First, I want to say I am sorry for all of those with less than understanding spouses-nursing is the hardest job I have every had where you truly get the life sucked out of you during a shift-physically, mentally and emotionally.
I was in technology for years-had to deal with customers, vendors and employees; ran an entire service division (technicians, warehouse delivery and personnel, inventory control, dispatch, contracts, supplies.....and on, and on, and on) as the only woman manager in the US for years....lots of stress and aggravation....70+ hours per week....work on vacation....company kept merging with others.....then DOWNSIZED! They had to split my job up amongst several people-SEVERAL PEOPLE! Each got one component....hmmm
Along with many tech managers who found themselves unemployed I couldn't find work anywhere....I could've returned as a field engineer; but had lost my up to date skills and would have to return to school....decided on nursing as a sure thing and an avenue I'd considered as a youth. I thought I'd be able to work 4 or 5 days per week...no problem...didn't I work 70 with ease?
NURSING IS THE HARDEST JOB I'VE EVER DONE! Working 3 shifts far surpasses any aggravation, physical labor, mental exercise, or emotional drain I ever encountered during my long time in the business world! There is nothing like it....no where....no how!
My husband used to make comments until one day I lost it and told him no matter how many hours he worked and was tired....the end result wouldn't be that someone died, got worse, or was permanently injured because of him and any mistake he made.
I met him in the techie world....a computer...system...hardware....customer relations...whatever can be repaired and if not...no one died because of a mistake.....NURSES HOLD THE LIVES AND WELFARE OF THEIR CLIENTS IN THEIR HANDS DAILY....NO other job even comes close! He backed off and has never said another word.
He knew how hard I worked before, and I truly believe after experiences caring for my FIL and mom he has seen what good nurses do....working a full shift, then spending the night with family in the hospital....then working again! He has seen me during a shift in the ER; observed as his dad was held for 18 hours while we awaited placement in a room. Too bad all husbands and wives can't see their wives/husbands in action and how they really "run" not walk all day long.
As for others who start with this you only work 3 days thing....I tell them become a nurse, then talk to me.....no one can understand....sigh....unless they are living it!
Hang in there....