stress/nothing basically is very humbling and leads to some self evaluation times for the person struggling. I can say at least for me when I was young, that is what happened to me. Thanks again everyone for the comments on this topic. renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Sweetie, Yes I can say at times I am confused. Whenever I feel like that I go to the library and get all kinds of self eval books to read which helps me. Gives me ideas on how to at least sort things out. Sorry your having a rough time. The coming up 50 mark seems to be my challenge.... renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    That is a great thing for you...............glad you stopped and posted. renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Does anyone find they are not where they thought they would be at almost 50? I thought my kids would be well adjusted, happy and independent. Now my kids are not teenagers, 25, 24, 23, 20 and 17. ( the younger I get/no problem). I hoped to retire by 60 :rotfl: . I thought I would have worked at one place as a nurse but family illnesses took me away into the world of home health and after 6 downsizings, I went to DME only to be layed off again due to Medicaid cuts. :crying2: Do you ever wonder if health care was not where you were supposed to be? Like someone with a higher power is trying to tell you something? I suppose it sounds like I am babbling but I guess I am so self-reflective right now. renerian
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    Oh I am sure any parent of teenagers does the crossing your eyes,rolling eyes, drop to your knees in prayer and crying quite regularly. I don't know which is harder since I am in the throws of midlife, to know if being a teenager OR raising children and having them here in your home when they are in the early to mid 20s? While i would never want to be a teenager again the world of "one or me" of a teenager is so narrowly focused but midlife is so global and much more complicated......more variables/players. renerian :uhoh3:
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    I am glad that some people felt this thread was helpful........Any other thoughts from the peanut gallery? renerian :wavey:
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    Mid Life wake up calls

    I used to feel I wanted my kids around longer when they were in their early or mid teens but the 20s is a whole new ball game. Especially when they make bad choices in life and it affects the whole family, their ability to survive and live independently. I think that bothers me more than anything. The exposure to college life, young peoples drinking and such is totally upsetting to me. I know not everyone does the college drinking thing but you know what alot do. It scares me to see the volume of young people drinking who are already in trouble with alcohol with regard to alcoholism. I wonder how that will affect our country? I still love them very much I just want their drama to go elsewhere. I thank everyone again for their input. I am enjoying reading all the input from people and their perspectives. renerian
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